Show SOCIAL ETIQUETTE How to Ice a Model Visitor A Beady Adaptability the Ixupotfsnt Requisite It is not an easy task to live in other peoples peo-ples houses to niter your own breakfast hour to sleep in au unaccustomed bed to eat at unusual periods to await tho hostess pleasure plea-sure about tho carriage to talk to the stupid son or daughter or to endure the brilliancy of the petted one It is a servile condition to 00 a visitor even under the most complimentary complimen-tary circumstances Thus Harpers Bazar sums up disadvantages which many n guest to country houses will realize in the coming season and adds the following hints to whoever who-ever may tempt the mingled pleasure and Klin of prolonged visiting The model visitor let us suppose is gifted with a ready adaptability she has just enough anecdote and not too much the exact amount of good looks and an absence of disagreeable dis-agreeable encumbrances If need be she may join the guild of tho guests for life To those childless homes where visitors are desired for company how often is she asked and how amiably does she comport herself 1 In these households more numerous than the uninitiated dream she is if she conform to certain common sense regulations received with open arms as n beneficent angel To this end she must first of all come when she is asked remain her stipulated time and cheerfully cheer-fully say goodby at its end Punctuality is ho first article in the code Never should a visitor presume on her popularity to keep people waiting Every family is entitled tots to-ts idiosyncrasy Ono host afraid of his coachman and he cannot bear to have the carriage wait another an-other is tied to tho breakfast bell another expends his extraneous activity in getting people to the dinner table A model visitor acknowledges these peculiarities and bends to them Is the sure to never abuse the weather i Certain hosts feel that they own the weather they are responsible for it A visitor should have a resource for a rainy day Model hosts are mortified if it rains or if it is too hot to show off their views or their greenhouses toe dusty to look at their improvements or too damp for a drive Never therefore when inn in-n country house abuse tho weather for your lost owns it Find something pleasant to say of even a prolonged drizzle Tho sensible visitor never notices the family jars If there is an antagonism over a door do-or a cat do not take sides Avoid partisanship partisan-ship about the tree which madamo wishes cut down and which monsieur swears shall not be Even very loving husbands and wives may have their occasional little frictions which it is the part of the common friend to quietly ignore Above all else let a guest beware of taking sides in the passing tiff which will subside of esi bil l unnoticed We can all abuse those wo love in a temporary tempo-rary fit of irritability but we do not like others to do so Nor must we see any defects ilI the servants of our friends Our self love is so sensitive it sends out so many tentacles hat ono cannot be too careful on these points In short if a visitor is not disposed to be sympathetic amiable agreeable self contained missed self possessed unselfish she would better stay at home |