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Show j Dorothy Dix Talks HOW TO WIN A WOMAN'S HEART. By POKOTI7T DIX. The World -M Highest Paid Woman WrJtw I young man who is in love asks rje for a reliable recipe for winning a jnaiden's heart. This la a hard question 1o answer. There are many wo mm frith many ninds and each woman has h hundred minds about wbal ahe likes in a man. What pleases her one minute may h--.ro her the next What she longs for D0St she may tiro of as soon as she cets i. ho that any adviep that one nihrht gl p in the matte r It subject to endless change to suit the lime, the place, and the girl Then are orae roads, though, that ( nme so nearly to always loading to tbe feminine fancy that it sppms worth vhile to erect a few guide posts along tbem for the benefit of anxious lovers. Once. I was sent by the1 newspaper npon which I was employed to inter- I view a convicted bigamist who had twenty-four loving wives in various! parts of the country. He was a most ordinary and commonplace creature. , with neither good looks, education, a prepossessing manner, nor mono? with which to dazzle a woman's eyes and (apture her imagination Therefore it ,as with unbounded curiosity thai I . -kod him to reveal to me the secret i , which he had won so many female hearts. "Oh," he said contempuously, "it's dead easy to make- a woman fall m love with you. Ail you've got to do ia jusl talk her blind about herself " It was putting the matter brutally, but it was (he opinion of an expert, and there is undoubtedly much truth in the contention. Women do like to be talked to about themselves It is the one subject of which they never weary, and no matter how stumbling the tongue ton-gue that whispers paeons of admiration admira-tion in their ears, to them it is tipped with the wisdom of a Solomon and ihe eloquence of a Demosthenes. When girls are vers' young thej lik gross flattery about their eyes, their hair, their lips, their looks generally, .and they adore beinc told that the are the living image of Mary Pickford jL or Lillian Russell. Whfn ihe are older, and their tastes tas-tes are a little more subtle, they prefer pre-fer to be made to feel that a man is analyzing their thoughts, their emotions emo-tions and their intuitions. It is this tmie that a woman falls for the assertion asser-tion that there is something mysterious myster-ious and inscrutabJ about her. But indeed, it Is a safe play at any stage of the game between the cradle and the grave, to tell a woman that she Is not like other women and that her being so er or er different somehow some-how was what first at traded the man's attention to her. Bear this in mind, however. always praise a homely woman for her eyes, her teeth, her smile, or her figure, and not for her cleverness, and reverse this rule and praise the pretty woman in her wit, and her cleverness. Heaven Heav-en knows why, but a woman is always more flattered to be- thought the things she isn't than the things she is. As a matter of fact women arc- not half as keen on compliments to their looks a- men suppose. They have worked hard to adorn themselves They have got on their war paint and the expect to be praised for it. More than that, they know that it is the conventional tning mat every man says to evers woman and that to say, 'How radiantly beautiful you are tonight" to-night" really means no more than t-.iinL' "So charmed to see you," and 60 while ihe;.' niisht possibly resent the omission of a tribute to their ap- pearance, they take it lightly when it IS paid. The compliment that reaJUy goe to a woman's head and flatters her out of 'nses, is for a man to raaki I i r feel that she has wonderful divination derp Insight into thinps. and a Btrange and occult intuition of ihe unknowable. unknow-able. Women call this being under-, under-, stood and when a man can make one behove that he hangs on her utterances utter-ances as if she were a sibvl, it's all over with her. She's his for the asking. ask-ing. Doctors and preachers are ihe only men who ever pay women the compliment compli-ment of being interested in their souls instead of their looks and that le why a doctor, or a preacher, has only to whistle to a woman to have her get : up and follow I Yet in trying to win a girl's heart be devoted, but not slavish. Make her I feel that while your life's happiness will be wrecked if ou don i get her, you still will have strength enough in exist without hrr Women are still primitive creatures, and they love a man who asserts a certain master over them. Also there is something In the feminine temperament that prompts them to kick the man who grovels at their feet. ThLs does not mean that n m:m uhali attempt to dictate to a girl what, she shall do, or with whom she shall go. This is as fatal as trying to put a bridle on a spirited colt before it la gentled, but the woman who feels that a stronger will and a stronger! hand than hers is guiding her destiny-is destiny-is half won. A good deal Is to be said in favor of' the constant faithful devotion that I continually surrounds a woman with1 evidence of care and tenderness, but I this system of winning a woman's heart is most effecthe when played; within strict limitations. It's all very well to be the patient standby that a girl can rely upon tot ! keep her continually supplied with! candy and flowers and to escort her to places where no one else asks her. I and to take the fag ends of dances and ail tnai Kinu 01 tnin; Attt r having! accustomed a girl to these attentions however, the wise suitor will suddenly withdraw himself and cease to be Johnnie-on-the-spot. It is the only j way in which he can make the girl realize that he has become necessary to her happiness, and that she has grown dependent upon him. A great many men think that the;, can buy into a woman's heart by lavishing lav-ishing gifts upon hei. This is a mis-I take. Women like men who are generous, gener-ous, but they are afraid of spenders,' and they have a comtempt tor the ni n who let themselves be worked. Therefore, There-fore, be liberal with treats and presents pres-ents to your lady love, but be not too, I lavish, and remember that a woman I would rather have a single flower that matched her gown and that showed ihat you remembered her tastt than a bushel of hot house roses bought hit- or-mis and that expressed no per-l per-l sonal w him or mood of hers. Above all, the man who wishes to win a woman's heart should never dls- ! play jealousy. The- lover who goes gTOUching around everytime the woman wom-an he fancies -peaks to another man! i looks like a fool and acts like a door, J and nils tne woman s minu wnn apprehensions ap-prehensions of what married life would be with a husband doing the Othello act in the background. Jealousy is a confession of weakness weak-ness an admission thai a man can not hold his own with other men and it fills the woman with contempt. A successful lover makes a girl feel that he can trust her, and still more, than he trusts himself to win what he wants, and to hold it against the world There are onlv a few of the roads I to a woman's heart. There are a mil-I mil-I lion others, but if you follow these sign posts you cannot fail to get there. nn |