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Show Dorothy Dix Talks j I ! By DOROTITi' DIX. the World's Highest Paid Woman Writ ex ft ADAPTABILITY If A man who makes X-ray pictures 1 lays tliut he can tell married women from unmarried women by their nocks. H" declared that an unmarried unmar-ried woman's neck Ik tlft and rigid vnd has to be forced Into the desired pi (tfiod, v hereas a married vvonven's Urok is flexible, and easily falls into an;.- ro(. This Is not to be marvelled at, for the u .-K '.hu has worn the mntrl-monlsl mntrl-monlsl yoke Is a trulned nev.k. It has had the pride and stubbornness taken i out of It. and it has become supple through learning how to duck the! places that rubbed and galled. It does not take a worn in long to I find out after Phe Is married thnt he I neck muet either bend or break, and I If she has any intelligence whatever, she begins limbering up her mental and moral vertebrae until bhc -n tio double bow knots in all of her previous habits and opinions instead Of .standing up as uncompromi.-unjc BS a lamp post, and lotting mat.imonyi hammer her to pieces. Certainly, one of the missions of I mnrrlaK" Is to teach people adapta- blllty. No man and woman can go through that mill without having' their egotism and vanity ground to I powder, and without finding out th:U if they wish to live In reasonable j peace and happiness, they rau't learn to adjust themselvns to the people by whom they are surrounded, and the; circumstances In which they must live Instead of expecting to make over, the world and everyone in It to their i liking. For this reason, married people are nearly always more reasonable more amenable to argument, and easier to get along with than single people, j Nearly all fanatics aro old molds and old bachelors. They have never had to adjust their point of view to an-j an-j other and so there has developed in them a colossal conce.lt that make thorn believe that there Is no other Ride to a auentlon excopt the one they gee PerhAPS the greatest surpnso that ! matrimony holds for a man Is the I j fact tho.t he has to adjust himself to his wife, for every man's secret belief be-lief Is that he is marrying a lump of. j clap that he can transform into, his' own Image with a pat or two To his consternation ho finds that this! was a mistake, and that ho lav ... quired a life Dartner who bristles with ' swislbillties, and prejudices, and opln- ' Ions as a norcuplno does with aplks. and that he has to handle her witfl tfloves on jf he doesn't wish to bo eon-stantly eon-stantly impaled on her sharp points. Therefore. If he is wise, ho btudlc how to avoid getting stung. He IfSVroa how to evade the angles of her timper, how to side step her peculiarities; pecu-liarities; how to yield Jn the 6mall ' mutters that are so much to rv WO-man; WO-man; how to hun the topics thut are good for u family fight, and generally; how to stroke her fur the right way. ' It i- women however, who nrac j tically monopolize the adapting busi- j ness in matrimony, for few men ever think it worth while to take any spe- 1 olal plans to get along with their wives anreeablv Thev consider that it Is their wives' duty to ret alonx ; with them ThertJfeit a woman's success as a! wife depends to a hirgo extent upon) her ability to be whit her husband ' wants her to be Instead of tho sort! of a woman she is by nature Hhe may bo a homo-staying woman, he tho eort of a man who likes to gad, and i adores cabarets and restaurants. She f will lose him unlosti sho dolls herself up, and toddles with him. Hhe may have Tannhauser taste, he Anheuser Hhe must come to his level, for ho will hover climb up to hers. He ma 1 adord outdoor snorts, she loathe them, j It's up to her to dusldo whether she will be a golf widow, or tho hort of a wife to whom a man can talk golf, than which there Is no closer tie. It roes without saylntr thst tho atmosphere at-mosphere of a home Is of tho wife's making. She manipulates the barometer, barom-eter, and It is s placo of sunshine nnd ( aim. or a. perpetual storm center oc- cordlna to whether she Is stiff necked1 or suDpIo nocked. ' If ihe is of the rigid son who lays j down a sot of regulations f6r her hus-J band and children that are as un- IcablO as the laws of the Medos P and the Persians, that homo will be W' a place of terror which her famllv j will flee at overy chance. She wilt Bt. feel It hor duty to call their atten- By j tlon to all their faults. She will harp K.; I upon their vi-:i knes.'ies, and brluw B tlroni to book for their shortcoming . K' . j She will never b.ce that thev may be right from their standpoint if the i are wroncr from hers Bhs will neve- 8? make allowances for any tempera- 3" ment. or temptations. Br But If rhc has cultivated adapta-bility adapta-bility she makes her home a haven of love and Ufo within It a soft and W gracious thing. She gives tho widest H.'. liberty to husband and children be- ft". cause sh.- recognises that they have the line rights to their Individuality m as sho has to hery. Peoplo say that Js she spoils her husband because she g- calers to h:s whims and fancier, on I b meets him upon his own ground. Thev f do not see that she Is a philosopher fc; who has solved the problems of ho ff' to manage a husband, and make mar- r rlace a success. For it Is always she who can stoop, who conouers. ond the woman with tho flexible neck around whoso throat men hang strings of pearls. |