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Show Page A 1 8 THE DAILY HERALD, (www.HarkTheHersId.com), Ptovo, Utah, Friday, August 1 8, 2000 Dealing with wedding trauma Dear Ann Landers: I was divorced when my two sons were youngsters. I raised them, put them through college, gave them down payments on their homes, and helped them buy furniture and cars. They are now in their My older son is getting married soon to a lovely girl famifrom a ly. I was kept informed of the wedding plans, and everything seemed to be going longer an invited guest, I have asked him to return the silver. He informed me that when people cannot attend a wedding, they send a gift instead, and since I am not coming, he is accepting my gift as a substitute. What is proper in this situation, Ann? Should he return the silver? I am so angry and hurt that I cannot think straight. mid-20- smoothly. While visiting-thea few months ago, we had a misunderstanding, which resulted in a heated argu- ment. My son told me to pack my suitcase and get but. I was heartbroken, but figured things would work out. Meanwhile, his father, with whom he had been estranged for 10 years, agreed to pay for the rehearsal dinner, plus an extravagant honeymoon cruise. and I do My is connot get along. My-scerned that there might be a scene at his wedding, so he has asked me not to attend. He wrote me a letter and said I was "not welcome," and if I show up, he will have me escorted out. I have begged and pleaded, but he has not changed his mind. I sent my son and his bride a flatware service for 18 in sterling silver as a wedding gift. Since I am no on Unwelcome in San Diego Dear San Diego: Sending a wedding gift has nothing to do with whether or not a person can attend. It is not a requirement, nor is it a substitute for not being there. As for your son returning the silver, he is under no obligation to do so. I hope by the time this appears in print, some kind relative will have intervened and negotiated a peace settlement between you and your son. Meanwhile, I suggest that you consider getting some professional help for anger management. worthless. I am sure my third cousin in Europe has no interest in an old set of fishing tackle. Nor does my aunt's pen pal want her i favorite, apron. Ann, these people are not particularly close, and I cannot imagine they would want some useless memento. If these items had value, the folks might appreciate them, but to send something worn and worthless does not make much sense. I have tried to talk her out of some of these bequests, but she is stubborn. I simply see no point in shipping junk to Europe or any other place to people who probably won't want it. Please tell me what to do. ? well-use- d Her Niece in California Dear Niece: It must be obvious to you that your beloved Aunt Vera is a few sandwiches short of a picnic. Legally, er, you are obligated to Ann Landers send these items to the designated heirs. After Aunt Vera passes on, you can write the relatives and ask if they want the items. If not, they must send you a formal, legal document saying they have authorized you to do as you see fit with these mementos. Frankly, it doesn't seem worth the trouble. You might as well do as Aunt Vera wished. At least her friends and relatives will know she thought of them. let others take advantage of your generosity. 3 stars By EUGENIA LAST 'AUGUST 18, 2000 : Him Birthday: You've done It again. You've made too many promises without enough time to do everything. Get over it by asking for help and for favors. Ybu need to ensure that you have time left over for love and romance. If you neglect that area of your life, you won't feel satisfied or happy. Remember to have some fun. lour numbers: 3, 14, 22, 28, 31, 44 ARIES (March 19): Don't get involved or be cbficemed about colleagues who insist on spreading rumors. Stick to your job, try to be as accommodating as possible, and your efforts wont go unnoticed. 3 stars TAURUS (April 20May 20): Late in the day, travel will be favorable, and small gatherings with friends will provide mental stimulation. Catch up early on correspondence and reading. 22): t 22-De-c 4 stdrs CAPRICORN (Dec. 20): You can make a residential moves; however. It will be hectic. Be careful not to give out false information. You can make money through conservative investments or property purchases. 2 GEMINI (May VIRGO (Aug. Partnerships will be plentiful, but pick your mate cautiously. Try not to argue about trivial matters. You can avoid emotional disputes if you compromise. 3 stars LIBRA (Sept 230ct 22): Youl get opposition from those you'd least expect Stick to your theme, but be receptive to the input that you receive. Compromise will bring great results. Patience will be necessary. 3 stars - SCORPIO (Oct 23Mov. 21): Cosmetic makeovers or just making slight changes to your looks will be successful Making yourself the best that you can be will raise your self-esteem. 5 stars . " SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 21): . Someone you live with may not be easy to understand. Try not to take criticisms to heart and dont feel you have to do all the changing to make ' ' things better. 2 stars e 22-Ja- 19): Get out with friends. You need to fee) that you're part of something. Trips will open up doors to new friendships and cultural knowledge. 4 stars AQUARIUS (Jan. 20feb. 18): Your competitive approach to work will help you accomplish more then your peers.' Expand in areas where you know you, , can get a higher return. 3 stars PISCES (Feb. l&March 20): You need to express your concerns and your talents. Look Into challenging " educational 'pursuits that will help you meet individuals with similar goals. Your social life will open up If you are receptive to others. 3 stars stars CANCER (June 21-Jul-y 22): Your intellect, wit and charm will shine at intellectual gatherings. Games of mental agility will be exciting and help you attract romantic partners. You have an exceptional memory. 5 stars LEO (July 23Aug. 22): You will have opportunities to make some extra cash, but your tendency to overspend will defeat your efforts. Don't Bequests Dear Ann Landers: My beloved Aunt Vera is dying. She has no children, and I am to be the executor of her small estate. The difficulty is that many of the items she wishes to bequeath are Some Celebrate The Olympics . . Sign Up For FUl GLASSES - Classes Start Aug. 21st Boys Girls mm p M I i i (Ages 5 - Adult) i. Small Classes Preschool Gymnastics (Ages USAG Safety Certified Coaches All American Gymnastics 245 S. 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