| Show ' -- - '' i - - : ' '' -- - '' -- ' ' - - '' i''' 1e' - - '' t"EarMeMr41NM119-Mt4A6ii4i- !' 0'7 '::'!: The Salt Lake Tribune September Sunday 3 1989 t - 4rt W Suggestions if you care for an elderly family member PhD By Thomas R Lee Associate Professor and Extension Specialist College of Family Life Utah State University LOGAN — If you are the primary caregiver for an elderly person you are dealing with a difficult role You are making concessions and personal sacrifices to provide care for another Quite often your efforts may go unrecognized Regardless of how you're related to the elderly person be it as a spouse child or distant relative you may experience resentment over the demands on you This resentment Over caring for a loved one can cause guilt and contribute to the stress already involved with ihis caregiver role As changes occur in the elderly person you might grieve for the loss of how that person used to be You might feel frustrated by the changes occurring with age and yet feel powerless to do anything about them This grief and frustration can also lead to stress your emotions you can control them Repressing or denying feelings decreases energy and can cause irritability depression or physical problems Most people benefit from sharing their feelings with someone who is supportive and listens without judging Often this is best done by someone who is not personally involved in the situation A network of supportive friends or an organized support group can help give you a new perspective With time it is easier to discuss problems with other family members involved These feelings are normal They are neither good nor bad nor do they reflect the degree of your caring What is important is how you handle your feelings Stress turned in on yourself will be destructive to your emotional and physical health Stress turned toward others can damage important relationships It can even result in abuse toward the elderly person Stress has fewer negative effects for people who admit their feelings and accept them When you acknowledge your feelings and understand support groups contact your local hospital or home can be serious complications In addition a number of deaths from chicken pox are reported each year in the United States Some of the admittedly rare but serious complications of chicken pox include arthritis and pneumonia The disease can be particularly dangerous for immunosuppressed patients as for example those undergoing chemotherapy for cancer or patients who have received an organ transplant as well as for those infected with the human immunodeficiency virus the Area Agency on Aging or dis- - vention but I've never read anything about any side effects that might come from using it Are there any side effects? — Danny Lexington Ky Dear Danny: Some people who have used nicotine chewing gum as part of a program have been bothered with mouth ulcers Others have reported nausea which may occur if the gum is chewed too fast or with too much energy caus stop-smokin- g asso- 114 Dr Lee ciations such as the Cancer Society d ease-relate- - or the Alzheimer's Disease and Related Disorders Association In addition to getting necessary emotional support from others look at the available alternatives for getphysiting help with the cal demands of your role ing too much nicotine to reach the stomach The nicotine in the gum is absorbed through the mucous lining of the mouth and should be chewed slowly so that the nicotine is released gradually For Myron Chicago People who do not smoke are at very low risk of developing lung cancer Although lung cancer is a serious disease and treatment remains difficult the good news is that lung rancer is largely a preventable disease Dear Dr Solomon: Nicotine chewing gum sounds like a wonderful in- q health agency Chicken pox can be serious disease By Dr Neil Solomon Dear Dr Solomon: Is chicken pox a serious disease? Sometimes when I think about it I feel that I must have been very lucky because I had all the childhood diseases and they didn't cause me any lasting problems But from what I hear some people really have it bad after getting chicken pox How serious is it? — Mel Reston Va Dear Mel: Chicken pox in a young child is generally a mild disease and is associated with few complications In an older person however there a day-to-da- Day-car- MB which rl was popular then" :Mr Parker's travels took him to Arizona Florida and North Carolina In Raleigh NC he painted signs for Lyndon Johnson's 1964 presidential campaign and as a result was invited to Johnson's inaugural :“I rode in a limousine with TV star Dorothy Kilgallen and went to a ball at the Sheraton Hotel" he said Thirteen years later he was invited to a second inaugural "I did the signs for Jimmy Carter's Utah campaign and got to be friends with his press secretary Jody Powell Jody made sure I got an invitation but that time I wasn't well enough to go" The framed invitation sits on a table in his trailer When Mr Parker's travels finally brought him to Cedar City it was local businessman El loyd Marchant who gave him work and encouraged him to stay "Next thing I knew I was renting space then I bought property and set up a shop" he said " At one time I was teaching sign painting and silk represents the culmination of Parker's varied career and is the in the Founders Room I was given a key so I could lock myself in and work in peace as late as I wanted "The ceiling is a double picture-fram- e style and took as much gold Mr leg- acy he will leave his adopted hometown The work in the theater itself and the Founders Room required 22000 sheets of loose leaf gold Each sheet measuring 5x5 inches was applied by hand by Mr Parker in a seven-steprocess Working from scaffoldsections at ing he completed a time He is so skilled he needed no measuring device to place each overlap square allowing a In his words he "eyeballed" them It was difficult for Mr Parker to work while construction crews were finishing the building but everyone was committed to meeting the June 23 deadline for opening the $5 million theater Gold leaf is lighter than tissue paper and especially hard to handle when there is a draft created by doors opening and closing Dust in the air can hinder the delicate application process "I needed to work alone so I would go back at night" Mr Parker said "When I was doing the ceiling 10-fo- h ing IOWA 01101 AN Inc i: C iteeemd AvAto I 1 1 2-------- - 11121' 011 - r r2 f‘r'4 1111111110:11 KUPPEE 1 i 13 C 1 1 CS COG LYD T HE 5ANG AFTER 5HE CHANGEP WHA-- Inn crabapple butter from the fruit that grows outside his window sharing them with friends and neighbors "I believe in God" Mr Parker said "Morning noon and night when I was working in the theater I'd pray 'Lord be my hands and eyes today Let me live to finish this wo rk Chuck Parker completed the most ambitious undertaking of his life and theater-goerfor years will admire it Some may even be aware man that it was done by a with pain talent and determination Lae ' r Y RAWA In the small trailer kitchen he makes his special barbecue sauce using a "secret ingredient" and up" Sonocee "Alt errands Ile acknowledges the support of two particular friends Steve Lunt head of the physical education department at SUSC and Fred Adams founder and producing director of the Utah Shakespearean Festival at the college "Because they had confidence in me I took on the job Without their encouragement I couldn't have fin Mae EMBACE Mr Parker gets around with some difficulty using a cane of his own design with a grip made from English saddle stirrups He is remarkin spite of ill ably health although he must rely on friends to get to the bank and the grocery store and perform essential leaf as the theater and required more time and effort" Completing the work was an act of love and will for Mr Parker Ile lost the sight in his left eye after a series of strokes and the arthritis which afflicts him creates pressure on the nerves causing pain and numbness in the extremities "My fingers would stiffen as I worked" he said "I had to stop and massage them until the circulation returned But I don't believe in giv- p C ' t REMIPE it" ished SCRAMBLED WORD GAME allgTHAT by Henri Arnold and Bob six ordinary words One man's life is etched in gold 1 e Unscramble these six Jumbles one letter to each square to form I Continued From W-cess of laying mother-of-pea- centers for elderly a relative to share reponsibilities or a hired person to give you a break from your responsibilities can be important resources People who provide care for an elderly person often forget to take care of themselves The caregiver role carries high levels of stress of which you may or may not be aware Unrecognized stress can cause uncontrolled behavior toward the elderly person or other family members It can deplete the caregiver's health and ability to care for the loved one If you are the friend of a caregiver you can provide invaluable help by being a good listener or by checking to find out about support groups or other services in your area Offering to come and be with the older person for a few hours on a regular basis could really make a difference in how your caregiver friend can cope Many caregivers find that support groups help them feel less alone They provide an opportunity to talk to others who may be in a similar situation and to learn coping techniques They also provide a chance to share your A4 1t—we knowledge experience and hope To get more in- lortpi&I formation about "THE E5ASYS 171AP'ER5 nr DETHOB Now arrange the circled letters to form the surprise answer as suggested by the above cartoon PRINT YOUR ANSWER IN THE CIRCLES BELOW 11 IP arming A s 16WW4Wil LW43111IMWdi See Jumble Answer W-- 6 screening" Evidence of Mr Parker's presence everywhere in Cedar City In New Ilugh's Cafe (once just plain Hugh's muCafe) on Main Street is a ral depicting the four seasons Up Cedar Canyon is a scenic billboard advertising Brian Head Ski Resort In front of the Chamber of Commerce building stands a bright new sign lettered with gold leaf left over from the theater His art and lettering appear on office doors and windows all over town But it is the intricate gold leaf work in the Randall Theatre which '1 1 is 4'4 I ' 4 t - 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