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Show Your Marriage Couple Should Discuss Sexual Aspect of Life least brings the problem Into the open. Then you Know that you need expert help and guidance from a marriage counselor, psychiatrist or physidan. Q. What should Mrs. R. do? A. Ws advised Mrs. R. to forget for-get about leaving her husband. Wt suggested Instead, that she have the long-deferred talk with him that she tell him exactly how aha felt about tha sex side of their marriage and see If they couldnt work out a satisfactory solution together. We further suggested that they both read a good book on the Intimate side of married Ufa. If this didn't help, they wen both to return to see ua. It's been six months and we still haven't heard from Mr. and Mrs. R. 1 . By Samuel G. aad Bather B. KUng Q. Should a married couple frankly discuss their sex life? A. Tes. Consider the eaat of Mr. and Mrs. R. The R's had been married six years and In all that time had never reached a good sex adjustment at least so far as Mrs. R. was concerned. Shs complained that she never had real gratification from the Intimate side of her married life. And It wasn't becsust shs wss a prude or suffered from inhibitions Actually, tha fault waa Mr. R.'s. He wss too hasty In his lovemak-lng. lovemak-lng. Tha physical aide of her marriage had only succeeded In making Mrs. R. nervous and Irritable Ir-ritable instead of bringing her the physical and emotional release she had expected. Said No When wt asked Mrs. R. whether she hsd ever discussed the matter with her husband, she admitted she hadn't She felt It would be unseemly for her to discuss that phase of their Hfe with her mats. So she suffered in silence. Now that her nerves couldn't take It any longer, she wondered whether ' she shouldn't leave her husband. Ws told Mrs. R. that had she been less reticent leas motivated by false modesty she would bava been spsred six long unhappy years. It's true that her husband must have been a rather Insensitive Insensi-tive and selfish creature not to have felt her dissatisfaction. But her failure to speak up and let him know that his lovemaking waa Inadequate was just ss responsible re-sponsible for her frustration. Whenever a husband or wife, or both, fall to obtain satisfaction, they shouldn't best tats to discuss the sex aspect of their marriage, frankly and openly. Only in this wsy can they hops to get st the root of their difficulty snd make tha necessary adjustment First Step It doesn't slways follow, of course, that mere discussion will solve the problem. But It's the first step. When discussion alone Aoean't rwsotvs tha difficulty it at s . |