Show Your Marriage Jealousy Indicates Doubt In Ability to Hold Mate B Bj By Samuel G. G and anal Esther Ether B B. B Kling KJin Q Can jealousy be overcome I A. A Yes if you ou make an earnest effort First you ou must understand understand understand under under- I stand that being jealous indicates you have doubts about your our ability to hold your our mate Why do you ou feel Insecure or in inadequate inadequate in- in adequate If you ou make a serious attempt to understand the basic reasons behind your self-doubt self youre you're on the way to conquering this fear lear If your feelings are based on economic insecurity preparing for a better job may be the answer I If they're based on some personality personality per per- defect or conversational handicap make a studied effort to overcome it Half the battle batlle is understanding the reason behind your beha behavior May ra Try Escape Second realize that its it's Impossible Impossible impossible sible as well as undesirable to monopolize anyone's company and that goes for husbands and wives vives I too oo To be overly possessive is a sign of insecurity on your part I Moreover your partner is apt to react by trying to escape from from your bonds for few can enjoy life ife in such a stifling atmosphere and fewer can love in it I ITo To avoid monopolizing your your I mates mate's company and to divert I your over-absorption over in him or her enlarge the scope of your interests and activities Find an outlet I ifor for your energies in some hobby or orin orin in social and religious organizations Third concentrate on making yourself as interesting a companion companion companion com com- panion as possible The more In Interesting Interesting interesting In- In and likeable you are as asa asa asa a person the greater the feeling of security and adequacy you will have and the less need to be jealous Fourth be mature enough to realize that an attractive person will always attract attention If youre you're jealous because your wife's beauty attracts men consider it instead as a compliment to you for having wooed and andon won on her herand herand herand and for her having preferred you OU I to some other eligible male Pick of or Crop If youre you're vexed because your husbands husband's charm or financial success success success suc suc- cess draws women to his side be flattered instead that he chose you when he might have had the pick of the female fema e crop And be proud to be married to someone whom other women find desirable Remember Remember Remember Re Re- member too that everyone likes to be admired and that while your husband may enjoy the attentions of women it doesn't mean hes he's going going going go go- ing to fall in love with them Finally learn to appreciate yourself Think of all your assets the the good things about your appearance appearance appearance ap ap- character personality and abilities Remember that these attracted your mate to you and feel confident that they will continue continue continue con con- to hold him Above all dont don't magnify your defects in your own mind Everyone has some iome so 50 why should you be bc different i I I I I I |