| Show MA MARRIAGE AND THE NEW NEIN WOM N C CJ Courtesy of ot Pictorial Review June 1914 Dr arden Marden the world famed tamed philosopher philos philos- opher Is Ss always Interesting and Inspiring The following extracts from his article In inthe tho the Juno Pictorial Review are called to the attention of all our readers readers both both men and women It Is Sa the topic of tho the day and therefore an Important There Is no one thin thing which so lati largely affects our destiny our ur weal or our woe as the choice of a life lite partner Yet on oneve eve every hand we hear young n people who have ha have met perhaps by accident and seen e each ench other only onh a few times saying flaying Lets get married vilh sih h as ns little consideration consideration con con- seriousness and Investigation as t though ouGh they were Ing on a days day's outing What would you rou think of oC a man who should choose a business partner parmer the first time ho he saw V him because ho he was attracted to him lIe He would probably find out oct In Sn a n short time that he had made a fatal mistake But think of thus recklessly binding yourself to a a. partner whom you must face perhaps two or three times a do day at table and times a year through a large part of a lifetime What hat do two young ounG people who ho are fascinated by the exchange of ot glances at their first meeting at a ball a Q rev reception eption or a play la know about each other I know know of at nothing more dangerous more moro fatal to welfare happiness anc and success In Sn life than to marry when hypnotized by a sudden fascination which Is usually wholly ph physical and often has hu huno no relation whatever to the thc fitness of the parties to each other othe Young Youns people should be on their guard against this dangerous physical magnetism mag mal They should be suro sure that at attraction attraction attraction at- at traction has some Orne basis out outside of at tho the merely animal They should realize that there thero Is a mental and a moral affinity as aswell onA well The The Tho woman oman of ot the future will be th the arbiter of her own life She will live life In her If IC she he her own own on onVa way Va chooses not to marry marJ she ehe will be Just Justas as os highly respected and admired as though she had married She Sho will not trade a self sacrificing nature for a selfish brutal husband hubband just for tor tho the sake Of t getting some sort of a man In Sn order to escape th the stigma of spinsterhood Hor marriage will not nece necessarily be either a n lucky hit or a miserable failure She Sho will not look forward to it as the tho only re respectable future She will look at marriage more as 08 a man does as a 0 possible possible possible pos pos- sible incident In his career The Intelligent girl of or the future futuro will demand a n decent order of ot man as a life partner or she he will ill have none at all Sh She will not marry the man who has not lived lI the clean life which ho he demands of herIn her In the future the man who practices the double standard of ot morals will have havo to marry the double standard girl The sin sin- glo standard girl Irl will Wilt have bave nothing to todo todo todo do with him He will be he compelled to marry In his hilt own cla class or not at all Civilization needs schools of matrimony more than It does schools of ot law commerce commerce com com- merce or engineering If It we wo had mar marriage r- r schools under the he t e state or government govern overn ment meat supervision presided over by the wisest experts obtainable the tho happiness of married married lif life would be increased Increased Im- Im and the divorces dl diminished incalculably Only Onty those superbly fitted for or marriage and scientifically prepared for tor or it would bo allor allowed cd to enter Into this hol holy state If It all the girls who expect to marry soon could bo be gathered together together In Sn one onea a ant t Audience and have havo Illustrated lectures lectures lec- lec tures ures to JITa graphically phi call picture the conditions conditions condi- condi lons of tho the girls who married last year car or a 0 few years ears years ago what a lesson It would teach What hat what hat tragedies of ot wrecked happiness how man many children born with fearful handicaps handicap of at mental and physical disease or disease ase tendencies because of tho the parents' parents unfit marriages would be bo seen steal c n Tho The now tiow girl will not through fear of or being an nn old maid or a dependent give JI herself away avay to a rake or a nobody Sho will know vcr very vory well that It will not noto bo be o necessary that the traditions which for or centuries regulated reS d her marriage e and social status tatus have very materially material changed She will wilt know that hundreds of vocations are open to her that the she he will be bo as free to choose a career as a man Her marriage will be bo purely purel u a personal matter If It the right man does doc not ot happen to como come along alous or If It she does dOCE not choose choose to marr marry she will 1 havo some some- thin to fall back upon instead of ot fInkIn Ink f-Ink- In Ing ng Into helplessness and despair There will be bo something awaiting her quite different dif dlf- ferent rent from th the e lugubrious f fate ate of the a past jast a forlorn maidenhood supported by disappointed parents or unwilling relatives rela- rela tives There will be bo numberless avenues af of usefulness s to II ambition lon and she will round out her life lito full and com complete whether rhe the marries or not Another thing the coming cominS' girl Is going to o do Sho She will convince her future husband husband hus- hus band jand that It Is la all wrong for a n. man to ask a girl to marry him when ho he can scarcely support himself and because of ofa a false pride b be unwilling that t sho she cooperate co- co operate with him In the financial support ot of f tho the homo home when she Is qualified to do doso so o. o How much marital unhappiness will he avoided a wh when n this Important subject Is freely reely discussed and settled before mar- mar lagel In fact when whon men and women are more honest hone t and frank with each other before marriage there will be bo fewer fower mistakes fewer misfit marriages fewer fe divorces and more happiness A much superior race raco of or men and women will win toll follow ollow 0 |
