Show T ¥ The Salt Lake Tribune Thursday November 10 1988 A'V I Trying again’ for a son is not a viable family option Dear Ann Dander: I am wilting this letter from the hospital A nurse has promised to mail it I need to know if I am justified in being upset Three days ago gave birth to mv fourth daughter My mother-lavs came to see me and the new babv within three hours of the birth She patted my hand and said 'Don t be upset because it wasn t a boy You van try again dear You knowweare depending on you to make sure the family name is carried on " I said "Look Mother I am 38 years old and have had four children pude and a wn s obligation " couldn t believe it1 Vfter all they aient exactly the Kennedy or the Rockefellers Mv husband sat there like a bump on a log lie didn t say a word Was wrong to answer her back and to be hint because he didn t speak up for me" — Providence K Dear Prov: Consider the source Anyone who would come to the hospital three hours after a birth has oatmeal where her brains belong Shame on your husband lie surely should have taken your side Show family 1 1 1 1 and three miscarriages in seven years Please don't depend on me to do any more " 1 then got a lecture on ' tradition RAISING SYLVANW1LL Centers are a group of xJ neighbt )rh( h edueatu nal centers eerythmg from remedial reading and math to enhanced study skills We test in order to pinpoint the specific areas in w Inch your child needs help And we attack the problem with an individually designed program Positive Sylvan Learning c ter-in- m itivation friendly encouragement an experience ot success right from the start and a certified teacher who provides indi vidualied attention C I'W) Xvhjn U anting J ( of make iijim all the difference Sylvan Learning Center 1 Salt Lake City Center 2645 Parleys Way 466-153- 7 kw (6284) Provo 965-867- CottonwoodSandy 1935 East 6100 South 278-041- 4 column and let s hope he can w ork up the gumption to be more supportive of you in the future Dear Ann Landers: I am a widower f8 years old I have met a wonderful lady who loves me as much as I love her Now the problem-Mwife was socially prominent dignified and well bred Our marriage was better than most but she was cold didn't like sex and never made me feel like much of a man My new love is warm and affectionate We have a great time together I hav e given her a ring but recently I postponed the wedding We have no problems regarding religion no money problems and no trouble with our grown children To put it frankly I am ashamed of the way she talks Her English is atrocious and she can any man I've ever met out-cus- 3325 Umv Ave Suite 100 N 373-460- 0 9 in a while instead of always the host I and have been in reluctant to take my new companion to nice places because of her language What should I do" — Topeka ess How can I call a halt after all this time without offending anyone'’ It was my husband's idea to write t you — Milwaukee Dilemma Dear Milwaukee: Family trad tions die hard — especially whe good ol' "Aunt Nell" sets a great table and is such a lovely hostess Phone your brother's wife today and tell her that you want to altei-natfrom now on and that you'd lik the next holiday dinner to be at her home It’s as simple as that Kan Dear Topeka Tell your lady what is bothering you She can certainly clean up her language if she wants to and her "atrocious" English can be 1 improved with some tutoring This relationship appears to have so many pluses for you I hope things work out Dear Ann Landers: For the past 3 1 years I have had my brother and his whole family for Thanksgiving dinner Christmas dinner and Easter brunch We love hin and his wife dearly and their children and grandchil-dieare all wonderful but would consider it heaven to be a guest once e Planning a wadding? Whaf right? Whal t wrong? “The Ann London Quid tor Bride" w II relieve your onxlaty To receive a copy end 1 1 a stamped bulne-lz- e plut a velope (46 cent podogt) to Ann London PO Box 11562 Chlcogo III 60611-056- n 1 s Tofu takes flavor of food much as she ever did Wouldn t you have expected that she would be put on a diet that gave her less to eat so she could lose weight faster’ — Mrs P T Andover Mass Dear Mrs T: If your mother follows the exercise program prescribed by her physician and eliminates the foods he suggested sho avoid she will probably lose weight even though her total intake of food Solomon Dear Dr Solomon: Have you ever explained what tofu is" ve been told that it is a kind of cheese and it does look to me like cheese Could you compare its taste to anything more familiar? — Ivy Elkins W Va Dear Ivy: Tofu is made from beans and is rich in protein By itself it has a mild flavor however when prepared with other foods it takes on the flavor of these foods It is very versatile and may be added as an ingredient to a number of other dishBy Dr Neil 1 The remaining 10 minerals are has not decreased appreciably While it's true many people would be better off from a health standpoint if re- ferred to as trace minerals because es they ate less such a recommendation cannot be applied indiscriminately to everyone For example your mother may already be deficient in certain nutrients such as calcium and iron If she were to cut down on foods rich in these minerals she would be doing damage to her health even if she were to lose weight I would rather see my own patients lose weight through exercise than by dieting although some combination of both in usually advisable Your question highlights the difficulty in making recommendations that would apply to everyone at all times Individualized treatment is the rule and what is good for one patient may not be suitable for they are needed only in small amounts Trace minerals include iron and zinc Dear Dr Solomon: My mother is in her 50s and she has learned she has high blood pressure I suppose that's not too surprising because she's about 30 pounds overweight But when she went to her doctor he prescribed some exercise and told her to e cut out some foods that she has on occasion In general however she is still permitted to eat as Dear Dr Solomon: How many minerals does a person have to get out of food in order to stay in good health’ At different times I think must have heard about at least a dozen of these minerals — Alice Milan Mich Dear Alice: There are 16 minerals needed for proper functioning Six of these are considered major minerals because at least 100 milligrams are required daily The major minerals include calcium and potassium 1 Bountiful Center 390 North lelping kids do better West Valley Center 2910 West 4700 South him tin high-calori- ’ For Leslie Birmingham Ala: extra calories can come from protein and carbohydrates as well as from fat The cause is consuming more calories whatever the source than are burned off Join us for our Mountain Mania Fashion Show Saturday November 12 at Nordstrom Crossroads Plaza (H you have a medical question wrtle to Mel Solomon MD PO Box 21417 Plkesvllle Md 21208 Dr Solomon cannot give personal reptoei but will answer as many questions as possible Is his column) Conservation’s topic for DAR program Salt Lake Valley Chapter Daugh- ters of the American Revolution will meet Nov 19 at 1 pm at Cottonwood Presbyterian Church 1580 E Vine (6100 South) Mrs Wayne L Cook Conservation Committee Chairman has invited Barbara Gardner State of Utah Land Forestry Division Administration to talk about urban forests The NSDAR Conservation Committee since 1909 has pursued a program of tree planting and concern for national forests Women are eligible for membership who can prove direct descent from a man or woman who aided or fought for the cause of American independence from 1775 to 1783 For membership information contact Mrs Fred W Astroth Chapter Regent It's Mountain Mania! Don't miss your Ogden tioman chosen chance to view this season's hottest active and apres-skiwea- in leadership program for men and women r Crossroads Plaza OGDEN — Carol V Gaskill We- 200 12 at 10:00 and Saturday November in The Brass Rail on ber State College Assistant Budget will Director one the in participate "Leadership for the New Century" program for four-yea- r college Shown just a sampling of the great items we and university ll women As part of the be featuring Ski resort sweatshirts with designs from Park City Deer stores from a special in workshop Phoenix Ariz for "Leaders" de- - 3200 also available All gram Ms Gaskill recently returned Valley and many more in cotton polyester fleece 00-- 18 pro- g year-lon- 00 i ’ i Ms Gaskill signed to enhance the skills needed to assume major decision-makinroles in colleges and universities Workshop includes instruction and practice in supervisory and human-relationskills planning and budget transformation mg organizational and discussions with experts on issues confronting higher education Ms Gaskill s mentor for the pro gram is Dr Allen F Simkins Vue President for Business Affairs and Finance WSC Program participants weie chosen for their talents interests in ad vanrement in higher ednration and the quality of proposed projects 7 he Leadership for a New Ccriturv program is sponsored by the Nation al Institute for Leadership Develop merit Arizona State University Ms Gaskill will spend a year developing human tesources mfoitna tion for highet education In The Brass Rail s AND WHILE YOU'RE HERE MEET THREE-TIM- WORLD CUP SKI CHAMPION HOLLY FLANDERS She'll be on hand to sign autographs and to answer your questions from Saturday November 2 00-- 4 00 Olympic medalist 12 Stein Erickson will be here Saturday November r n d fir ve I ri I 'n n d 5 1 i r inn ( iy M i1' ( lit'uti r m i hhit—ii— i mi Omi1" ) in-- 111 m Crosiroads Plaza 19 In (rom 2 00-- 4 00 The Oraxs Rail on one omen set meet I1 tv h8M Shipping c The University of Utah Womens Club will hear Stephen llolbiook pioject uioidmatot ful the Sheltei the Homeless 1’iograin for Salt Lake City at a Nov 14 meeting The group will meet at 12 45 p m at the Sill Home lav mg Center liarqe on all mnl ptxuic orders i Zb--- -' 4 0 0 jm sm Al A 4? 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