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Show Ideas for Belter living . . People fteacv to Criticism Negatively by Dr. M. Ford McBride Timpanogos Community Mental Health Center A question I am often asked is what gives a person a positive self image. A major factor is other oth-er people. The development devel-opment of one's self concept con-cept starts at at birth. I worked with a child who was about five years old, he confided that How we feel about ourselves our-selves can also affect how we handle critical problems. A positive self image increases our ability to copy with failure. Without the psychological support of a positive self image, problems seem much more intensde and unyielding. The most important consideration con-sideration in changing our self concept is to remember that every person has the native equipment to be a winner in his own way. Dr. McBride can be seen every Wednesday on Channel ll's "Newsroom" at 6:00 p.m. If you have a question or topic you would like Dr. McBride Mc-Bride to discuss in his column, write: Dr. M. Ford McBride, 1161 East 300 North, Nor-th, Provo, Utah 84601. he hated himself and wantea to die. I found later that the ingredients of understanding, warmth and love werfe missing in the people who were responsible for him. The absence of these traits was reflected in how the child felt about himself. Psychological research shows that people's reaction toward us determines how we feel about ourselves. If a child is told continually that he is stupid and clumsy, he will think of himself as stupid and clumsy. Conversely, Conver-sely, if he is told that he is loved, his behavior will reflect that love. Our self concept can also determine whether we succeed or fail interpersonally. A friend of mine told me the other day that he felt so negative about himself that he found it difficult to get along with the people he worked with. He realized that his self concept was an enemy and not an assset. I If we regard people as I inept, inadequate, and nonproductive, non-productive, chances are we : feel the same way about our-! our-! selves. An important step in ' changing our self perception I is to change how we feel I about others. It boils down to i looking for the good in j someone and deemphasizing the bad. I i |