Show I 1 PLEA FOR HAPPINESS 1 OF GIRL FOUNDED ON 4 KNOWLEDGE OF LOVE By BETTY BLAIR Romance is the all too fragile in which many attempt to sail the thc sea of matrimony Unless manned by the unseen power of love it cant can't escape being dashed to pieces in the rapids rapids rapids rap rap- ids that are arc re inevitably a part of every marital ocean i I Dear Deaf Miss Blair A girl whom I greatly respect Is Js in a tough spot and cant can't decide which way to turn A certain young man has asked her to marry him and I also am amone one who has put in ina ina a bid for her hand I The man of oC the thc Clr first t tI I case is 21 good looking has a car carand carand carand and money I amnot amnot am amnot not so good looking am 25 25 but am steady teady and think the world of the girl who is 18 She has bas had a tough time of at it and the I money money- seems to have its 1 For the past year the thee tho girl has been on her own and when the spots got tough I would carry carry her herI I over when others lagged behind Her mother died and for a few years she he was reared by her father fa father father fa- fa ther and relatives At t present she is working and i is happy I When I declared my intentions she he said she considered mine more of a B brothers brother's love than that of a B sweetheart As for myself it has been the real thing right from I Ithe the start although I did not show it by affection and kisses We Ve get on wonderfully together We Ve have ha yet to have have- our first real quarrel I offered to get out of the picture when she quarreled I and split with the other othel young man for a time but she wouldn't have it She said she always wanted me to be in the picture She has known the other young man only two months She claims if It they could not make malee a go of It there arc are always s the divorce courts to lead the way out I claim she would wreck her whole life Ufe by going into marriage with this thought in mind I also claim this feeling she has for the other man is infatuation and that it should be bo real love in order to marry She says the other will come in time Which is right Ot 01 Of course if anything went wrong rong I r would be the first to come to the rescue Do you think my decision is logical IN DOUBT An Any girl who marries with the point of view that there is always the divorce court as an avenue o of oC deliverance if her marriage doesn't doesn turn out happily is very apt to wind windup windup windup up in the divorce court And any girl who marries on the foundation of infatuation hoping that love will wil follow V is due for the disappointment disappoint disappoint- ment of her life liCe Infatuation is a very strong current current current cur cur- rent that is apt to sweep one of off ones one's feet teet into the undertow It is entirely different from the steady stream of love that makes for themore themore the themore more pro probable able navigation of at the marital bark Furthermore two months is all too short a time lime for two people to become well enough acquainted for tor marriage Even though she may marry the younger man in the long run she should give ample time for acquaintanceship to blossom into a knowledge of each others other's tastes inter interests temperaments temperaments temperaments tempera tempera- ments and altogether a greater knowledge of of the thc characters of each Although your our plea is doubtless made in the hope the girl will accept accept accept ac ac- ac- ac your proposal of ot marriage in preference to that of f the other man and therefore therdore has in it a selfish motive motive motive mo mo- tive it is none the less Jess sound so far as its principle goes You want her to be happy whether it be with you or the other man and you want her to make no mistake at the thc outset out out- set Cant Can't you induce her to take more snore time for her answer She is very young and can scarcely know her own mind She Sho Is just at the age when romance seems to be bc all there is of oC life or love and she has much to learn about both Make her feel that whether or not she marries you you want her herto herto hero to o be happy and that happiness happiness r Letters questions and requests for lor advice should be addressed to MISS BETTY BLAIR HEARTS HEART'S HAVEN THE TilE TELEGRAM I SALT LAKE CITY Write legibly upon only one side of 01 the paper It Is necessary that tint you oU append the right name and nd address but these will b be held In strict confidence I dence deuce and will vilI not appear jn print Questions Involving advertising ad information information in in- formation cannot be answered ans I V I 1 mu must t have more than romance to carry it long along But dont don't hope too much for yourself while she is Inthe in inthe inthe the throes es' es of ot her romance for tor while it endures it is like a glowing ma mantle that hides from its Its' wearer all the realities of lIt life TWO HONOR GUESTS Dear Miss Blair I am giving a dinner for two guests of honor They arc are an engaged couple and I am the only host or rather hostess How Howshall Howshall shall shaH I seat scat them which them which one on my right Thank you ou DINNY The elect bride-elect should be on your right and the elect bridegroom on your left Or if you choose hoose not to separate them seat sent the gentleman on your right and his fiance on his right As a rule engaged couples arc are not separated at a dinner given in their honor LETTER LETTE TO DAUGHTERS DAUGHTER'S FRIEND Dear Miss Blair The letter in your column from Mom reminded me of an article I have in my scrapbook It is a B aletter a. a letter leUer a mother handed to the boy who came to take her daughter out It ma may be interesting g to Mom Here it is Dear You are a fine young chap who takes my daughter out quite regularly regularly reg reg- and boUt both bo til she and I like you a great deal Our feelings feelings- for you arc are very ery different nat nat- urany She She thinks of you as a good friend and one with whom she has ga gay interesting evenings You call for her and she dressed in her most attractive clothes joins you merrily to depart fora for fora a a. show or a dance or a party I stay at home and think about you and my feeling toward you is one of partnership I I am trusting trusting trusting trust trust- ing to you OU the most precious thing I own Perhaps that sounds sentimental sentimental sen sea but its it's true For years ears I guarded the tiny person that she used to be fed her the right food put her to bed for a long nights night's sleep watched her teeth and temperature and general health and for what That she might grow up and be lovel lovely so that you would choose her for fora a friend I II tried to watch her mental health and the health of oC the spirit within her as well I tried to teach her to be fair and honest and straight to regard herself as valuable something valuable something not to be neglected or thrown away care care- lessly I dont don't know how well wen I succeeded You'll Youn know lenow better than I for you will know her better better better bet bet- ter than I. I Shell She'll say things to you ou she wont won't to me mc just as I said things to her father I couldn't have said to my mother something like e a gardenia gardenia gardenia gar gar- denia to me the me-the the flower so overwhelmingly overwhelmingly overwhelmingly over over- white and sweet And Im I'm letting you borrow that flower lower for a B while All An I ask of you OU is that you keep it in cool fresh air and that it shall shan come back to me fresh and sweet and white still If It you ou have ever seen a gardenia brown and shriveled around the edges of the petals you'll know what I mean Take care of her for me Im I'm trustIng trustIng trustIng trust- trust Ing you lad Her Mother TERRY Thank you Terry Terr There is no at mother who will wm not not appreciate your contribution for every mother of x a I daughter laughter or daughters has felt this very ery thing surging through hc her heart beart She cant can't know Jenow all an that transpires transpires tran tran- spires in the life liCe of her daughter she can only trust that her teachings teach teach- ings will have taken root in fertile soil and trust to their permanent growth and to the value her companions com corn unions will place on the priceless priceless- ness of the blossom Let us do dc something for or you some time I |