| Show t DILEMMA SET S BY CHANGE OF S SS PLANS S B By BETTY BLAIR BLAIRr r Friendship like any other equation is strengthened through exercise In matters involving principles and the he use of judgment real friendship is especially aUy valuable r Dear Mis flair Blair I certainly am In a dilemma PoT Tor nearly a year rear I kept s steady ady company with a girl Then last lut fall she went S S away to school quite S. S u unexpectedly n e ex x p We Weh 5 S. S S h have a v e corresponded regularly since the she S has hu been gone but each of us has hM gone out with frith others asS as as' S we both thought It would be foolish not notto to toA A A month II ago go I S wrote skin asking her if Sf she he he wouldn't be borneS homo home S I for Christmas and she he heS r S answered that she S S wouldn't be bc coming comings s ax a. she was to spend pend th the thi holidays with relatives a short distance from the school So TV what hat did I do but get myself all dated up for tot the holidays Yesterday I bad had a I telegram m from her er saying she was coming This certainly certainly S puts me inc In In a dilemma The Thet t trIs with whom I have the dates datu on ort the most flOSt Important occasions are aregood 1 good friends of both of us but with my roy dates In tn mind they have turned down others and nd very nry likely now S would not have an ah opportunity to be beS beI S I All AU the fellows s I can think of who would be eligible partners are ue r. r S daj dated You too can see sec what this means If It I t keep my dates my friend coming comins l I. I home for only a a short period will b be practically dateless I know she bunt hasn't t considered what her sudden change of plans has done to put meIn me roe 4 in a R Jam and Im I'm sure she expects expect to see a good deal of me during the tho time she Is here Have HaTe you a solution for a problem of cf this kind tucked away In a special corner comer of your cranium If so la will and let me mc you ou kindly dig It out bave have It Thanks DILEMMA The mutual friends with whom S you ou have made your appointments for the holidays will vill help you to olve solve your dilemma Take your our problem to them Explain the situS situation situation situ situ- S to them in the particular uses cues where you want to change your arrangement They will offer to break the arrangements ts for the aake ake of the special friend who is isS S coming And you must do all you youcan youcan can un to find partners for them Your other ether male friends will help you to uncover names of those whose arrangements ar ar- ar- ar arent aren't made Perhaps you will say I Iam am taking a ft good deal for granted I am only relying on my knowledge of the usual fairness and generosity to be bc found in people Young people are Impulsively generous You dont don't have to explain situations to them themas as u a rule They see through things immediately and with unerring judgment come to the right ions zions They dont don't spend time in repining or in regrets over o their decisions once they are made Naturally your our dilemma makes you feel just a little skeptical over the outcome It may n not nat t be necessary aary sary that you ou break nil all your dates Or it may may be possible for you to break some of them for Jor the Important Im Im- Im occasions and to make it up tip to your friends on other occa occa- lions You did not say that you and the special frie friend d were engaged and I am not assuming therefore that you will wiIl be seeing her every night tight she will wUl be here After all what are friends for if they cant can't help a fellow v out ot of a dilemma like this And the girl girlS S who changed her plans cant can't expect every single minute of your our time either S FAMILY GIFT Dear Miss Blair Can you make room for an old caller eaUer Surely hope to w to as M I have a problem that truly has hl me and I just JUit know you can give me the advice X I want I am a practical nurse who has been employed by a family nearly a year now noVo There arc itro four members members mem niem- bers bars in the family I know for for a fact that one member Is 15 preparing to give giveIns me Ins ne a Christmas gift gUt Now whether this gift gUt will come from the whole family or not I dont don't know And I wont won't know until It Is 15 given I am not able to afford a gift for each member of or the family so what am I to do Would It bo be correct for forme roe me to give a a. large largo box of candy and write on the card To The Family Or Oz S what pray rAY tell me shall I do MRS X Old friends as well as new are al alays always at- at ways ays welcome I think your jour our own suggestion for a gUt gift the entire family fam fain fly ily may enjoy is fa the best solution of or S your our our problem Your association associationS S with them will vIll tell you whether the members of oC the family will enjoy t candy better than a a. lovely plant or orS S perhaps a number of f Christmas 5 editions of magazines or a book they may have been especially wanting I-wanting to own There are arc household household household house house- hold gadgets like tike orange juice juiceS S special mixers and other r things that come inexpensively if you have time to look for them TAKEN THINGS FOR FOB R GRANTED I Dear Blair I have always eaten at n at a table that hu hi been properly act set without hay hav- J lug B to o se set ad It u myself However now S that I jm an am m married l and have ve every lIttle detail to look bolt after arter myself I IS S In find that th though ugh I thought I 1 knew Iii all about these things when It comes to doln doing ng them I often orten dont don't know what hat to do cia If there Is 11 a meat meata knife a soup spoon and an BU oyster l f i lark fork a lad fork and a dinner fork t to M be Placed d what Is 15 the correct order orderS F S far tor them 7 Also 1 Is there any special f j S i rait to the number of or knives 3 and f fork I that should go on each of r S We plate Thank you ou SYLVIA I. I Ope One should not set the tho table with j more Thore than three forks and two r kiy knives Other forks Corks or knives if heeded eded may mav be bc brought to the table t i r with th the tle course with which they arc are to w be used S S On the right of the tho plate and v nearest to it is put the meat knife ip 6 5 th then en n the soup spoon and then the fork or cocktail spoon as e caso may y be The cocktail fork or cr spoon Is always on the right of the th pl plate te on on the outside since it Is USed With the first course The e salad fork ork k is placed on the tho left closest to the plate and the fork next on the outside CHRISTMAS CHRISTMAS CARDS cuns It n u Blair Is It Proper for a girl to send a ahll li card to a boy with whom whon k hu has gone out only A few time times 5 J Iad he d With whom she hM hu a d date tc d during I y Thank you BETH BITH We may send lend cards ot of greeting Erecting to tool ol ot our friends |
