Show I 1 to I BETTY BLAIR ter arid and questions for the department should be addressed t to Miss Misa Hearts Heart's Haven Sat Salt Lake Telegram Write only on one side ii he paper Doer It t Is ta necessary to append your name and address but these I held In confidence and will not be published Lest and found notices lot be published In the column 6 SHOULD I J WED HIM I Miss Blair Biair ave hesitated a long time bemy be- be bringing my problem to you I be-I I Sally y lly it t has come to the point tt must be now flower or never I make up my mind one way ther I 1 have read your help- help in Hearts Heart's Haven every lf for r two years and up until ast six months have been satto sat- sat Ito to let others do the asking i lIy I too have come to you Iff Ip I I very much in In love with a aI afan I man fan who is is s a good clean r man man who is IS also ambitious Ih hasn't had opportunities education or to rise in the I He He has no special but ut manages to keep on the ost oct of the time In fact he n without work since we wee e een en n going together and he ho is a iod mechanic lie he loves me too I am What but my people object nuch to my going with him him which he wants rd d do now it will make them angry They are proud of wn social position and have gh lih hopes of my marrying 1 who could keep me in the theo theto to ot o which I have always be- be id But Miss Blair I feel that me me to give him up up- leI Or says to me all the time ill II drag you down to his own You ou can never brin bring him up r lown I am a college grad- grad nd his education has been I hit and miss though he has hasl l lood od judgment and reads so hat h-at I 1 do not consider him an man But Miss Blair the Ithe he thing that worries me meI mell mer ll I r am not ashamed of his fas as mother calls it and I do dowhy 1 why why just because he is a that he lie should be refused ince nce into the circles to which always gone Dont Don't YOU you think think st as possible that a wife husband up to the class h she belongs as it is that I 11 have to lower herself just hu husband band doesn't happen to the professional class I this problem that I must El 1 love him I dont don't want him up He says if I really I nas ii as he lie does me that I would A 1 anything stand in the way marrying him He wants us named in June Miss rss Blair if only my ny folks ee him as IS I do I 1 would be bel beI bely l I ly happy But what can I 1 from fm a whole lot of outside in regard to their treatment if i. i I should marry him when ure ure ire my own folks would make makert rt to be nice to him Will to make up my mind you much END OF THE ROPE Cannot help you to make up lid in n 1 The strength or weak- weak own love 13 must do that L for you I n may mav ay help you you you-to to our Jj-our toUr our own mind mand to discover a at the strength or weakness Sand and nl then tho you must abide I wn own choice And T I think u. u sh strength th ng-th or weakness Inc whether or not riot you ou your pur husband to what you ower le level l of 01 social life lile or orI I Im i. i Into your own c tinto it mainly about this boy JUL nir parents parent object to and l tIon you OU have not tot been 2 overcome TCO I Is Te it his lack o of Is it ti th the fact earns P his I living b by the sweat re or is it certain personal I auto U to they object athe the o other tI et It a as an excuse been able to deter- deter wha what t constitutes the bj ton can yoU not intelli- intelli begin n to batter down their I Iiii iii ain ln objection i is lack of education cation atlon you vou ha have haC C hut but to abut about Jt you JOl fo for numerous ex- ex men hen who have c won Avon pros- pros ln ind md 1 social position by integ- integ ij And many O of ofer er not ere cv c cn cen n rood mechanics s 's If Tf his hiR personality pei objection objectionable there you k von vOl arder tn ta n to reform to o flim an and you OU ot ol alk about the lues traits to toem 7 2 them em to your our parents parents' beth be- be Ui th would ouM but emphasize thing then to do would 1 make to-make his good points I o tar fal ahead of his failings s ter l-ter er would recede into the I wind und e you ou been doing all an or br or l campaign s w n k or have merely submitting to the 11 f ideas being imposed fd on our parents If so then T I TIou marry this man that you er cre his position takes Iou ri 1 toe tile other band liand you ou love much uch Ieh that vou you will fight through y through if in your osti- osti We Jie e Is worth the best best battle iye ye e ever O wa waged ed then mar v i certain people ilo ou Isn't lie ho worth the Enu snubs s hole jg-hole hole world But there is in the fact that the tIle world will ill NOT snub von vou I I I And you Jou may find to your surprise that the people whom you Jou will come cometo cometo cometo to know because o of this best battle you ou have ever oer fought are the finest people you ou have ever known You may find they are aro people pc-ople with ideas broad enough to accept merit for what it really is worth You may come como to find your Ur own level and after all aU isn't that better than tryIng trying try try- ing lag to be on someone's else level eveh where you yen dont don't really belong After all aU levels are determined r by the ideas that characterize them So ask asIc yourself not That Is my level but What are my ideas about life If there are certain fears about your future with this young man that you you- cannot overcome overcome overcome over over- come then most assuredly your mind is that you cannot marry him If rr on the other hand you have the feeling that you JOU are one who neven neves turned his b back k but marched breast forward never doubted clouds would break then your our mind is that you will marry him Which is your strength Which your Jour weakness Abide by your our choice of one or the theother theother theother other fearlessly UTAH'S FIRST SCHOOL Dear Miss Blair I read Hearts Heart's Haven every evening evening eve eve- ning fling and surely do enjoy it it Now for my Will you please tell me when the first school in Utah was opened where it was and who was the teacher I hope you can find this information for forme forme forme me and I thank you TONY The first school in Utah of which there is any record was opened Ina in ina a small round tent in the west side of the old fort at Salt Lake City in October 1847 Miss 1 Mary J. J Dilworth Dil- Dil worth worth later later Mrs F. F A. A Hammond was was the teacher You are welcome welcome welcome wel wel- come Tony Tonyo for this bit of mation ORIGIN OF HONEYMOON Dear Miss Blair I know you will think me terribly terribly terri tern bly silly but this is something I have thought about a lot of times and now I have come to you for the How did the word answer honeymoon honeymoon honey moon 10 n originate Thank you 1011 for forthe forthe forthe the answer SO BIG Quito Quite logical to think that t HIP hp moon belongs in isn't it But why the hone honey Well ell Ill I'll tell you The term honeymoon has a very quaint source It originated originated in Wales Vales many years ago aero when superstition was still a part of oC the life of the people They a aj this namo name to the first month or 01 moOn of married life when young oung couples were fa faced cd for the first time with the difficulties of getting along together The oJ old people got ot together and devised means mans whereby tho young married pel peoples people's pIes pIe's troubles such as differencE difference difference differ differ- ence of oC opinion and ami disposition would be simplified for them After fter consideration this means Va was devised for insuring marital happIness happiness happi happI- ness Throughout the first month night and morning the young couple were to take tako honey the best remedy to sweeten their First the man offered a spoonful to the girl as a sign sign sign-of of his good faith Then Theli th the girl did the same for the tho m man n as a counter pledge Thus TItUS tho first month was given the name of hone honeymoon moon If the jar of ho honey ley shou should drop 0 or break it was considered 5 i bad omen for their future And Anti during the entire month the honey was wa re regarded regarded regarded re- re with reverence rence as a promise of a happy married life It was kept kepton on the mant mantel l over O th the fire fIr enshrined en en- J as it were in Iii their home home- Not silly at all So Big Big t I mean your our question not the superstitIon Come Como again I REGARDING PERMANENTS I IDear Dear Miss Blair Will you please help me wi with h rny my problem I have a permanent Is there any way of making my hair straight Someone told me if I hid had another permanent on top of If this one it wouldn't take Is this tru true e 1 MARY iii rt K The trouble is that one permanent perma- perma nent after another would take tale too much Mary Ithary lal 1 It is not advisable t to t. O gJ another permanent until the hair has outgrown the one previously previously previously pre pre- given It has tendency to tomake tomake tomake make the hair too dry and to make it break off If It on on the other hand band the first permanent didn't take then one could have havo another to tomake tomake make mak it more permanent Regard Regarding ing your our first question which we wedo wedo 0 do not print there are not any Iny re reducing rc- rc d tablets that we recommend front II Hearts Heart's ea l' l t s II Haven a v e n. n CHEESE CAKE Dear Miss Blair May I add to your collection my myown myown myown own recipe for cheese cake One of your readers was asking for tor cheese cake a I short time ago but none of the Uie recipes offered was like mine which I consider very good To one quarter of a pound of grated cheese add the yolks of six ix ix eggs egg a quarter of a pound of butt butter r a littlesalt little littlesalt salt and a little cayenne cayenne Beat fI alt I together until quite light then add the whites of eggs beaten to a stiff and bake in paper cases in in a moderate oven Thank you Miss Blair for the space OLD OLD TIMER Th Old fOld Ti Timer er for tor your Jour interest L Let t us do something for you ou LADYS LADY'S FINGERS Dear Miss Miss' Blair Have you a good recipe for ladys lady's fingers fingers- I would like to make them for myself but haven't a recipe Thank you for this and past favors as I never miss reading co col column column and get much information from tho questions questions' and answers May I come again BEE I Yes Yes- come as often as you y-u like Bee Here here Is is the recipe for fo ladyfingers lady ladys fingers fiegel's Beat until ve very light the I Jo yolks of S 8 eggs ggs with half a pound of fin fine sugar jn th n 8 S whites of f eggs beaten to n a tUff froth 1 prated grated p lemon and 4 I ounces of sit sifted flour with a spoon drop the mixture mixture mix mix- ture in lingers upon buttered paper i dust them with pulverized pulverized- sugar and bali bake e. e When done remove them from flOm rs and press p together th the flat surfaces of every ery two You Yoa I are arc welcome BIOGRAPHIES BIOGRAPHIES OF OF INVENTORS I IDear Dear Miss Blair I am coming to your cozy corner as so many others do because I am sure you can help me with my lem My boy who is going on 11 likes to invent things He made himself a crystal set that works perfectly and he is always tinkering around with this and that though that though to my sorrow he lie isn't as good as he might be jn in school But this is my myreal I Ireal real problem he has a violent tem tern per If something goes wrong with the things he is making he flies off the handle and usually wrecks everything everything everything every every- thing ho he has been doing I have tried to talk with him about this I and to show how him how he stands in his own light but my talking doesn't seem to count for much What would you advise me to do to get him to realize the seriousness of his mistake He likes to read about Edison and other inventors and maybe if I had some books about them he would see what their lives were like and how they able to todo todo todo do so much Thank you Miss Blair for your help I enjoy Hearts Heart's I Haven very much and hope you will I always be with us WORRIED I Mother 1 I think your son needs I encouraging a as much as possible Inthe in inthe inthe the work he lie loves to do He lie has luts probably been having fits of or temper since he was a baby and correction should have been started long b before be before be- be fore now I am giving you a list of ambition ambition ambition ambi ambi- books that may nourish his tion and at the same time with a II timely word from you oU stress the fact that the great achievements re recounted recounted recounted re- re reI I counted therein were possible because because be because be- be cause of the patience courage de determination do- do termination on an and endurance of these Ulese men Teach him also the he physical him by harm that Is being being- done strong and ancI uncontrolled emotions muscles and aid tissues the tho real harm to of his body I suggest that you enter the read read- either with him himor himor Ing big of these stories or in yo your r leisure time eo so tha that you Ju may comment with him him- about them theta may may keep keep in and in order order- that you Jou thoughts closer touch with the boys boy's This f 1 la th the tho lI list ti The Jh I Pi Own on Book of Great Inventions by Floyd d I L. L Darrow Conquests of Invention Invention tion by Mary Tt n. Parkman this Is isan an account of great Inventions and incidents in the lives of or Inventors tors tots Leading American Inventors Inventors tors tore by George lies IleA containing sketches of or Robert Fulton Samuel I Morse Jorse Eli Ell Whitney Charles G Goodyear Goodyear Good Good- Jod- Jod year ear Cyrus M McCormick Elias Ellas HoWe Hone John Ericcson etc Young Folks' Folks Book Boole c ot of Invention by T. T C. C Bridges This volume should Interest interest inter Inter- est eat him as it is profusely illustrated ed The story begins with the conquests conquests con con- qu quests of nature of-nature nature iby by primitive man and gradually leads up to the modem modem modern mod mod- em ern em inventions of 01 electric light wIreless wireless wire less ss radium etc The Boys Boy's Life Llie of Edison by by W. W H H. I will also be he stimulating We are e hoping Worried that this list of books will will- help you to solve your problem Regarding the boys boy's school chool work I not worry him too much abo about t it H. Perhaps he lie is not fitted for the step lock that characterizes character character- izes s' our present educational s system tem tern and to which so go many boys Ibos are unable to ada adapt pt themselves Keep your mind on the life work of t I the as much as hs possible prepare prepare prepare pre pre- pare him for this s by toy lessons of 01 self self- reliance courage self-control self self self-I and the other necessary qualities that every ery boy must have to compete in his chosen lifes life's work worl Let us hear from i you Jou ag again agn ln LUNCHEON DECORATIONS Dear Miss Blair I am going to give a bridge lunch luncheon eon con this month and I would like some ome suggestions for decorations that are appropriate to the month Also can you suggest something for prizes that will be a little out of the ordinary My luncheon is to be served on my dining table and not noton noton noton on the bridge tables Thank you so much May I add my appreciation tion of your interesting column I MRS J. J It jg is a pleasure to offer suggestions suggestions for the decorations and prizes for a May luncheon Mrs T J T The TheMay May fay flower flover is the apple blossom Natural apple blos blossoms oms may be he used If obtainable if not tho artificial I blo may be resorted sorted to and I these are very realistic Placed in Ya vases es it will wUl require very close chose Inspection in |