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Show Page S. THE LEADER-GARLAN- TIMES. February D 17. 1977 Actors Guild Hugh Clark Named To Compete By Lynette Roberts President Exec-Vic- e Sixteen of Bear Rivers' Actors Guild members will attend a drama competition at EDITOR'S NOTE: This is the final segment of a series entitled "People are Scared to Death of Death" describing commong attitudes about something no one will escape. Material was obtained from an interview with Ward Taylor, funeral director of Roger's Mortuary. It wasn't only a few years ago that psychologists were telling the public that funerals and viewings were "barbaric," and of "no value." But, psychologists have done a 180 degree turnabout, according to Ward Taylor, funeral director at Roger's Mortuary. Taylor, who believes part of his job is helping the living adjust to the reality of death, says for too many word. people "dead" is a four-lett"Nobody dies any more, they pass away or we lost them," he said. Viewings and funerals are beneficial, although painful, many psychologists contend today. For one thing, viewings help the family accept that what has happened has really happened. Taylor cites one real life incident of a man in Ogden who ordered his wife's remains cremated very soon after her tly without ever viewing her. The same man, two years later, turned up at the funeral home and asked the operator if he was positive it was his wife who was cremated. He was, apparently, unable to accept the er death.-apparen- fact. Taylor also points out the number of theories which perpetuated the myth that President John F. Kennedy was still alive after his assassination, since his body was never viewed. Taylor, himself, used to believe that if the dead person "didn't look good" because of an accident or some other reason, a viewing shouldn't be held. But, he cites a couple of incidents where relatives who failed to view the body "felt like they were burying an empty casket." In another incident, Taylor tells of two uncles who asked to view a dead .relative which the family had decided not to view. The next day the entire family showed up to view the deceased, citing the "peace of mind" which the two uncles had apparently achieved. "Since then, I've changed my mind," Taylor said. The viewing helps the family "to know that the casket contains a member of the family." In his conversations which the funeral director conducts with relatives and groups of students on the subject of death, Taylor never refers to specific individuals. The funeral director also recalled another incident of a Tremonton man who often spoke of his belief that viewings were simply additional pain for an already pained group of rela r to V t M0 tives. But the same man shoved up at the funeral home a short time after the death of his wife and after the viewing and funeral told the funeral director, "Don't ever do away with them." Another function of the viewing and funeral is to provide people - who come to see the living with a chance to express their condolences all at once. "It keeps people from constantly reliving it with relatives before or after the viewing," he said. He cited the example of two parents who had to wait several days before their dead son's body could be shipped home for a funeral and burial. The couple told the funeral director, in effect, that all they could do was sit home because everywhere they went g people wanted to express their condolences. Taylor says many people think of having a quiet funeral "and not telling anybody." That sometimes results in embarrassment to people who might ask, "How's George?" only to find out that he's dead. One psychologist has suggested that LDS people are "by far the best adjusted people in the world at the time of death," Taylor noted. Besides their teachings of life after death, the funeral director says another reason is that "we plan the service ...we're involved... and it helps us non-LD- S adjust." Another sensitive aspect of a funeral and the one he's most often criticized for- ,- is advising people how much to spend on a funeral. "We believe people should be buried the way they lived," Taylor said. "There's no need to try to put on a show." The funeral director says he advises the vulnerable relatives who want to do right by their dead relative, that "you know your circumstances." He also tells them that the dead "loved one would probably be more concerned about his relatives left behind than about how expensive a funeral they give him." He also advises relatives that "at a time like this, they generally want to spend more than they should." "That's about all I can tell them," he added. In spite of efforts like those of Taylor and others to help people deal rationally with the prospects of death, it's unlikely that many are going to actively start making plans for it. Taylor cites the number of people who fail to make out wills as one example. As another example, b.e notes that "quite a few people have insurance policies for funerals." Many of those policies include a "place to fill out a program" for the funeral. But, says Taylor, "...very few people do." director's job - Urn State Bank Set March fA i neips Date Hi 257-504- 257-378- Feb.ll Feb. Feb. Feb. Feb. Feb. v As wedding experts we know you don't have to feel uptight on the day you'll remember for ever. This Spring we're recommending the easy elegance of the Windsor by After Six. And if you're the kind of guy who wants to look his best and see enjoy your wedding party to the hilt us, and the Windsor, soon. 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At 7:30 p.m. USU meets Arizona State in the Spectrum. Tickets are available at the USU Ticket Office, or by contacting Bob Morgan in or Brigham, or chapter vice president Brent McKinnon in Tre9 or monton, Tickets are $4.50 for the smorgasbord ($3.50 for those 'under 10 years old), and $1.50 (half price) for the ball game. Reservations should be in by Feb. 24, Morgan said. The Golden Spike Chapter dinner for the Utah State University Alumni Association will be held March 1 at USU, Bob Morgan, Brigham City, chapter president, said. USU alumni and friends from the Box Elder County area are invited to attend the dinner, a program and basketball game. The dinner and program will begin at 5 p.m. in the Utah State University Center. Entertainment will feature highlights of this year's touring "A Night with the area. of rental formal wear for men.' Webb said. "We're delighted to have Hugh join us," Webb said. The appointment is due to the bank's growth and expansion of bank services. "The contributions Hugh can make to the organization and to our customers At USU 1 27. supplier fastest-growin- g high, Clark will spend much Golden Spike Dinner 1 G. Emerson Earl, board member, was by Karl M. King, town president, as Fielding's representative on the Box Elder County Mosquito Abatement Board. The action was taken durs ing Februpj-y'meeting of the town board. Plans were approved by the board to partition the Anderson's. Bear River of his time as a loan officer in the credit department and will also have additional public relations duties, Tremonton. in Elder Feb. Offered by program. A graduate of Bear River HUGH CLARK HAS been added to the staff of Box The students will participate in various activities such as pantomime, humorous and dramatic readings, monoacting and improvisation. They will be competing with schools throughout the will be very beneficial," Webb concluded. Clark is married to the former Linda Fronk of Tremonton. The couple have four children; Darin, 9; Jason, 5; Cami, 2 and Jim, six months. y. AND - V j?7 - well-meanin- Hugh L. Clark of Garland has been named assistant vice president at Bear River State Bank in Tremonton, according to Russell Webb, executive vice president. Clark's appointment became effective Jan. 28. A native of Portage, Clark spent the last seven years working as a salesman for Golden Spike Implement Co. and Frank Chevrolet in Tremonton. He was employed for three years at the Aetna Finance Co. in Ogden as assistant manager of a branch facil-iltWhile there he completed the management training Miller's iii vTM Jewelry 29 West Main Phone :r;ti: IP 257-568- 0 ov TP' caniiai! |