Salt Lake Telegram | 1951-03-01 | Page 7 | Liar Needs Self-Confidence; Praise May be Beneficial

You and Your Marriage Liar Needs Self Confidence Praise May Be Beneficial By San Samuel G. G and amI Esther B. B Kling I Dear Mr 11 and Mrs What can I do about a husband who lies all the time Before Bill Billand Billand and I became engaged he told me I he earned a year and that he held a responsible executive position with his firm He also said that he had saved about Imagine my surprise when shortly after our wedding I learned that he was making only a year and had only in the bank Xo o Keason Heason I When I confronted Bill with these facts he admitted them but said his reason for lying lying- was to impress me as he didn't think I would marry him otherwise Of course I would have married marri d him anyway But But what worries me is that Bill continues to lie without any reason The other night for example example ex ex- ample he said he was going to a movie alone That was vas all right with me Yet the next day his mother told me that Bill had visited visited vis vis- her When I mentioned this to Bill he said he didn't think I would want to go to his mothers mother's al although although al- al though theres there's no reason why I shouldn't and shouldn't-and and that's why he had pretended he was going to a movie Frankly all this is getting me down and Im I'm wondering what I Ican Ican can do to cure Bill BiU of his habit of lying A. A Theres There's There's Theres usually a deep deep- rooted reason for habitual lying a a reason that often goes back to early childhood It may be that as asa asa a youngster Bill BiU was neglected and lied to gain attention or to jive give him a feeling of importance he tie didn't otherwise have E Established Pattern It may be that he was reared by overly strict parents and that he resorted to lying in order to a void reprimands and punishment Whatever What ever the reasons he established the pattern and continued to lie even when there was no actual I need The first thing to do Is talk this out with him Try to help him understand why he lies so constantly constantly con con- and that its it's no longer longe necessary You can help him become more emotionally secure too by showing showing show show- ing him affection and consideration tion and by complimenting him often Avoid belittling him either in public or in private and do all an you can to make him feel that hes he's the most important person in the world to you As' As his self confidence increases his lying should decrease