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Show Love That Creates Bond Matter of Slow Growth other, living together and growing together and perhaps working together to-gether and suffering together. It Is the result of people feeling for each other and understanding each other, in short, knowing each other and loving lov-ing each other anyway! That is why it Is more rational to expect love as the result of a successful success-ful marriage than the prelude to it, the reward of living together in such a way that attraction Is enriched en-riched by friendship and understanding understand-ing so that two people truly belong to each other, and through love, two become as one. And when that love is achieved it will be found that it Is not Interested in what it is to get, but is preoccupied In giving." , Bell Syndicate. WNtJ Service. "Marriage Is a task for mature men and women. Love is the product of the correct solution of this task." Reflecting on th- statement, a woman writer of national prominence promi-nence has this to say : "That seems to be putting the cart before the horse, doesn't it? But It Is one of the truest and wisest wis-est things that have ever been said on a subject that has not lacked attention at-tention love and marriage. "It is a doctor, W. Beran Wolfe, who had the courage to publish that statement. The point he makes is that more marriages would turn out well If husbands and wives acted 'as If love might be the reward of five or ten years of successful co-opera- tion.' "It brings to the mind the old confusion con-fusion between loving and being 'in love.' The sensation of being In love Is what most people feel for each other when they marry. They are attracted by various forces of the other's personality, in which they see their needs and their hopes and their dreams fulfilled. In other words' they are thrilled by the prospect pros-pect of what they are going to receive. re-ceive. "Loving, on the other hand is feeling feel-ing a bond between two human beings be-ings that can never be severed, that even after the separation of death, gnaws and pulls one to the other. That bond cannot be forged in a day. The stories of certain great loves notwithstanding, it rarely strikes like a bolt of lightning. It must grow. And its growth is the product of two people knowing each |