| Show tkwi The Fire Eater Never forget—he or she is your boss It's your job to do the work the way the boss wants it done You are: paid to do your job in a way that makes the boss's job easier You are there to remove obstacles for the boss—not to be one Management will judge you by how well you get along with your boss And that judgment will affect your progress Working with—or around—a rotten boss teaches you how to set priorities neutralize potentially explosive situations and choose your moments Don't try to change the boss There is only one person in this world you should attempt to control and thatt person is you Instead of trying to change the boss try adjusting your own behavior The boss may be 100 to blame for the conditions under which you struggle All the same you are 100 responsible for how you react to that boss and for where you go from where you are Rotten bosses come in an infinite This boss seems emotionally uneven—prone to mood swings that may begin with grumblings and end with eruptions When you see a storm is brewing try to take a breather Later try to get the boss's attention say you value his or her opinion and get back to basics Be observant—try to chart those bad moods to avoid confrontations Then there are those bosses who just "aren't there" for you They include: This type The Super-Delegato- r seems to give you lots of responsibility but even when pressed he or she won't say what's expected of you Later this boss might fire you—for not measuring up to expectations! To cope involve this boss in all you do give reports on progress and results get constant feedback coaxing out his or her guidelines Give good-botraining! 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