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Show i" m SOCIAL AMENITIES FOR M H THE SCHOOL GIRL S3 -i VERY pirl w ho has read "The Water 1 Babies" remembers the description of dear old Mrs. Iloasyouwouldbedoni--by. "When any ono looks at the pretty jlady they cannot leil what the color of !her hair Is or of her ryes All they can ' think of is thnt she has the sweetest, kindest, kind-est, tenderest, funniest, moment face they 'eer saw. or i"-cr want to see." Not a bit like her ugly sister, Mrs. Bedonebyus-lyoiidid. Bedonebyus-lyoiidid. who was "all gnarly and horny and scaly and prickly." ' If ever two characters were drawn from life thescj two olJ fairies are Mis. Doanyouwoiildbedoncby, to whose visil.s ; all the children looked forword with smh !gle-e, and Mrs. Bedouebyasyoudid, whom I no one ever wanted to see and whose com-jing com-jing was expected with dread. The world (to-day can he divided up into two sorts of people, those who go uioii the prinelph that they must pay back in the coin which they were gic.n and the happier ones who never pay back, but are ulways giving out in a spirit in which they would like lo be rewarded if they took i he return at ill inco n-:idf rntioi) J It is a ditnculf thing in the complex iso.ial life of to-du- always to follow the teaehiug of Mrs. Iioasyoi, wouldbcdone- by. Mrs Bedoncbyasyoudid's motto is so generally practised iu every question J of social engagements. The fact thnt the ! majority of one's associates arc working on the principlo of even give ami take i makes it especially hard when planning a j party not to ask only those who are them-ise)cs them-ise)cs giving entertainments and exclud-1 exclud-1 ing the friends of whom one is really fond, j 1-.i to whom no invitations are "owed" I because it has not been possible for that girl lo give any dauocs or luncheons herself, her-self, i To be able to put one's 6elf mentally in! j.MKiiher's place iu other words, to get atj the point of view of another person is a I rare faculty, but one which leads j to .much happiue.-s and popularity, provided: the theory is Worked out as the fairy' j Hons) ouwonldbe loneby would do it. This, j I in brief, is the w hobj secret of syro pa thyv 'and the girl wiio cultivates n habit of j sympathy may well )c envied tho friends! which will be hers through life. There is wonderful charm, too, iu i)lo sympathetic person, and what girl dors' inol long to hhkcss ihi.s, the me.st desirn-jble, desirn-jble, tho most elusive and the most inde-i 'finable of all attributes? It is charm, julonu which makes the leaot beautlfulj girl attractive and the lack of it which explains the frequent unpopularity of the j girls of most perfect type and classic jfjvuture. They are said to be cold and are dubbed self-couseions or nt wortj 'conceited, but really they are lacking in ; jeharni because they have not ucqmrvdi 's in pa thy. They are uose-llish, perhaps, and generous often to a fault, but they do not carry their luvishness to the point of asking before the-y givo: "Were 1 so situated what would please me most?" Fortunately it is not neccs-sary to be clever to possess cluirui. Appearance, apart from expression, has. nothing to do with it; possessions nor stutiou in lifo jcouut not at all The color of her hair or ol her eyes Was not even noticed, only that her face was tbe most charming one would ever want to bcc such is Mrs. lo-asyouwouldbedoneby. lo-asyouwouldbedoneby. The girl who wunii to make an impression upon all whom she meets can do so far belter by leaving an atmosphere of pleasant feeling feel-ing and a picture of a bright and happy face ttu'n ni'nply a vision of a smart hut Ar a girl well turned out but adding no desire for future fri-.nl.-hip. 'It's rin interesting fact in life, incident-alt.', incident-alt.', tli'it 'hose vn) most faithfully "do , as they would be done by" are the very oues wiltO find themselves overwhelmed by ' kindnesses from others, in this way carry- i ing out both precepts, for they arc thus I bcinj "done by as they did." i i |
