Show "in njpjMMl Standard-Examin- Sunday August 10 1980 I er IB FROM THE BOOKSHELF Local Author Provides "THE GOOD KID BOOK" by Howard N Sloan American Library $595) (Nw At last! A first aid manual for parents As? s: s s' s V Outline For Rearing Children Step-hy-st- ep s i 'O v sv A ¥ y - f ¥ s - - v “I am still the wife of a famous author” she V' said “I had a review that said I was trying to itilt press ' v " K"' ' 'V '' x A ' s V X aS AA -- ive Sloane compares the raising of children to trouble with an automobile One doesn’t have to know all the ins and outs of their family car ' ' but when trouble develops they either reach for a manual to give them instructions or take it to a mechanic With “The Good Kid Book” one has accessible “rationale behind solutions for raising children” Sloane believes in the positive approach as compared to the negative The book deals mostly with youngsters ages three to 15 and offers a practical and effective guide for encouraging good behavior Sloane has written down suggestions on how to re- duce and eliminate disobedience sloppiness bad manners poor eating selfishness tantrums and bedwetting “Love is vital to good parenting - but love alone is not enough” Sloane says g demands not only “Successful good intentions but practical skills that all too many paents do not have time to discover during the swift period of their children’s growth” Sloane adds His book is a product of over 15 years of intensive research into the area of parent-chil- d relationships Its purpose is to offer parents actual workable ways to overcome specific problems beginning by showing how to analyze one’s own behavior toward a child p It then sets up a series of detailed programs designed to solve specific problems “Society today does not give people very useful skills about raising children or creating parents” Sloane says He feels that a lot of material that is available for parents is philosophical religious or filled with very general principles “Yet when it gets down to what you do in a certain situation it is like a mystery” Sloane says In addition to offering solutions to the usual g the book also gives problems of rules to use when there are no problems “It is important” Sloane says “to communicate what a good kid is Tell them what they are -- child-raisin- step-by-ste- child-raisin- doing well” Sloane says it is important to make clear and realistic what you expect of your child One of the common problems he says is giving children so many instructions and orders that there is no way he can do them “You set the child up to fail” Sloane says “especially when he couldn’t possibly achieve all 900 things” Another reason Sloane who is professor of Educational Psychology at the University of Utah wrote the book is to make parents realize that children have to be taught things They do not learn intuition “Make sure the child can do what he is asked to do If necessary teach him“ Sloane adds Sloane suggests that things always work well if you do them gradually with a plan over a long period of time A lot of parents ask their child to do nothing up to a certain age “One day they get fed up and jump on the poor kid” Sloane says “Do not do it all at once” Sloane says “Each year give the child a little more responsibility which is geared to his capability Do it 4 DR HOWARD -' ' N SLOANE little bit by little bit “Learning is not a one time process It is an accumulation “With most of us the bad attracts our attention more than the good The child gets more attention for bad behavior So if the child wantsattention he will act up “Catch the kid being good and pay some attention to him then It’s a really subtle trap” Sloane says it is wise to be more perceptive “Catch the youngsters before a problem arises Reward the good behavior “My book offers a step by step approach to avoid problems in child rearing It is actually a reference book which deals with many prob- lems” One of the common problems among g Sloane emphasises youngsters is in his book that emotional scars arise because of the habit The emotional trauma does not cause it There is also a chapter which delves into the entitled “My problems of older teen-ager- s Child Never Tells Me Anything” This segment focuses on when the interacbreaks tion between parent and teen-age- r down the steps necessary to take to correct that breakdown — Pat Jonas (Standard-Examinbed-wettin- er Staff) Won't Trade On Husband's Fame offensive because you can’t be anything but yourself Whatever you set out to be you’re going to be yourself and there’s no use trying to imitiate anyone else” The Wallaces were married in 1941 They met when Sylvia arrived in Hollywood to work as an editor for Dell Publishing Co Their son David Wallechinsky was born in 1948 Mrs Wallace did freelance writing then returned to fulltime editorial work at “Photoplay” magazine in 1954 After the birth of their she found it daughter Amy in 1955 however outside the too difficult to work full time to as work went home So she quit her job and her husband’s research aide and editor When her son went off to college and her daughter went to boarding school Mrs Wallace found herself in a dilemma about what to do with her life “I’d always been awed by books” she said “They seemed like impossible undertakings But suddenly there was so much to say about women’s changing roles and I wanted to say it in a novel” A year and a half after it was begun Sylvia Wallace’s first novel “The Fountains” was completed It has been translated into 12 languages and the movie rights have been acquired by Warner Brothers The first printing of her second novel “Empress” was 50000 and the book was picked as a Doubleday Book Club Alternate Selection How does it feel to launch another career in best-sellin- Sylvia Wallace the author Irving Wallace is attaining her own success as a novelist but she says “there’s no competition and I don’t aspire to his recognition I aspire to my own” Irving Wallace is the author of more than 20 n books He has an esfiction and timated worldwide readership of more than 600 million and has sold more than 120 million copies of his books Sylvia Wallace who has worked as a journalist since the age of 19 recently completed her second novel “Empress” It is the story of how a young American film star through marriage and circumstance becomes the powerful empress of an Arabian nation Her first novel “The Fountains” was published in DEEGAN (AF) well-know- n After years of working as her husband’s research aide and editor Mrs Wallace a petite blonde in her 50s is happy that she has been able to establish her own identity as a novelist “What’s happened to me since I stepped out on my own is that I feel a lot better about myself” she said However comparisons between herself and her husband are almost inevitable “EVERYTHING Heritage sectionals sofas and chairs n drive to control everything on wheels Press Best Sellers FICTION — Sidney Random Winds — Belva Plain The Spike — Araaud de Borcheg-rav- e and Robert Moss The Bourne Identity — Robert Ludlum Firstarter — Stephen King Solo — Jack Higgins No Love Lost — Helen Van Slyke Princess Daisy — Judith Krantz Sins of the Father — Susan a W er Murder also is the theme of “Townies” but catharsis is denied here — deliberately Rather the reader is left thinking “what a waste” and this probably is what Dubus set out to do All in all this is a good collection and worth reading despite its flaw-PHI- L THOMAS (AP) CAUFR1AM J)emm Since 1979 ' Hoyle Schweitzer inventor of the free sail sys- ly around the world SYLVIA WALLACE - Upstairs "DISCOUNT " Showroom We Buy Sill and Trod Diamonds er indsurf said tem known common- d plots absorbing But when it comes to the longer runs at least as seen by the novella after which this book is titled Dubus can’t go the distance He starts off well but after a while he falters the words no longer ring in the mind the plot meanders and the reader loses interest and patience “Finding a Girl in America” deals with a not very sympathetic English teacher named Hank Allison Allison is 35 an aspiring novelist who has a yen for women much younger than himself Divorced Allison goes through affair after affair in search of himself as well as a woman who not only understands him but can stand him He finds her eventually but the reader doesn’t find it as satisfying as Allison seems to The short stories are another matter They are marvels of compression containing no unneeded words no pointless plot circlings In “Killings” Dubus sets out to show how a middle-age- d man would react after his youngest son has been murdered First there is bewilderment and self-pit- y then the gradual determination to do something to avenge the young man’s death and finally inexorably the arrival at the moment of revenge The story ends in catharsis for both the father and the read- mother dying again without showing any interest in her Why? 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A Windsurfer is a sailboard The person who uses it is called 20 rs by Budd Schulberg The story of a brilliant violent w Free to Choose man Craig Claiborne’s Gourmet Diet — Craig Claiborne Gypsy r N — Billy Martin and Shelley — Shelley Winters Thy Neighbor’s Wife — Gay Tal ese Crisis Investing — Douglas R Casey Nothing Down — Robert Allen The Real War — Richard Nixon Will — G Gordon Liddy Men in Love — Nancy Friday rocks In between the contests she rushes back to New York to answer every casting call only to be rejected She doesn’t even have the support of her mother any more Mother Rose who created Miss Havoc’s early career is now concentrating her attention solely on Sheldon 1 Peter Golenbock fellow vaudevillian has gone on the MARINA DEL hutihuj mIm MOVES” ! Number e The Rage of Angels Eric Van Lustbader Only the SwingBox lets you do it! harrowing yet Coast-watche- (Har- ance dance contests for prize money Her teen-agmarriage to a Windsurfer 1976 County Library this’ week include: "A VERY PRIVATE WAR" by John Cleary wryly touching story of danger endurance tragedy and of love A story concerning the great unsung heroes of World War II — the of the South Pacific June Havoc non-fictio- New Books New books featured at the Weber A m — NON-FICTIO- post-vaudevil- le “It’s great and I hope everyone knows that you don’t have to pull the pillows over your head and say ‘Heh you’re finished the kids are raised’ and then work your way into a sanitarium” she said The entire Wallace family all writers works in offices in one wing of a country-styl- e house in the Brentwood section of Los Angeles David is the author of several books includg “What Really Happened ing the to the Class of ’65” Amy collaborated with her father on a biography of Chang and Eng the original Siamese twins titled “The Two” The Wallace family has also put together “The People’s Almanac” “The People’s Almanac No 2” “The Book of Lists” and“The Book of Lists No 2” Sylvia and Irving have separate agents Irving does not read Sylvia’s work while it is in progress “With my late debut as a novelist I wanted to show that I could do everything myself’’ she said “So no he has not criticzed my work He’s not even been privileged to see it because I won’t lean on anyone which is foolish but I feel that way very strongly because he’s so successful” And how does it feel to be a successful author herself? “It feels a lot better than being an unsuccessful author” she said with a smile CAROL 17-roo- The Ninja Vaudeville died in the early 1930s but its child star Dainty June refused to die with it To her the stage was “home” and she just had to stay on it if not as a vaudevillian then as an actress The problem was that nobody wanted her Dainty June also known to the world as June Havoc or Gypsy Rose Lee’s little sister tells her struggle in “More Havoc” a sequel to her 1959 autobiography “Early Havoc” The book bubbles with Miss Havoc’s high spirits and inexhaustible energy that kept her afloat in those difficult years It opens as Miss Havoc is trying to support herself as a marathon dancer competing in those endur- ' mid-life- ? -- NEW YORK (AP) — wife of "MORE HAVOC" By per & Row $1 195) match Irving scene for scene and that was Dr Howard N Sloane felt the time had come when a book such as “The Good Kid Book” should be made available to parents and in 1S79 the books started rolling off the Sloane feels there are a lot of common behavior patterns that parents and children have These patterns develop into problems which are not serious but could lead into a chronic hassle Parents wait until the problem gets serious and then they wonder what to do Sloane says “Even myself” Sloane says “feel stupid going to a psychologist because a child whines But this whining promotes antagonism between parent and child and leads to fighting and arguing” His book offers remedial solutions to prevent' more serious problems out of everyday events It offers methods on being prevent- More Havoc f 1 Daily hours: till 5 pm! roP NUTTAIL om Saturdays 8 a m till 12 noon OFFER— SAVE 300 n 2318 WASHINGTON ii iH 11'in ii4 rtia4Tliii0li it BLVD mm 392-508- 1 A‘l 'A r’ n |