Show it o < r nB TBUE CNTLEMA KCVJ Mr rrlirall s l ird feature to Young Men ReV Mr Thrall delivered the third lecture lec-ture of his sofies of lectures to young men in the Independence Hall last Sunday Sun-day evening wellfilled house greeted the reverend gentleman showing that his efforts in behalf of young men are being appreciated The following is an outline of his f lecture enfitled I H THE TRUE GENTLEMAN In order that there should be a true gentleman there must be a true man Fine manners without good heart are like atovepolish They are laid on cold Heat and use destroy their brilliancy The true gentleman must be a man of character It is wonderful however how far mere external manners will go in this world People are like caged animals they like to be approached with delicacy A man of weak character and small intelligence i 1 if possessed of tact and courtesy will often succeed when a gruff blunt man of I twice his moral qualities and intellectual abilities will fail Dress and address amount to a graat deal in the effort to get onin the world Society is made up of personalities personalities that have their prejudices their obstinacies their I jealousies and their conflicting interests In influencing these personalities and leading them insinuation generally goes farther than push persuasive manners skill and consideration avail far more than brute force The secret of good manners lies in the rule Put yourself in his place Rnrej I became a great horsetrainer because he had the ability to imagine himself a horse and treat his horse as a horse Shrewd men of bad intentions conceal their villainy under the garb of gracious manners and smooth courtesy The serPent ser-pent in the garden would not have succeeded suc-ceeded in persuading Eve to eat the apple ap-ple if he had not addressed her like a gentleman Now that which can make bad men I seem good and give a semblance of strength even to the weak men of character char-acter and ability cannot afford to ignore much less despise Some manly men affect ignore manners beneath them but something essential to perfection is felt to be wanting in these men Habitual Habit-ual courtesy is a mark of the highest civilization civ-ilization Men should cultivate good manners or rather go deeper and cultivate good breeding Be a well bred man In the broadest sense good breeding lies in a thoroughgoing sense of the universal fitness fit-ness of things In order to be a gentleman a man must learn his own true place in life and nature na-ture and he must keep that place lIe knows that he is not everything but that he is something and he combines true dignity with true humility The Judge who clothed with the majesty ma-jesty of the government and armed with I the will of the people knows how tobear personal insult withoutresentment and I can yet permit the law t6 have its way WIthout weakness eXhIbits this iunuu mental quality ofthe true gentleman The conceited man is not a true gentleman gentle-man neither is the cringing man nor the immoral man nor the irreverent man Fundamentally < then the gentleman must be selfrespecting yet humble But this rule must go further The true gentleman gen-tleman in his finest Development practices prac-tices the golden rule Do unto others us you would that they should do unto you He even practices the higher interpretation of that rule Do unto others as they wish you to do unto them The gentlemans first instinct is to put himself in anothers place and act accordingly He is not sus picious envious much less malicious he is delicato in his instincts never unduly I familiar generous and selfsacrificing He is not a gossip si newsvendor a traducer of character and he never needlessly says or does anything that may wound anothers feelings The Alaska Indian Alexy who sacri ficed his life in the endeavor to obtain food for the rest of the expedition and who went hungry that he might bring in the more birds for the party was a gen tleinan General Grant who orderec the Union troops to cease firing cannon in celebration of his victory over Lee lest they wound the feelings of their prisoners prison-ers was a gentleman A gentleman must be magnanimous Measured by this standard a gentleman gentle-man will treat everything first as it deserves to be treated second as he deserves to treat it The first act is justice the second introduces the sweet savor of mercy it involves truth honor selfrespect magninimity delicacy and introduces the important element of personal per-sonal worth and dignity Such a quality can not be put ofT or on with fine clothes and to suit the occasion A true gentleman is always a gentleman even among boors This quality completes com-pletes the work and makes the man a gentleman |