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Show I The wife who wants to be pals with her husband must forego I the dear delight of calling his attention to his faults. s By DOROTHY DIX. The World's Hjghest Paul Woman Writer j One of the tragedies of matrimony is that when what we call love which is born of t!i( glumor of the senses and illusion. Is con there is so often 1 nothing upon which to build a real, endfiring friendship i no i ong nialiiy. no similar ity ii tastes between the man a'hd the woman who have elected to pass the balance of their lives together. Thrv do not even ride the same hobby, but each has mounted on a bucking broncho that bites and kicks and froihs at the mouth whenever it ranges ; longside of the other's fad li Is no wonder that such a couple disagree, that they either openly fight or else go their lonely way through life In that solitude of two that is the ;ndde?t thins nn earth. If you talk to a girl who is romantically roman-tically In love about being friends with the man she is about, to marry, she treats your counsel with cold disdain. Friendship seems as poor a thing to lipr a if you supgesled hydrant water instead of champagne, or bread and butter in plnce of lobster newburg. You cannot make her believe that the time will eer come when she and her Edwin will cease to thrill at the mere sound of each other's voice, or that they will grow weary of nsk-i nsk-i fng each other "Dose ducky-is oo?" f, , tens to I every eouple that ever gets married. :md when it does happen, it is the woman who must save the situation by adapting herself to It and going to work to win her husband's friendship as she w on his love. To do this she must begin with a heroic piece of self denial, that of constituting con-stituting herself a critic on the hearth. There is no attitude that a woman likes so well to assume as that of heri husband s mentor, but this does not conduce to friendship or confidence. We only tell our troubles, and the things we really do, to those of our friends who will Mmpathize with us, and so the wife who wants to be pals with her husband must forego the dear delight of censuring him for his shortcomings ond calling his attention at-tention to his faults. No estrangements estrange-ments between husband and wife are more complete than those which grow out of a man's fear of a woman's tongue. On the otlirr Kinrl no honri hinHs ! a man so closely to a woman as to feel that no matter how the world may misjudge him and deride him. or how bitterly it may criticise him, there is one who will believe in him still, and on whose sy mpathy he may draw as on an inexhaustible bank aeeonnt The next factor in establishing a lasting friendship with a husband is equality. Women are fond of adopting one or two poses before the men they marry. They like to pretend that they are either helpless babie or pin feathered s angels. Now .neither the tool nor the superior altitude goes very far in mar- ' ried life, no matter how effective it was during courtship A sensible man gets very tired in ; a mighty short time of a woman rhat he has to take care of and think for as if she were an infant, or else who i- trying to lecture him up lo her level. ( He neither wants to be uplifted nor to 'play dolls or act as a nurse maid What he wants in a wife is a chum a partner part-ner that he can't rust with his life, his honor or his pocketbook; somebody some-body who will share ill luck and good luck with him with cheerfulness; a woman who will dance with him at a ball or stand with him bark to back and fight with him to the last gasp. Finally, a woman must establish a community of interest with her husband, hus-band, for that 13 the rook bottom foundation on which all lasting friendships friend-ships lasts She must enter into his business plans and share his amusements. amuse-ments. Few wives do this Most women affect asinine stupidity When a man tries to talk to them j about his business, and vawn in his face, yet nearly all men adore talking shop. A man's store or office is the little world whore the drama of his existence works itself out. where his triumphs and failures lake place, whore his tragedies and comedies work themselves out. It may mean Just as much to him. be just as much an achievement to make a corner in salt codfish as it is 'o a politician to be elected to office or an author to publish a new book Ho simply bursts with longing to pour the talo of his exploits into some sympathetic sym-pathetic car, but how can be do it if his wife i urns un her nose at his occupation oc-cupation and declares that she never can understand anything about busl-n busl-n !-,..' Moreover, the majority of women forget how to be jolly companions as soon as they are married. When the average man takes his wife out, she is such a wet blanket on the occasion, objecting to everything, finding fault with every thing, complaining that they can't afford everything, that, as an Irishman might say, the next time he lakes her he leaves her at home. Of course, women will say that their husbands' tastes and interests are uncongenial un-congenial and uninteresting to them. NonseDse. Precious few of us like caviar to start with, but wc keep nibbling nib-bling on it until we cultivate a taste tor it. j t :r j. . . ii i |