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Show f j Dorothy Dix 1 alks j 1 TO PRAISE OR NOT TO PRAISE m l By DOROTHY iJJA, the Woil.l s JJiii(vt -.U ,)nlnn Writer j I "Is It proper for a wife who loves her husband dearly, and admires him very much, to praise him to his face, or should she remain silent and keep her good opinion of him to herself? Please answer tliis question and oblige. It Is a pretty safe rule lo judge other peoplo by ourselves. Mary, and to treat them as we would like to be treated. Just put yourself in your . husband's place and sco how you would feel about it. If you woro a man. aud were mar- ried to a woman whom you loved devotedly, de-votedly, would you like her to bo as cold, and dmnb, and as lacking in enthusiasm en-thusiasm as a clam or ice, or would you like her to be warm, and human, and responsive? Which brand of love do you prefer the kind that you have to lake for granted, and that may be habit, or a sense of duty, or the love that assures you every hour of the day by word and sign, that It is a living, palpitating reality? I Of course a mau may know, deep down in his soul, that his wife still loves him because he has not heard of her pricing tickets for Reno and she ?eems happy and contented, and satisfied satis-fied with her bargain in the husband lino, but do you think lhat that sort of canned domestic devotion, however nutritious it may be as a daily diet, has got nhy real pep and flavor to if Don't you think that the man who is fed on that sometimes hungers for affection af-fection with more flavor to It? Don't I you think he wants his wife to tell him that she Is still madly, wildly, roman-tically roman-tically in love with him. and that he is ithc only man in the world to her, and that she watches for his step with just j as mauy palpitations of the heart now 'as she did when she was a hridc? I Men Like Surprise j And if you were a man. Mary, and jwere married to a woman in whor.e jeyes you longed to shine, wouldn't you like to have her give you the glad ihand and tell you that sho thought you were the handsomest thing that ever lived, and that no matter if you had developed a bay window and iost most of your hair, lhat you still looked to her like a godling'' Wouldn't you like to have your wife hold up her hands in awe and admiral-tion admiral-tion or you over time you pulled off a good business deal? Wouldn't you like her to show you off before company com-pany by asking you to tell your best story, and to quote your. opinion, as if 1 that settled every subject, or would you prefer her to keep mum about all ,your good qualities and onlv call vour j attention to your faults? j If you wore a man, Mary, and spent i all of your life toiling to support your j family, and to keep your wife and chil- irtrpn enft nnrl wot-w. ic ..11 . I uww u "v. "uui u tm LIIUl uu goi out of your hard labor was Just vour ( board and clothes, and those the worst in the family would you prefer a wife who 'took the sacrifice you made of yourself as just a matter of course, and who never expressed to you one word of thanks, or appreciation, or Avould It cheer you along your way to (have a wife who told you continually1 lhat she understood how fine, and unselfish, un-selfish, and brave, and uncomplaining! you were, and that she thanked God 1 on her knees continually for having bestowed the blessing of such a husband hus-band upon her? You won't find it hard to answer those questions from a woman's standpoint. stand-point. You will say, of course, a worn an wants to be told that sho Is loved, that she wants to know that her bus-' band still admires her, and that she wants him to appreciate all the sacrifices sacri-fices that matrimony demands of her. 1 Believe me, Mary, men are just as ' hungry for love and just as anxious for a little praise, and long juat as much for a little understanding, and appreciation, and gratitude as any woman does. They are ashamed to come right out and ask for it as we woman do, but just try giving a poor, tired, overworked, neglected husband a few kind words, and you will see that ho Is just as grateful ns a stray dog is for a pat on the head. Praise Cocktail of Domesticity I Praise Is the cocktail of domesticity. I It is the appetizer that makes famllv. I life palatable. It is the magic that1 I converts drab duly Into rosy pleasure, !lhat turns a homely face across the table from us into a thing of beauty; that gives wit and point lo the prosaic chronicle of everyday life. No man lingers away from his own fireside, if he knows that his wife Is I waiting with the laurel wreath ready, to crown him on his return home. No man minds the work he does, if his wife- is going to tell him how she appreciates ap-preciates every lick he has put in for her. No man ever discovers that his wife has grown old and fat if she shows him to himself as forever yohng and beautiful. j It is only when the supply of salve runs out that the household machinery j begins to creak, and groan, and fall I apart ! And listen, Mary, If you don't tell your, husband that you love him, and i that you admire him, some other woman wom-an will, A man cannot live without j flattery any more than hp can wilhom I air. No ni3n can exisl without some woman to tell him how handsome, and wonderful he is. and when wives cease to do this husband go out and hunt ap some lady who docs. Secret of the Vamps That is the secret ot the vamp, and explains why so many middle aged men are easy marks for any woman with a glib tongue. They are" starving for appreciation and praise, and will wallow nnyth'ng that is handed to them. Think it over, Mary. oo j |