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Show OEST AND JOHN REINER Maa buffer zone. For recuperation. Andif it’s too soon,then you're going to think something was going onbefore you broke up. Lindsay: This person was my best friend since we were 2, 3 years old. Wetold each other everything. And when I broke up with him,she was there with me, doing the girl thing: “Oh, he’s no good.” Then, all of a sudden...What hurt me most wasthat she didn’t tell me when During a conversation about they gottogether. I heard about it a couple ofweekslater. M.Bonk, 18, Steve Ryan, 19, Ross Mattson, 19, and Dan L.M.: If it was two years af- relationships with Lindsay terward, would you have been upset? How long do you need? Deusterman, 18—all of South HOWARDHUGE’ Lindsay: It depends onthe per- son. With mybestfriend,it was harder, because welost our Lynn Minton:Is it okay for a goodfriend to start dating Dan your ex—and after how long? wy winy Lindsay: My bestfriend startedgoing out with my ex about seven, eight months after we broke up, andatfirst I wouldn’t talk to either of them, because people take gooff and get married or some- thing. They fight over little things—if you havea girlfriend, she'll get madifyoutalk to anothergirl. Relationships girl, she wentout on a date with one of my good buddies about Relationships Dan: | agree. You're going out was trying to get back at me. He with a girl, and she’s like, “Oh, yeah, we're going to be to- big messed-up thing. “You know, Howard, you don't really need a powertie t 0 makean impression.” used to be together every day. It’s not the sameatall. Steve: I think people take re- Steve: When I broke up with this gehagl ed getting mad at me.It was a in b friends, but wehardly ever talk lationshipstooseriously in high Petationships school. Like they’re going to it was hard for me. Then I be- too seriously ganto talk to him, andshe start- | friendship over it. We're onthe phone anymore. And we high three weeks after. I thought she cameupand told me, “I’mgoing out with so-and-so tonight.” L.M.: Were you annoyed? Steve: Not at him. It was nobig deal to me. Who amIto say who shouldgoout with who? But it was alittle bit too soon. Ross: There should bea time more fun.” —Sieve should be more fun. gether forever, right?” My God, no! I'm18 years old. There are other people I want to date or be with. Right now, I want to be with you. Let's take it day by day. I’m not planning that two years from now we'restill going to betogether. “1 Need Privacy!” I know our parents care about us and don"t want anything to happentous. But teenagers need privacy! I can't talk on the phone without my whole house knowing.It bothers me that some- thing I write may be found and read. I don’t even want to keep Shabred a diary, for fear it will be read. I would like to hear other people's experiences dealing with this problem. —Shabred MoNear, 13, Paulsboro, N.J. “Never mind how loud it purrs..Did y 1 see the size of that hairball?” TEENAGERS: WHAT DO YOU THINK? it we print your comments, you'll win the “Fresh Voices” T-shirt—and we'll also send a Tshirt to every teacher whose students we feature. Write to Lynn Minton, Box 5103, Central Station, New York, N.Y, 10163-5103, send e-mail to freshvolces@parade.com orvisit www.parade.com on the Web. Please include daytime phone number. Personal replies regrettably are not possible. PAGE 12 JANUARY17, 1999 PARADE MAGAZINE eo “How comehe getsthe bottled stuff, and / have to drink trom the tap?” St. Paul, Minn.—Lindsay said her ex-boyfriend had begunto date her bestfriend. |