Show ' ? iTX 4 V Moke 'no gifts' £& mitt nut By ABIGAIL VAN BUREN DEAR ABBY : My husband and I will celebrate our 40th wedding anniversary soon Our children plan a party for us in the social hall of our church A few years ago you ran a sam- ple invitation in your column that I liked very much It was a nice way of saying '‘No gifts please” Will you please run it again? I’m sure others will find it helpful too Thank you ABBY FAN DEAR FAN: Here it is: DEAR READERS: I have stated many times that any mention whatsoever of gifts was improper on an invitation This includes the forthright “No gifts please” as well as the tasteless (in my view) suggestion that cash is preferred to any other type of gift Many sent sample invitations in which gifts were mentioned Below are two that changed my mind : “Jane and Bob Smith invite you to dine with us on the evening of June 1 at our home at 7 pm “It is in celebration of our 20th wedding anniversary Your friendship is a cherished gift We respectfully request no other” “The children of Iver and Helen Dahl invite you to celebrate with them the 50th wedding anniversary of their parents A reception will be held May 7 at 2 pm at the Elmhurst Country Club “We request your help in compiling a book which recalls memories from our parents’ first 50 years of marriage On the enclosed sheet we ask that you write one memory or experience that you have shared with them and return it to us by April 26 We believe that the loving memories they have shared with you their friends would be the most treasured gift they could receive therefore we request that no other gift be sent” DEAR ABBY: I would like to pass on some very valuable experience to women who might find themselves in the same situation I was in 10 years ago As an attractive Crying can be a potent medicine according to a University of Pennsylvania psychiatrist who states “Some psychosomatic problems tend to disappear when we cry” request with taste and tact 1? s L Tears not for children alone Dear Abby 55-year-- have plagued more men than women “Since women generally express ve their emotions and cry more freely than men it may be that crying Asthma sufferers may unconsciously be using their suffocating attacks as a substitute for crying One theory as to why Dr Sadoff can help reduce your chances of developing ulcers and high blood pressure” Fluffy hair DEAR STUCK: Nobody gets a lifetime guarantee of good health You could have become sick and been all his NEW YORK (AP) — Mark Twain lived here at the comer of Draperyand Cleaning Service Rehanging Fifth Avenue and DEAR ABBY: I would like to know if I am living with a talented No Extra Chargo for pleating 10th Street before his death in 1910 poet or an incurable My husband and I are in our middle years and I thought him faithful until I found in his desk several hundred love poems he admits he composed himself Some are as bland as unsalted popcorn but most are more like enchiladas woman-chase- stress-relate- d fects” STUCK r QUITE SIMPLY PERFECTION 226? 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