| Show f bIRL GIRL SEEKS WAY VA W i iTO TO ARM HERSELF f- f WITH CONFIDENCE t i f i f B By B BETTY TTY BLAIR t To deli deliberately ra ly court the situations that are known to cause ca s self-consciousness self is one method by which this handicap may may be overcome O One e should also di dismiss miss miss' thoughts that one Js 1 Is u unequal eq al to requirements J Dear ear er Biss Blair malt I am ani a young girl girt who has Just turned 14 I could be very happy If It it weren't for lor the fact tact that I urn ant handicapped d by eIf- eIf eIfa i 3 a r consciousness I am amt at A ease ense with some people I but with others and and at Jg IL Intervals L I. suffer sutter greatly from bad at af- of it It so much so V. V that I even hato to talk to people I I dont don't know whether vJ er Cr It is caused cawed front from lack of self confidence I f. f O or not II U so how does one gain gln confidence In r self I 1 should be l plenty confident be because because because be- be cause people arc are always commenting on how pretty I am or what a good shape I have I feel teel flattered for tor a moment but It d doesn't nt seem Beem that that thatis is I. all alt I need to gain complete confIdence confidence con con- In tn myself One thing that discourages me Is that I blush a great deal and nd when I d do so 0 I 1 feel teel ashamed and as 11 It I 1 never heyer want to to be seen sun again I always blush when I get up to recite In my Classroom My cl classmates Always tell me tue about It and I r think that is what destroys my confidence r I was wa very much surprised last year jear when hen a friend told me another friend had said rold I was too sophisticated I didn't know what to think at first tint and then I knew I must look sophistIcated sophisticated sophis sophis- from the outside but on the Inside IMide I 1 was was' only trying to hide my embarrassment I take quite an nn interest In sports and that seems to help me a little but hut wherever I am my blushing al alWays always always al- al ways gives me inc away Im I'm certainly hoping me Thank you fOU can advise you you- TROUBLED You are quite right in believing that any girl needs mOle moe than the I r knowledge that other people think ehe ahe he is pretty or has a good figure to give sive her self T The e kind of confidence this knowledge gives cant can't carry a a. girl very far in inthis inthis n this word The most complete attainment attainment attainment at at- of ot self-confidence self comes when a person is able to entirely forget self in the interest he or she finds in the things they undertake to do For example if you had to tomake tomake tomake make a sp speech e h in class you should be so much interested that its delivery de de- livery be in iii such manner th that t your audience would get every thought contained contain d in it it that you could entirely entirely entirely en en- t forget it was through gh you they were receiving the Ithe message Some of our greatest personalities have havo at one time in their lives been the most self conscious but by be becoming becoming be- be coming entirely wrapped up in the work vork they were doing they could eliminate the self sell to such an extent extent ex ex- tent that only the the thing they were trying to todo do mattered By such methods is success won Luther Burbank Burbank Burbank Bur- Bur bank Edison John B Burroughs Lindbergh and Amelia are notable examples examples' of of z conscious self c nicio s people becoming self seU- self through the work undertook to do One doesn't have to become great E to lose self It doesn't matter how small the task you have to perform if iC you you will think more more of the manner in which you are doing doing do do- doing ing it ft than of the rea reaction tion you you are making on people or what wha they may be thinking of you you will soon overcome even your tendency to tot 4 blush t blush Another t thing ing is hi Jo o keep right on doing things that have a value in themselves If it is nothing more than being kind In to people with whom you ar are thrown in daily contact il ilIs It Itis Itis Is this contact that will help you to overcome self consciousness Then too the more in which you engage in church clubs school the more apt you are to entirely en ena entirely en en- a overcome But It is all up to you whether you do things for the love of d doing ing them tieme or whether your main maln idea Is to tomake to tomake make a good impression on people as to wh whether ther or not you will wm win Dont Don't v worry rry about how haw other people peo peo- pie will regard what you are doing just be sure sure you do it the best you youcan youcan youcan can and little by little you will save yourself from the torture you are arelio arenow sow now enduring BRIDGE SUrFER SUPPER pear ear Mint MIM Blair 1 I wonder if sr you OU could help me with problem Ilam Iam giving a small bridge upper supper and am sin at a loss los to know some come thing different yet delicious and Dd at the e same lame time Ume easy I to to prepare I boUld be very grateful for some sug- sug front from you MRS P P. p For far the late summer supper that thai young oung people like try hot sandWIches sandwiches sand sand- sand sand- Iches with the cold drinks Spread I minced and seasoned cooked chicken chick chick- en n on slices of buttered bread Put Pu together firmly Dip in bea beaten en egg mixed with a little milk and nd brown both sides in butter Serve with a plate of at various kinds of cheese chees and your cold beverage Crab lobster tuna or or diced veal may be used In the he same way Va Add a tomato jelly salad lad or stuffed tomato to with hard- hard foiled oiled peeled and cut eggs length lengthwise wise wis with paprika sprinkled sprinkle on top and s rne e kind of ot relish pickles or olives and you have a a supper most people leople will like Finish off with salted alte nuts and candies or if ff yEu WIsh vish something more for lor the sweet tooth add a Bavarian cream or at ice cream with date bars 4 Open sandwiches are also aiso vcr very nice for tor evening parties as are also I r J Letters questions question and requests for advice should bo be addressed to MISS l BETTY BLAIR DrAIR HEARTS HEART'S IIA HAVEN VEN THE rHE JE TELEGRAM LEG RAlI RAl I SALT LAKE CITY ITY Write legibly leg legi- bly upon only one side lido of ot tho the paper Sit It It is that necessary ou append tho the right name and address but thees will wUl be bo held in strict confidence confidence dence arid and will not appear in print Questions Involving advertising Information cannot bo ho answered 1 s sandwiches cut on the lengthwise s surface of the bread add nd filler roll 1 like a jelly roll wrap tightly in a t vel to and slice off Another supper menu menu in which you y ou may be is crab crabmeat crabmeat meat meata a la Ia king jellied fruit truit salad n nut ut bread sandwiches favorite beverage beverage bev bev- c rage and ice cream with spice nut ut c cookies NEW NE FL FLAMES M S FOR OLD LD D Dear or Miss Blair Blair I have hll thought I was In love with two tao or three thru boys before now but now that I have lve met a certain boy and gone out with him I 1 am more sure lure this time that It Is is' Is' Is the tho real thing But I will see ace him only e or twice more this summer and nd I I IBm am Bm afraid the same amt thing will happen that has hasS hap happened ened before with the other boys S that his love lo for tor me rue will gro grow cold I dont don't know whether there Is something some Bome- thing wrong with me or whether It Is because the boys always go ou out of ot town tor for the summer or Just wl what at It Jt Is but they always come back with no Interest in me ate whatever Each time I hato Iho felt bad a as my In Interest Interest Interest In- In terest h hasn't hant nt cooled so soon What can canI 1 I do to keep this boys boy's Interest In me alive Each time the boys have promised to write to me me but If It they have done so so BO It was easy clay to see It was an effort on their part And some of ot them theta haven't written at nt all aU I am 17 years ears old and If It things keep on this thIs' way It wont won't be long until there will be another bachelor girl added to the long list and railing at the men I because they are lUe sour Bour grapes I dont don't want to be like this TOBY I The only thing I have to suggest i is s that you interests aliven alive I in n the young young men who dont don't go go gc I away for the summer A romance that has lost its flavor is worse than thas than I Iwine wine that has lost i its kick Its It's I j just flat fIat and tasteless Your You new interests should help to tc I 1 revive old Interests when the summer summer sum sum- mer boys return It ItIs is the girl who keeps up the appearance ce of being I popular who attracts popularity to tc herself Dont Don't t allow yourself to lie on en the waiting f t the re return urn 1 of ot the old romance Keep active anc and I you will be more Interesting to both I old and new flames iQ KITTENS NS FOR GIFTS Four very ery sweet kittens that have end endeared red themselves to their owners must now find new homes holnes S See them then at E t Seventeenth South or call l Hyland d R. |
