Show I Io A Matter of Expediency 5 y vv o BY DOROTHY DIX A 1 DISGUSTED woman who signs 1 herself One Ono Vho Vio Smiles But la lit Tired of or Doing It It writes a letter letter letter let let- ter In which sho asks why wiy a woman is always advised ad to meet her husband with a glad Ind sweet smile and to make his home happy happ for Cor or him She wants tants to kno know why h it Isn't Just Justas as much a mans man's place to make a a. happy homo horno as at It Is a D. womans woman and why It isn't just as much up to him to do the grinning act as ns It Is to liar her I I To ro 10 which f- f fould 1 would rep reply that marI marriage mar- mar I Ii Is 16 a game that Isn't played ac accord according according cord cording Ins to Hoylo Holo and that the rights i and the wrong have nothing to do with I tho the case Furthermore that a man may maybe maybe maybe be everything on earth oarth that Is good god and anti sweet and lovely o el kind and generI gener- gener 1 I ous to his wife wire flU BUT he lie Is never er just to herAs her As S a matter of oC equity it I is Just as much n a mans man's place to meet his lib wire wife with a jo joyous ous smile as It Is hers heas to mee meet him It is Just as much his duty duly to make malte the home borne peaceful and serene I as It Il Is hers It Is Just as dl disenchanting disenchant enchant In ing to a woman for Cor her husband to come to breakfast with a two dasI days days' I stubble of ot beard on his face as It Is to toI I him him for Cor her to appear In a frowsy I mother hub hubbard bard and curl papers and anda I a stout gentleman with a bay hOoY window 0 1 f ftP I ant nn ont In L IC UL JL U V Il I. I l more romantic J D ii cl In a womans woman's ns eyes oyes th than I Ia u C looking feather lad lady does to a man V Why h then should women be bo adjured 1 I to keep themselves young and fascinating tn ing t and to lo always alwa's present a n smiling I and cheery countenance to their husI hus- hus I I bands while no one says as a's a word to lo a aman aman aman man about making himself pcr persona grata to his wife I Because it would DC ne merely merel a waste of oC breath to offer men advice all that they I woul wouldn't nt take When a man marries he that performing that noble and sel seif self sacrificing I nJ ng act g g yes him the tue I right ll ht to do o as he lie pleases plea es within his lila own I bailiwick He lie considers that his sup- sup i tho the home entitles him to grouch In It as ns much as he hI likes es and that his having kept lilB his wife from being un an old maid should fill cm her with such gratitude gratl- gratl tude that sho she should be willing to tJ bo boon boon boon on her knees to him no matter how he hc treats her The Tha masculine attitude town toward Id I'd marriage marriage mar mar- Is as a general thing that of oC a ahi hi high h god who ho suffers himself to be he bev v There Is nothing mutual about It It Its It's the thc woman who must mURt do llo dothe dothe the salaaming and forehead knocking ln and the general kowtowing Tho most that a man thinks can be expected of ot I him I 1111 Is for Cor him to bo ho graciously pleased with the a adulation offered to him I Of course this Isn't what a n anticipates when she gets married marriell No o I indeed Far otherwise r Ise She Sho expects to occupy the pedestal herself or at dt the to stand on a level le with her busi hURand husband bus hus band and and for tor them thorn to strive e equally toI to- to make happy home i ther to a a. I She soon roon finds out however er that In marriage It Is a it condition and not nola a a aI her and that If It I theory that confronts I there IH IS any a adapting of oC tho the ono one to the theother other to be done she has hns to do Yo t t. t and andiC andI I if iC the home Is to be happy she's got to 10 I I the tile Job joh Otherwise there will be discord and andI divorce I Nobody will deny den that It Is la hard an and unfair on women that the wife should I have hac to do the propitiating and the plea pleasing and that she should always have havo to walk warily to keep off OCr of oC her I husbands husband's toes while he feels reels at pet Pc perfect feet liberty to trample all nil over her little feelings with hl his number ten boots and be as ns gruff c and Impolite as 38 he ho pleases I It would cheer a woman up Just as much after a n. lon long hard harti monotonous days day's work cooking and e sewing ln and baby bab tending to have havo her husband come with a 8 bright and cheery smil as home homo It does him to be met b by a glad oo V I f a. a Only a 3 man roan never com considers that It Is Isun to him to be Little Sunshine unless unbar up un happens happen to feel that wa way itay Some Some- he lie has got goot to do the optimistic stunt stun body hody ol else c U it Is so household or dreary In n a hat It drives people to drink Th Therefore There There- rc- rc that fore r the wife has to smile It It would be bc Just as soothing to i i womans woman's temper to have havo her hr husband rub her fur the rl right ht way and To f conceal the things that annoy h her herI r to It Is s to a mans man's her gaze as temI tem tem- I I from Crom for hl his wife wire to sidetrack all 1 Of oC the T per subjects cr that are arc like a rod rOl flag to a aI I mad bull bun to him huh and to cover cler up all of or orI I 1 family happenings that arc aro sure to toI the MIO I I him and ret get ct on hi his hili nerves er I. I r rile husband doesn t take I I I Oril a n the ic to bo 10 tactful and diplomatic trouble wife and unless In a house with f n his IIla M ii keePs opa kc pg the domestic somebodY j lubricated you ou can cat hoar gar i Us creak creak- Iii er cry Mi and ind groan fl for blocks around bare baro facts In the casc case arc aro that In In- Tho rho I I h a as aA A man ninn w won n t rel iret along I I lis wire wife she has to get set along alone with hIm him lenee women hol hold down the time perpetual Job of ot salvo salve spreaders It would be he Just as pleasant to a woman for tor her husband to put on his open faced clothes of ot an evening and anci devote ote himself to entertaining her and talking about the fashions and whether hoop boon 81 skirts arc likely to eo come me back again or not as IlS It Is Js to a a. man for tor his wife Ite to marcelle her hair and put on her pr prettiest frock and sp spend nd the evenin evening evening even even- in ing trying to converse converso with him on oem the stock market or the green grocery trade or whether the politicians aro are really going after atter the trust or are Just to to get etC et b bought UD no Only OnIS' a aman iah Ji I. I mt t g io to make aka this gol t exertion of dressing up UT Just for tor hla hin wife or bo bore hort talking to her unless unless unless' un un- un- un less less' ho he happens to feel le like it I. I and somebody In a house had hall got to tear off of some conversation to keep It I from Crom being like a deaf deat and dumb asylum In lii Inmost Inmost most homes th the tho husband sit sits up as 38 silent as ae rh tIme the grave rae Hence lence th the tho wife's tongue has to run lUI like Ilko Iko a Cuter flutter mill mi because she has hOos to talk for Cor two 4 No o. o One Who ho Smiles mieR But Is Tired of oC Dole Doing It I. I there Is no reason wh why you Ou should smile any an more than your husband hus hus- band does docs But Dut you ou will wi find that If Ie you dont don't smile smie therell there'll be no sm o smiles In your our household It I Isn't ht a question Queston of oc duty for Cor you ou to smile Its It's Is I's all al a matter of oC expediency and anal In matrimony u a wise woman learns to take talc all al of or the short shortcuts shortcuts cuts culs to peace antI and happiness |