| Show J I Box Box til tilI Dorothy Dorothy Dixs Dix's ix's Letter THE NEW TIRED BUSINESS WOMAN SPECIES THAT MOTHERS CANNOt UNDERSTAND IS A HUSBANDS HUSBAND S FIRST DUTY I ITHE TO HIS WIFE OR TO HIS FAMILY THE CRIME Of LEARNING THE NECESSARY DOMES DOMES- DOMESTIC DOMESTIC 1 TIC ARTS AFTER MARRIAGE Ii EAR r MISS Is DIX DIX Is there any way by which mothers can be cured i DEAR of ot nagging their daughters 1 who sho 0 work all day In shop or office under a heavy strain and then come home borne to be nagged about little I things by Isy their mOl her until they are perfectly franI fran I tic I I come home at night utterly worn out wanting nothing but silence and food and rest until I can pull myself together But my mother meets me at atthe going to 10 finish that dress atI I the door with Are ou tonIght Why dont don't ou oti go to tn ouch uch and such a I place You You said you were tere ere going to do this Ibis and that And when ahen I beg her hot to worry me inc Just to let me alone for a while she Is hurt and offended had bad to do but to sit She SO sass sas s that If It she nothing j all da at a mahogany topped desk that she would think she was tas as bating baSIng an easy time Is there no noway BUSINESS J vay to make mothers understand BUSINESS GIRL tI ti M Answer I am afraid there isn't lont my dear because mothers think that they have a perfect right v I to o supervise every detail of their childrens children's lives laves and they dont don't consider It nagging when th they tell them thema a hundred times what they think of a thing Harping on the same subject Is a maternal prerogative that women refuse to toO It is ia to their children matter how mad maddening g give e up no The fhe lack of or sympathy that mothers show for their s iho ho wh and excused eJ by their work ork outside oC or the home is to be explained ignorance They have never neter been In business themselves and they the It to stand all ay ha hae ha e not the faintest conception of what means behind the counter or bend over oer a typewriter or walk alk a million miles more or less Blound In la model hats and dresses trying tring to please grouchy bosses and to induce pee Ish customers to buy To the mother mOlher going downtown to see pretty things and mingle in I the cro crowds ds Is a lark and she never gets over the belief that busl busl- thinks that hei bel husband and andr Therefore she picnic t no s no-s is a perpetual I s her daughter who vho have been at the office or the store are perfectly unreasonable when hen a hen they complain of being tired of an e ening and then hen they want ant at home and sit up In silence trying to rest resl their weary eary tongues and eardrums from the Incessant chatter the hae e been In all da daSo daSo da So I I fear it will take another generation of mothers the woman who were in business when they were young them them- themselves selves to understand Just how worn nerve-worn and weary a work work- working ing 1119 girl I Is la when she comes home at night and how It Irritates I her to be asked questions and told over and over again to dothe do the same ame thing DOROTHY DIX C C S 5 0 EAR r MISS MSS DIX l DIX 1 am married to a man who ho makes only a mod DEAR D crate Income but he sends more than half halt of ot It 11 back to his people although his bis father rather and single brother are both able to work and end could support the family If it they would Of course I 1 ha hate ha e to deni den many things that I might hate hale ha e it if we e had this money to Spend but II I cant ant ant make my husband see that his duty Is to his wife He and children I I of to 10 his brothers and sisters or that he should lay up tip something some someI 1 I thing with th which to educate our childr children n hen heu they are older Do OU think that I am right WORRIED WIFE I Answer Of course you are Worried Warned Wife When a man gets mar mar- married Tied rued his first duty is to his own household He has no right to deny his wife and children the things they need to give toI to I 1 1 M his family Yet mans man men do this In their eaily eally south they somehow got their families fastened like old men of the sea upon their backs and they never ba hate bae ha e the courage to shake themselves free tree of or the load Nor does tho famil evel seem to realize that they have no right to continue to make a pack horse of their sons eons and brothers when hen the thea have as- as as burned other burdens Because John turned over his bis mane monc to the tho family and bought the girls pretty dresses and paid th tbs tb's the bos bo s debts they feel that they continue to hae haie ha e a perfect right to cell call on him for tor ever every even thing the want tant ant as long as they Hie ilse 1 e And John hasn't the nerve to say No and shut his pocketbook And so 50 Johns John's wife Ife and children ha hae hale e to be to the family fetish Of course a man is us obligated to take care of his father and mother when they are old and helpless but he certainly is not called upon to support his husky brothers and sisters and he hedon don does them a great wrong if f he encourages encourage them In being para pars paraSItes parasites sites instead of Independent men and women Try to make our husband see that he Is being made the family goat and that the quicker he be resigns the position the better for all oncel ned DOROTHY DIX DEAR D EAR r DOROTHY I I was lIas talking to a bride the other day and asked Ier er It she knew how to cook and keep house She said No Noi 1 but she Intended to learn how as soon as she was Dont Don't y you U UI think it lii is 1 pretty late lale f a 1 woman oman to start to learn a profession after I she goes to practice it And dont don't ou think that mothers do er veri I wrong in III not teaching their daughters how to cook and sew and keep bouse ouse RUTH I think It I li ii little short of a crime crimi Ruth for a mother not to prepare her daughter for matrimony by teaching her the tho things thing she ahe la Is I going to need to know In her hor h r new now life lifo anti and the tho trade she Is la Just starting to follow I think that the Ignorance of the domestic arts arte Is II one of I of the t e main mil mi t why wh so many marriages are are a failure A man manles a girl dreaming of a happy comfortable thriftily run ran home of good dinners and a contented wife Nine tenths of or the he gels jeta 11 a i Ire wife tife Who t know the first thing about cooling or bu food ho hll lil his monel nione and sits him dinners that poison an And hut hi ICo Is nerve frazzled and l oer mer her failure allure Nobody can blame him for or being disgruntled and disappointed Nobody can blam biam her for eng dl l and miser miser- miserable miserable miserable able Nobody can wonder onder t that at they quarrel and nd reproach each other l But all would have haye b been erl different f th Lh the girl fiad rad iad been een work Housework taught row how to do housework efficiently and easily House House- work I is e only hard to the untaught Of course the mothers say 1 that their girls will learn how row to cook after they get married True but they learn through a bitter butter experience that they i could cO hav have saved Caved And anyway i It Is not fair that a I girl should sho L get Set h her r domestic d training at the expense of ot her husbands husband's pock pock- j pocketbook acid ald stomach t f t The woman yoman who is 18 a a food lod l od eo cook k and a good housekeeper has a lisle luie C that no noer no er rails falls rall and i a charm therm that pee palls pails on her leI lu husband and and the I S t lle reliable Iee mothel conj lle provides pro l es her laugher daughter before sh sho marries DOROTHY with DIX thi this re slit lit ht 19 1934 1921 4 by Public Ledger Company |
