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Show r 1 iatlileen Norris Says: The Girl With No Boy Friend Bell Syndicate. WNU Features. (Iff" y yS r a language class Russian or Spanish. You'll meet interesting people zet at evening classes" KATHLEEN NORRIS llMPLY am not interesting, inter-esting, and I know it," writes Georgia Carter, -a Georgia city. "I am .ave a good job, I live in apartment, I have no Y, and I am completely j:resting. Oh, andjl am llid-looking. sel like Galsworthy's lit-an, lit-an, 'Am I alive?' Life Ion all about me. Girls frying their hearts out Soldiers gone away, they Welcoming them back, "-hunting, job -hunting, Hg babies. The newspa-,;hriek newspa-,;hriek with headlines. In liwn we had a big fire, a nod, political changes of ,pst drastic sort none of i;hes me. c friendi are married. They soabies, I smile at all the ' But even the babies are not ;ed, and as for the husbands I have sense enough to keep rfieir way. I dress nicely, eat pave a luxurious bed and a o-t room, and at 58 I will "'lough money saved and ln-,,"to ln-,,"to give me a modest income M, Am I not lucky! So lucky Seriously think of suicide. j;XS ago mother used to tell jtnterest men by getting them It makes my face hot to re-1r re-1r how often I started into fi conversations about law, Clicking, planes, real estate, 11!?. The man would look at '"nkly, answer in a monosyl-0ind monosyl-0ind turn to the girl on the ide. I simply can't do it. Afraid of Future. ;e years between 30 and 58 e me. There's something scaring to a woman of 30 in ill ahead. Perhaps it's easier ;lVhat shall I do? My Job is , 'endent of the mall order de-ieit de-ieit of a drug firm. I have loosO girls under me. They all ffli'e answers better than I do." dn nr ink' sjc.'r In the letter she says lUS father was an invalid for lCCjears, unable to stand noise .e'l .presence of strangers, and Hpn he died, in her 21st year, i'lier sank into an invalidism as complete. orgla had no youth, no joy- JJhood of home entertaining he security. No wonder she stiffnecked and awkward jfliien, fumbling about for in which to interest them, rfwing or half-suspecting tvjincomfortable heart that Pjilcst thing in which to inter- is herself. .I'ou have to be Interested In . if anyone else is to find g resting, Georgia. So stop attract outsiders, and at-jrsclf at-jrsclf to yourself. 'JjjjJ are many ways to do this. jliH sound flat and uncon-but uncon-but you only have to try Jit them honestly to be re-Jfp re-Jfp enthusiasm, first for your ir and then for the lives t you. Jiet a Country riace. u!'lf; out of the two-room city -tit, and find some small ijtlie country, near town. Buy villike It enough; as well now Jfwat that future date, when j 4 have saved enough money J 1 old age. Enjoy it now and iJl'old age, too. You'll never -rJ'self at a loss for conversa- y cuvuu y,,. , . seriously of suicide. . . A NEW APPROACH Many young people in big cities can't seem to fit in socially. so-cially. They are fairly successful success-ful in business or professional life, but they go on, year after year, unable to attract anyone who could possibly be considered in marriage. So they remain single. Eventually they drift into their thirties. Then suddenly one day there comes a panicky realization that the future will not take care of them; that without vigorous trying, they are facing fac-ing a drab middle age, and sad, lonely old age. Such a situation is presented in a letter Miss Norris reprints in today's paper. A girl just turned 30 has a good job, a nice New York apartment, good clothes, in fact, practically practical-ly everything. She says she is good looking, well educated, and agreeable. Somehow, nevertheless, nev-ertheless, all the men she meets soon turn to someone else. It just seems impossible for her to be interesting, no matter what she tries to talk about. Miss Norris advises this unhappy un-happy girl that she must take a new approach; try to get interested in-terested in something herself. She could go to evening school, for instance. There are always intelligent people taking night classes, and among her classmates class-mates there are sure to be some who ivould be glad to number her among their friends. Another An-other possibility would be to move to a small place in the country, just outside of town. Here she could develop new interests gardening, poultry raising, perhaps. Soon she ivould have a host of new acquaintances. ac-quaintances. She ivould never be at a loss for something to talk about, either. I I 1 tion when you can talk of your fire place, the things that will and won't grow in your garden, the difficulty in getting furnace oil and a secondhand second-hand refrigerator, and the ridiculous kitten that has adopted you. Get some picturesque clothes, even If you haven't nerve enough to wear them anywhere except in the house. Ask an occasional office friend to come out to lunch some Sunday, and warn him or her that he or she may have to help weed. Join a language class Russian Rus-sian or Spanish. You'll meet interesting inter-esting persons of all ages at evening eve-ning Spanish classes. Then budget your time as well as your income. Three hours in the garden on Sundays, extra jobs about the house, written menus for the week, church, just so much radio amusement, and one or two letters, or your language lesson, written to radio music late in the evening. When you're thoroughly absorbed in all these new activities, you'll discover dis-cover that someone else is, too. The man who came out to help you weed will want to come again; your nev friend in the Russian class will ask you if he may not come and do your language study with you; a neighbor neigh-bor will step over to borrow a hose and suggest a movie. And you will be so absorbed In your own interests that you will be amazed to feel deep gratitude when you have a whole evening to yourself. |