Show Your Marriage Share Some Leisure Activities But Not All of Your Time By Samuel G G. G and Esther B. B KUng Kling Q Should married people share ALL their recreation A. A No While it is desirable for fora a couple to share many leisure- leisure time activities it is inadvisable for them to share all A better plan is for each partner to have a sphere of activity separate and apart from the other Married people live in such close intimacy that doing everything to together together to- to gether often has a stifling effect on the relationship A separate diversion or interest provides the occasional change that helps keep marriage fresh and alive Encourage A Activities A wife should not object therefore therefore therefore there there- fore if her husband who enjoys hunting or fishing prefers to go alone or with a few of his cronies Instead of censuring him she should encourage him It will add to his enjoyment of the sport and to his appreciation of her as well If he wishes to go out with ith the boys one or two nights a week the wise wife will wilt make no tion By the same token a wife may want time to play bridge with the girls or to pursue some course of study Or she may desire to attend attend attend at at- tend a lecture or a club meeting A husband should encourage his wife to enjoy herself at any of the these activities and should make it possible for her to have the time for them A sensible arrangement of course is for the partners to have their separate activities on the same nights so that neither will feel neglected Moreover this has the advantage of reducing to a minimum the number of evenings the couple will b be away from each cach other Q Arent Aren't mutual activities more important A. A The attitude that mates have toward each others other's separate activities activities activities ac ac- ac- ac is an important factor in determining the success of the union A wife who nags every time her husband goes fishing only succeeds in making him irritated and unhappy Conversely if the husband grumbles each time his wife goes out alone he only creates friction and disharmony between them Separate diversions shouldn't be overdone however nor should they be allowed to affect the joint recreation of the couple There is no justification for the man who goes gees out alone several nights a week and then pleads fatigue when his wife wants him to take her out In all cases where the separate recreation of either partner interferes interferes interferes inter inter- feres with their mutual activities the latter should be given first preference Released by The Register and Tribune Syndicate 1948 |