Show L Dorothy Dixs Dix's Letter Box TUESDAY 29 BOX DOX t TUESDAY NOV OV 1 NOV 21 DIX LETTER IETTER p mo HOW TO DEAL WITH A MEDDLING FAMILY THE DISCONTENT DISCONTENTED ED WIFE V WHOM NOTHING PLEASES IS IT EVER PROPER FOR A GIRL TO VISIT HER SUITORS SUITOR'S APARTMENT DEAR DOROTHY DIX DIX I I havo have been married for five years earo to a a. good I kind man who li Is tho best husband ever For the last year he has bas been going out one night each week to tho tito home borne of ot a n gentleman friend to play cards with some Borne other men to which I Ibave fi have bare no objections obJection but enter My Iy family My Iy Iy husband and his hili friends play ploy for pennies no no ennes-no no nomore S. S more more and and my people are arc constantly warning es r me of t tho the danger dancer Involved Involved- They tell me one that that- this will Trill whet his desire to play In larger sums c that he hc will become a confirmed gambler and that I should not allow him to go on with this one week a pleasure 4 Myself I cannot see seo any harm In this at b- b all Moreover my husband never dictates to tome tome tor r- r me about what I do What Is III your opinion Miss Dix PERPLEXED WIFE Answer Answer- Answer f My opinion Is that you should tell your our meddling family to keep hands hJ 4 off your affairs and that when you want their advice about dealing with DOROTHY DIX your husband that you will ask uk for It There isn't a particle of harm In your husband having a little game of cards cordi once a week with his friends friend and nd there Isn't the slightest danger of or It leading to anything except an innocent evenings evening's diversion You are a avery acry very cry wise wile young woman to speed him on his hll way Instead of 0 raising railing about I. I 1 as os your family want you to do There Is no quicker or surer way of alienating a husbands husband's affections than by being a spoil sport and standing In ho io way ot of everything he wants to do For no man marries to get t u n jailer Jailor nor does docs he marry to o get somebody to supervise his morals and tell him what he may do doand doand and ind may not do And AnI particularly be he doesn't get married to have his lila wife's people censor him What a man man wants to do he lie Is going to do that Is Is If you married a aman a- a aman aman man and ant not a mouse He lie will wilt do It openly and above shove hoard If tE J you let him but he will lie to you and ani do It behind b your back If it you force him to to for tho the sake of peace So the sensible thing is to do as you have done and acquiesce cordially in your husbands husband's desire to have bave an eve eCo evening ev ning off olT every week with his men friends A friendly game of cards Is Innocent enough but your fern fern- lly lIy is committing a crime In Interfering between you and your husband and trying to make you take a position that Is sure aura to make you quarrel and estrange you from each other You are getting along In peace and harmony now because you are broadminded enough not to try to boss your husband or to In In- Interfere with his hia little personal habits and pleasures But once you abandon that position and begin dictating to him about what he shall do and curtailing his personal liberty the whole atmos atmos' atmosphere atmosphere phere of or your home will be changed Your husband will nat naturally resent being henpecked and he will hate your family for their In attempting att to dictate to him Just tell your jour family that you and your husband feel feet perfectly com corn competent to run your own affairs and that they must keep their out of your pie DOROTHY DIX a a S S C DEAR flEAR MISS MESS DIX DIX l 1 have hare been Jeen married six sis years the most unhappy y LI years of my life My Iy wife Is an Incorrigible malcontent Nothing ever eyer pleases or satisfies her ber I have sent her on trips paid pal 1 her family's ex expenses x a. that they might visit her ber kept a maid as she ahe rill not cook cr r rdo do housework and ond have spent and lost thousands 1 of dollars In moving to new cities where she thought she would w ul 1 like to live Jive Now ow I 1 have reached the limit of ot endurance She has lisa gone Ione to another city and ro- ro r fuses to return home and anti I simply cannot break bieak up my business again to satisfy her foolish whims What can I do LOOSE ENDS Answer Cut off the ladys lady's allowance unless you would rather sup support port her at a distance than endure endure- her at t home If you want her back refuse to pay her bills unless she will come home and do her duty as a wife The hand that holds the the roost Evidently you have done your best to make your wife satisfied and happy and equally evident Is fact is one of the women that nothing will content conte t. t Therefore there is ls s no use In wasting w any more moro effort in trying to please pleas her BO so do the best hest you ou can for tor yourself You 1011 will havo have to find your consolation in your business so dont don't let her drag you around from pillar to post any more but stay where you have havo havethe the best opportunities of success Any man is foolish who lets his wife ruin his life either by her extravagance or 01 by her restlessness Have enough strength to read the riot act to her and tell her that unless she Is will will- willIng Ing to do her part that you are going to break up the ship You may be very sure that she will have more respect for you and care more for you if she sees that she cannot drag you around by the nose No woman ever really loved the man She henpecked DOROTHY DIX DEAR flEAR DOROTHY DIX DIX ly My family objects to the tho man with whom I am amin amIn 5 in love on the tho ground that he be is too old for mo me and refuse to permit him to come to the house to visit me one So the only way nay I have of seeing him is going to his apartment Do Vo you yost think this is wrong JACQUELINE Answer Ans er Why my dear child child it is suicidal It Is something that a decent girl doesn't do do and no matter how innocent you are nor with what respect the man treats you scandal would tear teal your reputation to tatters if it were known It Isn't enough for a girl to be good She has to look good and avoid doing the things that compromise her Your elderly suitor knows this even If it you do not and he has small regard for your reputation If It he permits jou OU au to visit him in his isis apartment Either listen to your parents and give him up or else marry him but dont don't go to his rooms DOROTHY DIX Copyright by Public Ledger |