Show p. p UNPLEASANT RESULTS FOLLOW CONFESSION i OF LOVE FOR ANOTHER i Distinguishes at Age the Difference Between Wholesome and Unwholesome Please Confer i By BETTY BLAIR 1 I No one person in the world wIth de and width of soul soulis soulis is completely satisfied wIth any other one person But a athe the balance mus must be maIntaIned in the selection or of frIends to supply the deficiency in order that no infringement be made on the rights ot of the other married partner Dear Miss Mira Blair My wife claims she loves another om an other man and yet she says sas it has not changed her feeling toward me She met the I I gentleman in qu ques tion at a d dance a nee I- I R B about six month A ago and has seen seenI I f him but yen seven or orI I- I I eight times since iIi ri and this always alwa's at a iii 1 turi fN dance He has asked aked I to take her home N. N but of course she I- I Ii V always has refused Ft II saying ing that h. h was marrIed I have of this con con- She told me inn herself two nights ago which I think is much to her credit She seems to be torn between two emotions I feel terribly sorry for her and yet I dont don't know what I should do I love her and our baby with all my heart We have a happy little littie home and ind although my salary will not permit us to go man places we have been completely happy That is I have been and she has too until she met this man Since then he has been on her mind and ahe cant can't help thinking of him We are arc a 3 young couple have been married three years I am 24 and she is three years younger oun er What I want to know is what shall haU I do about it Shall I leave I the things that arc dearest to me and give her a chance to decide which she wants Still I dont don't beneve be be- neve she would w want nt that I thInk she loves me for one thing and him for something else if that is possible Maybe it is purely an infatuation infatuation tion sh feels for him but whatever what what- i ever it is it brings about a very unpleasant condition Please help rue me decide what to do Im I'm will will- ing to do anything that will make her happy Thanks PERPLEXED PERPLEX D It is true truc you dont don't know what will witt make your wife wiCe happy ne neither lher does docs she But you do know that you two have been happy together in your F married life in your little home with your our well loved baby and neither you nor she will be foolish enough to throw throwaway away this kind of happiness for something that is apt to be about as lasting as at summer Sex attraction is aU all aUthe the emotions Your wife cant can't p pOssibly feel anything any any- thing more for tor this man than the thc fleetIng fleet fleet- Ing sex attraction that so often oilen puts forth its false blossoms to attract hu hu- mans And sex attraction like every other emotion grows by what it upon and then dies a 3 natural death Il If your our wife is is' is wise she will take one of the two alternatives es open She will stop seeing this man altogether Surel Surely he hc must know that on such short acq she can know littie lit lit- tIe or nothing about him That Th-at if she were to give vent to a all l she feels about him there could be nothing but heartache heart heart- ache and sorrow in store for her But she is so 50 young perhaps she hn knows nothing of the utter chan change e that can occur in Ina a man once his passion for a woman has been sat satisfied Perhaps she doesn't know he can turn from her itt in utter disgust when that finer fiber of love lov does docs not accompany accompany his emotion for her This finer fiber con notes something more than his own selfish Interest It means that a man wants t to care for and protect the woman o of his choice Your wife can give up this man and suffer Juffer the pangs that denied love can suffer i if she is strong and understands what viat is for tor her better good in the Letters questions and requests requests re- re quests for advice ad should be ad dressed to MISS BET BETTY T Y BLAIR HEARTS HEART'S lIA HAVEN VEN TELEGRAM SALT LA LAKE 1 E. E Write legibly upon only one I side of the paper It I. I is necessary that you OU append append ap ap- pend the right name and address ad ad- dress but these will be held in strict confidence and wilt will mit appear in print Questions involving in in- advertising cannot be answered long run She cant can't be wholly selfish I In this matter She has bas her child chUd to think of She has her husband as well as herself herselt And this mushroom love she feels for the other man does pa pass You are very magnanimous in your love for her but can become a weakness when by wisdom Ask her for tor the time being to give up seeing this man Make it a period of a month of two months During that time do as much as you ou can to add to your our wife's interests to bring back a little of the romance of your courtship days Take her and the baby out in the car into the sunshine Into the l leafy afy canyons Encourage her to join a young oung womans woman's club where questions of vital Interest for the well well- being of the people are discussed If your our wife has a nature na na- ture she may have a dozen such dis affairs in her life but if she is wise she will learn the truth about what such affairs mean and govern herself by the fundamental laws of tradition These have been learned by the race through a long uphill climb I doubt it if the man has any desire to get himself involved even at the expense of losing sight lof of a woman for whom he feels a strong attraction and yo you might find i this out by asking your our wife if she he minds if you discuss this matter with him it if alter after the two months have passed she still continues to let the memory o of him occupy her mind PETTING IS HARMFUL Dear Miss Blair I am not a girl who has had many fellows I d dont don't nt care about I petting There is one boy whom I like better than any others I have gone one with He doesn't really pet He is just wholesome and jolly and when he leaves rae me at atthe atthe I the door he hurriedly gives mc me-a me wholesome smack that really couldn't be called a kiss S. Other i boys have kissed me In another way that I hate and the they also try to embrace me in fri a manner that I Id d despise pise I always beat them off Do Da you think there is any harm In the kind o of k kiss s the first bo boy gives me mc Do you ou think I am prudish for tor disliking the other kind of kiss S and embrace or do you ou think there might be harm harmin harmin in that kind of petting pelting for young girls and boys Thank you RUTH There are arc kisses and kisses and petting pet pet- ting and petting There are arc two kinds of both and we all know it It I am dead set against the custom that permits a earful of young oung people or just two to indulge in any kind of passionate embrace that cheapens and marks them I r resent ent the kiss that is anything but a wholesome smack or the hug hUI that I Is snore more than a spontaneous squeeze Such unrestrained petting leaves its mark In indelible Ink on the girl or boy who indulges It creates eates an 10 attitude at toward life without reservations reserva reserva- or sanctity of self It leads to an emotional satiation that robs later years of their glory The young sirl iri who accustoms herself to the thrills of indiscriminate petting wilt not thrill any too long to the caresses of one man when she is married to him She will consider marria marriage e as just one more experience to be taken in her stride Unhappiness bitterness divorce di di- vorce follows The girl who regards herself with witha a fine sense ense of reservation who withholds with with- holds her lips and her person for the theman theman man she will someday marry is the girl the finest type of manhood will later seek seck for a wife wiCe And any girl who thinks she knows better now will later rue a precocious knowledge and experience that leaves her great great- eat cst happiness drained of lit its rightful heritage NOTE TO l I would so 10 much rather discuss your problem with you personally than to attempt to answer it In the small space allotted wm Will you make an ap- ap I. I to come In and see lee me any afternoon |