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Show VISITING MANNERS. rti Proper Way to llehara as ftutst or Hostess. Many of us who prldo ourselves on our rood breeding nro singularly blind is to what is duo to friends who nro visiting pcoplo unknown to us, or who oro entertaining guosts whom wo havo never mot. Nor aro wo moro assured as to somo of tho points of etiquette toward to-ward our own guests, nnd to our own hosts when wo mako au occasional Hitting Hit-ting from home. It is useless to decry etlquotte by taylng that tho bost manners in nil eases aro thoso which hurt no ouo. This is true as a general law, but thcro always aro some points which Icavo no room for experiments ns to what will hurt another, and which yet may bo settled onco for all by a fow rules. If you havo an acquaintance who Is cutortnluing friends whom sho wishes you to meet, it is your duty to call promptly, nnd if posslblo offer somo hospitality to both guests aud hosts. If tho position Is reversed, and your friend is visiting pcoplo unknown to you. novor go to see your frieud without with-out loavlng a card for the hostess. If you give any ontertaiument for tho friond, bo very sure to invito her hosts also. It docs not follow that your Invention In-vention will bo accepted, but If it is thu hostess must bo treated as tho guest of honor and i shown every deference. If, for instance-, tho entertainment is a luuchconioryouug ladles, shemay bo askod to tako tho scat at tho.oud .of tho tablo opposlto toyourowu. ( If the mutual "friend Is your cucst you may bo sure that, if sho is a woman wo-man of good breeding, sIiq in turn will nccept uo invitation which docs not Include In-clude you, although you may think-best think-best to decline it and insist upon hor going alone. Nor will sho rocelvo visitors vis-itors without asking you to join them iu tho parlo.r should her frieuds lie rudo onough to havo sent you no cards. Hero, too, you may excuso yourself, or at most Join thorn wjtli such delay ns to givo them a short intcrviow alone. Tliuso samo rulos should hold good for you whou you aro tho guest. Before you go to make the visit, send word to your friends where nud with whom you nro to stay, so that there muv bo no idea that you aro in a bo.iullng'-house, and thoroforo mistress of your tlmo and surroundings. This coustnut dcfcrcuco to your iiostess should lead you to order or-der all letters and packages to bo addressed ad-dressed to her care. As to tho disposal of your lime wheu you are visiting no etiquotto requires you to nccopt all tho plans, of your hostess If you feci unablo to do so; but care is noedetl to show that refusal moans lack of strength, not lack of interest in-terest nud Inclination. With a llttlo tact on both sides you will havo many hours for your own. Indeed, a skillful hostess will mnnngo to socuro you this privilege and not mako the mistake of working too hard to nmuso you and so absorb ovory moment of your visit into her idoa of what is pleasure for you. No greater complluiout is possible than the quiet ucceptancu of your preference in tho lntlmacyof family life. Youth' Comiianion. y |