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Show 1; (LOVE and MARRIED LIFfi III : the noted author I I I Idah MGlone Gibson j I! ; WE GO FOR A RIDE. For the next few weeks things wen ; f on rather smoothly. I did not sec I ; Madam Gordon. In fact I had not I ; seen her slnco she visited me at the hospital. However, sho sent mo a number num-ber of polite messages by jny nurse. : I was soon able to go riding, and Alice H took me often In her olectrlc. John ?T asked nie rather diffidently one day it I would go motoring with him. and seemed quite pleased when I accepted I the Invitation with alacrity. ' "I didn't know but you would be ' afraid to go with me, after our acci- 5 dent," he said, f "Not at all," I answered. "And don't i I you think, John, now that I am well j enough to go out, I can dispense with , J the nurse? Sho lins boon vorv swenr 1 !to me. but I am really tired of having her here.'.' .... "I'm awfully glad to hear you say 'that, Katheiine, said John, for I shall be much relieved when I can have you all to myself again. Would ou like to go up to the Country club?" he asked. 1 knew by the way John's eyes rested rest-ed on me that he thought I was looking look-ing particularly well, and he had a pride In showing me off to his friends, but he didn't tell me so. I wonder why when people live together to-gether and see each other every day, thoy do forget to voice the pleasant thoughts they have to one another? I do not think I am inordinately vain, ' and I know by John's face that when I say something complimentary to ihlm, he enjoys It. Someone vcry-lnto-ly, In a study of married life, has said-"In said-"In this life of ours the two rrcat essentials es-sentials are comfort and happiness. We never entirely neglect comfort ' even the poorest and even the hardiest hard-iest take some precaution to equip thf-mselves with a measure of this commodity. But wfln happiness it is. different. With happiness the great- est of all needs, we concern ourselves i not at all. Happiness Is taken for granted. We assume that it will . be ours, and as a general result, it fails us complotoly." I do not believe that one can rind happiness unless one also finds appre-ckttion. appre-ckttion. Then why should appreciation apprecia-tion after marriage be allowed to "with-er? "with-er? I am quite sure that neither men nor women change in themselves and I he whole Litany of a lover is admiration admira-tion for the one loved. It is only relations rela-tions that change, and the intimacies Or married life robin to crowd out entirely en-tirely any sense of admiration and sometimes of consideration. "For to admire and be admired" is a quotation which made an old song pop ular because it appealed to that level 01 approbation in everj human being. A man as well as a woman loves flattery, flat-tery, and I am afraid neither man nor .woman Is apt to gie It to the one with whom they come In daily contact. English Language Inadequate. To repeat a thing once said bores us, and yet there never was a time when I wanted to find another word to express my love and admiration for John, although he often told me that the English ianguage proved 'very in- adequate when one was in love. Oh, 1 learned my bitter lesson so 'soon! It seems to me now, while looking back that even before John and I arrived home little things happened .which made me understand that ho , had completely changed In his feeling 'toward me. I do not mean to say that he did not love me any more, but the old story of the man who chases the car until he Is out of breath and when he catches It, enters and with a sigh of satisfaction composes himself to read his paper, is pregnant with a great truth. ' I don't really think I am too sensitive, sensi-tive, too self-centered, too introspec-, tive, but I was beginning to think that I I hadn't enough to do. John insisted upon keeping every nossible task and decision away from me. I could have spent several enjoyable weeks refurnishing and redecorating our rooms. I could have become really real-ly interested in making a budget to cover our personal and household expenses, ex-penses, if John had given me any kind of an allowance. 1 think that this is one reason there is so much unrest among the married women of the well-to-do middle mid-dle class. It is a kind of fetish with a modern business man lhat his wife shall have nothing to do; v. hen if he knew it, work is the greatest blessing 1 in the world. I think it is b.'ggcr than 1 love, because work almost consoles you for the loss of love and I have i found that love never consoles one for I the loss of some kind of occupation. D;d Not Have Time. One reason why our grandmothers land mothers wore so much mere satisfied satis-fied than we are, was lhat thoy did. not have time to think about themselves. them-selves. Oh, if John would only treat me as 1 a human being! Tho-e were the thoughts that Cam?! rush'ng to mc during our silent ride to the Country club. A number of J'. hn's and my friends came to the pjrch to meet mo as I alighted from the car. and Karl Shop-, ard clasp-d both my hands and kissed one off or the other. "Silly ass!" I heard John mutter. I Tomorrow A Visit to the Club. |