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Show Page 4A-T- HERALD, Provo, Utah, Wednesday, November HE Family Life Edition 1, 1978 Winners of Herald Family Essay Contest Revealed Second Place By ALICE WARNER By BLAKE NIELSEN "There was an old woman who lived in a shoe. She had so many children she riitin t know what to do Sue gave ihern tune troth, without any bread. She spanked them ali soundly ard put them to bed,"' In this age-olnursery rhyme, the family environment is portrayed as totallv chaotic. As we compare this to our own families we find we are often in these minor chaotic situations, where there is a feeling of contention Who is at fault? Is someone skipping out on his responsibilities? Exactly what are our responsibilities for a happy and rewarding home life? Each member of the family has three major responsibilities for making the home a more pleasant place. First of all, and probably the most important, is example. It's said "there is nothing so contagious as example." In a family environment you are being watched constantly. Your example good or bad is going to be impressed upon the minds of your family members. Another important responsibility, is to carry a positive attitude, to be constructive. When we compliment our family members on their accomplishments, their ability expands. They gain confidence, and strive to do even better in their goals and desires. Your attitude, like example, easily rubs off onto other family members. If you are cross and upset, and you yell at a family member, he most likely is going to yell back at you in his defense, and the feeling of contempt like fog begins to roll through the home, engulfing everyone. The third responsibility is learning to share and share alike simply learn ing to be considerate of others and their feelings. If you give a piece of candy to one little sister and not to another, the feeling of contention again begins circulation throughout the home. Make sure everyone gets a piece of the candy. Make sure that love is spread equally among the family members. Each member of the family has these responsibilities of setting a proper example, presenting a good attitude, and being considerate of others. If each ancient Oriental proverb reads, "If a man has two loaves, he should exchange one for a lily." My responsibility in the home is for a loaf, a lily, and a fair exchange. The ioai is the physical sustenance of the family The lily represents the beauty and grace of the home environment, while the fair exchange involves equality and fulfillment in human relationships and communication Food, clothing and housing make up the loaf essentials integral to the family. Where do we get these substances with which we live? It is the responsibility of each family member to make a contribution in this area. As a teenager, cooking, cleaning, and helping to maintain order in the home are some of the most significant responsibilities I have in contributing to the loaf. But the loaf is not the only necessity involved it; fulfilling the happy home. Jesus Christ said, "Man cannot live on bread alone." Beauty, or the lily, is also essential. The atmosphere of our home reflects love, color, humor, and music in each corner of every room. We, as older children fully realize how much these rich beauties have contributed to our lives. We now have the responsibility of teaching the little ones of the importance of the lily in order to maintain a happy and rewarding homelife. Kind words, consistent examples, and the giving of time and attention to the children, leaves an idealistic image in their eyes of older brothers and sisters whom they want to An LA yip 7 ALICE WARNER FIRST PLACE BLAKE NIELSEN SECOND PLACE life-givin-g KRISTINE CARTER THIRD PLACE 435 H.S. Students of Area Write In Connection With Family Month The Daily Herald announces the winners of the Family Life essy contest held in connection with National Family Week and Utah Valley Family Month. Qualified judges with backgrounds in education, family life, and health services spent most of Saturday reading and examining a number of final entries after earlier readings. A total of 435 entries were submitted. They were narrowed by the Herald staff to about ISO and given to the judges. First prize in the contest was $50; second prize was $25, and third place prize was $15. All three of the winners were from Provo High School. Writing on the theme, "My Respon-sibiliUFor s Happy and Rewarding Home Life," the first place winner was Alice Warner, a freshman at Provo High School. Her parents are Mr. and Mrs. Terry Warner, of 1278 Locust Lane in Provo. Alice is considered by her parents as an unbelievable reader, reading a book a day sometimes. "She is a very happy person, with great wit. She likes ss English, math and has eight brothers and sisters, being the second oldest. She plays the cello and piano and has participated in several plays including a part in "Saturday's Warrior." Second place winner was Blake Nielsen, son of Mr. and Mrs. Dick Nielsen, 1516 E. 1575 N., Provo. Blake is a sophomore at Provo High School. He enjoys mathematics, forensics, is an Eagle Scout and loves to Water ski. Third place winner was Kristine Carter, daughter of Mr. and Mrs. E. Earl Carter, of 2080 W. 1730 N., Provo. She is a senior at Provo High School, where she is currently a flag twirler, she loves to watch sports, and likes mathematics. Kristine is the oldest living at home In a family of sii children, likes to keep busy and nas a sense of humor. Judges selected 12 first Honorable Mention and 10 second Honorable Mention essays. All of these will be printed in the The Herald in future issues. First Honorable mention essays, two of which appear on this page, include: 1504 N. 1830 W., Provo; 2145 N. 1450 E. Provo: Elizabeth Ellsworth, 1267 Apple Avenue, Provo; Lorin Lund, 1618 West 1320 N., Provo; Karaiee Nelson, address not listed; Nancy Payne, 1840 N. 1450 E., Provo; Lisa Rogers, 1411 Kathy Buckner, Clay Chandler. Locust Lane, Provo; Laura Roper; Rt. 1 Box 19-American Fork; Marianne Sucher, 498 E. 3950 N., Provo; Lisa Wardle, Provo; Barry Woodward, 1075 E. 400 N., Orem; and Scott Lynn Worthington, 812 S. 75 E., Orem. Second Honorable Mention essays inBethanie Bunderson, 770 S. Woodmore Dr., Orem; Pam Bushnell, 2005 N, 1450 Et Provo; Lvnette Barker. 558 S. 440 W., Orem; Dua'ne Farley, 444 S. 400 W., Orem; Merlene Hurst, Rt. 1 Box 28, Fayson; Mike Lohner, 1701 N. 1450 E. Provo; Camille Larsen, Pleasant Grove; Roger Moffitt, 934 E. 500 S., Orem; Teresa Manookin, Rt. 1 Box 60, Genola; Kelly Ann Pope, 582 S. 450 E., Orem, and Maughn M. Rollins, 1834 S. 400 E., Orem. clude: Third Place First Place become like. In exchange for my contributions in the home, I receive a share of the loaf and the lily, and equal and loving sibl- ing relationships which are more precious than anything else. As you can see, the outcome of my efforts in the home, far outweighs the work put in. Above all else the family should take precedence, and the home should be a place which we, as members of the family unit can look to for warmth, security, and beauty. For the home is the place where strong characters are molded, future parents' are taught, and creams of a glorious nation are fully realized. d ' By KRISTINE CARTER "Hey Kris, I have something to show you." 1 could tell by the tone of nsy ssves- ear-ol- d brother's voice he had another one of his dumb tricks to show me. I didn't have time; I had to do my homework. "Kris, look, push this." He had a big blue dot scribbled on the back of his hand. I was going to reprifor writing on himself again, mand but then he would know he finally had tin my attention. "Kris, push it. It's a magic button." Knowing I 'd never get rid of him until I gave in, I impatiently reached over and poked his "magic button." Immediately his hand flipped open. There crudely written, obviously by a seven year old, was, "I love you, kiss me." I read it aloud. As I looked up I caught the now embarrassed look in his eye. I pulled him over to me and gave him a hug and a kiss. "I love you too." I said. It seems that often in my life I get too of things caught up in the hustle-bustl- e to share my feelings with others. I am somewhat "programmed" to send out love, but how often do I accept the love that others NEED to give? When my gift of love is not accepted, it is hard to give again. I feel that in order to have a happy and rewarding home, I not only must give my love, but also must be constantly willing to accept the love that others want to share. Federal Paperwork Because of government regulation, private companies have to fill out over 4,000 different forms each year, The Conference Board notes The Federal Paperwork Commission estimates that it costs up to $32 billion a year to handle the federal paper load imposed on the private sector, member of the family does his best to do these things, we will be able to fit the whole family in the shoe very comfortably in an atmosphere of peace and happiness, thus gaining the full rewards and joys of family life. Your most valuable investments Honorable Mention Your children are precious. That is why we offer many savings plans to help you provide for their future needs. Now is the time to start building funds for college, missions and weddings. You can earn high interest rates and there is only one place where your funds are as safe as "money Communication Vital to a Healthy Home iai 3y KATHY BUCKNER "But Mom, the car won't stait. I need to go to work!" I pleaded over the telephone. Mom knew a simple cure for the old car's ailment. "I wanted to show you how to fix it, but you weren't interested in listening. I can't tell you how to do it without showing you, too." SMI The words she said pricked me. For the first time my thoughts focused on one basic, fundamental point. If I want to be happy at home and enjoy the rewards of association with those closest to me, it is my responsibility to communicate with my family. Communication is the foundation for our relationships with others. Without it we cannot learn aboat the people who compose our environment, and it is difficult to care about someone with whom you are not acquainted. I must volunteer to share my thoughts. If I leave the responsibility of communication to someone else, they may decide that forcing the issue is not worth the effort. Communication in the home is the means of finding the best solution to problems. It is possible to pool the whole family's ideas to draw from instead of the thoughts of only one mind. If none of the answers seems feasible, perhaps a combination of suggestions will provide solvency. Selfishness and love cannot be crowded together. I must be willing to do my share and to solve family conflicts. Probably the most important lesson I learned from Uk stalled car is that by listening to those who have had more experience than I, I can avoid many pitfalls. Communication makes it possible tor me to learn the results of an action without participating in it myself. La PI Mi' D , i m m if i mm I J a m liiiiliiiflllri a mt.:-.- 1 ......... .... - l Communication is crucial to a healthy home relationship. Each family member should make his contribution to the art of communicating. Without it, we are not families, but merely people living together. "v! V 'fi Honorable Mention For a Happy, Rewarding Home Life By CLAY CHANDLER Carefully I placed the last green plank on the roof of my Lincoln Log fortress. What had begun as a project to keep my brother, B.J., occupied had risen into a four-stor- y and B.J. masterpiece was long forgotten. The bright green tennis ball that sailed past my forehead and scattered each d log restored my memory with a jolt. My first impulse was to paddle B.J. a good one until I realized that the fault for his antics was really mine, not his. fMri well-place- As a family member I was neglecting my responsibility to both recognize and fulfill the needs of my younger brother. There are many needs which are basic to any human being attention, security, and love are just a few of the needs which can best be fulfilled by the family. Throwing a tennis ball at my fortress was B.J.'s own way of saying, "I NEED some attention." Other family members have ways of signaling their needs, too, and it is my responsibility to be alert to recognize them. But my responsibilities to ensure a rewarding home life don't end there. They got a step further to not responding to these signals appropriately to them. ignoring over over-reacti- Picking up the I would not shirk said, "wanna go giggling brother tennis ball 1 smiled at B.J. This time my responsibilities. "Hey, killer," I play some catch?" and I chased my out the door. vsMM. 0 W V&(! (S'dlK! dftllltf! wwlll 'Hi; XII |