Show FRIENDSHIP GIFT t PRESUPPOSES ACTS i OF CONSIDERATION By BETTY BLAIR t i There are innate reactions t the fitness fitness' of things that pr for many p people opIe n need ed not be taught It is from rom these that real consideration and good manners spring Without them one blunders blun- blun d ders c ei through rough life lite With them o one is accepted accept d anywhere I Dear Miss Blair Since last Jut spring I 1 have known a apy S py wIth frith whom I ha have o b been eri going J At Intervals I Invited d him to my rny V home to a a. New Years Year JI C eT party and nd d he lie laid said he be would come But ButI OO 11 r I learned from Irom other lII I A I I boys boYI with whom he he- e et t an wu was coming comins that he got f riu about half halt way to my I f Da party ty and then Id II iP I be was wu going to an an- J fI other girls girl's rl party and N tried to let get these Ie other P f I I boys boya and end girls gina Who S were In the same car carI carto H I to go with him They S refused to do so 10 so 10 he ha had them drop him hint himoff hintS S S oft off ff at the other girls girl's place S 1 i. i Of ot f course this left me without a a. partner He lie had brought mo me a nice gift KUt for tor Christmas and I thought he felt friendly toward me met at leut least enough so 10 that he would come tomy to-my party especially at after r he be had bad promised prom- prom Isad to do so 10 He had bad called me the very tery day o of the tho party and said he he was wu coming S Shall ShaH t speak to him hint when I 2 see sea him or Just Ignore him M My mother says nays ho he Isn't worth bothering about She OWa was certainly disappointed In him aV g when she makes a promise she J always keeps keeps' It She is 11 very nry kind about bout wanting me to have my friends come come to my home and she ahe doesn't doean lire to hue have me treated this way When flen I am m with this boy boYhe he treats me Just Juat grand but I Z hardly ever see we Men him except when he calls me for a date dats He ucla la 11 17 and I Z am 15 Z I shall certainly appreciate any advice you may aay give live me inc DI DISAPPOINTED TED Certainly your tour friend little sense or orthe the proprieties and I agree iree with your mother that unless he Jie brushes up on them em you cant can't b be bothered 1 with him One expects at atS S least J st a sense of ot common kindness S t to attend friendship Otherwise It cant can't be he tagged with the name of f friendship and so had better be forgotten On On the other hand I always think tHat to fo stop speaking g to people whom we know regardless of their f faults ul and crudities shows either cither that we are snobs or arc too much h hurt rt to speak rm Im sure you dont don't want ant this boy to think either way about bo bout t you If IC you see SM him and the opportunity to sp speak akis Is thrust upon you ou acknowledge dge him casually as az s sIf if It nothing he could do could possibly pos pos- sibly tease you S i There is re really really-no excuse that anver tan can cover ver this sort of ot c carelessness HIs HisS S 5 act acl sal said quite openly I have haye accepted acS ae- ae ac ac- S one girls girl's invitation but I prefer to be in the company of the theother theother theother other girl gid And what can the first girl do but be very sensible and say sayto saytO t to herself Young man I cant can't mistake your motives Im I'm glad t to out what they are a and d something someS someI some- some S I thing concerning g yo r. r Jack of good t and and yok mayy b e very sure sure fr n never gIve you another i c chance ance to repeat your ro r r act toward I Jm m me i nd fAnd having said ura this much be sure u e you apply appl t the e. e el r l' rule le ie o of good mental hygiene to fill fm your mind with other things any ny anyS th thoughts or or feeling of regret will JI b be bi promptly dismissed Your m mothers mother's consideration to permit permitS S you to have friends in your youx home homel l leaves vf the way open to you to keep Y your W friendship list filled tilled My wish for tor you Is that having had this experience you may be wiser In InS S y your ur future futuro choice of ot friends and I t that a there will vIlI be no firing back I fro h friendship e battery I ANNIVERSARY Blair S v J b be very ery much pleased ItS U It S you ou would till tell me how to entertain A. A on n a twenty fifth anniversary There be he from 40 0 to 50 guests I Z will willS S surely aurely aurel appreciate an any help you may mal liTe MRS B. B i Music of the kind you are able to afford and friendly conversation is is' t the cue e usual entertainment at wedding weddingS anniversaries The music S may consist con con- list 1st ot of of-an of an orchestra of ot a. a trio or of t Instrumental or or vocal solos It is a to have some of at the pop popular songs of ot a quarter century pre previous J ung sung at a silver allyer nn ver- ver ary nry Since Sl SInce ce old friends are always in in in- v ted to wedding anniversaries conversation conversation con con- naturally is retrospective O Old d' d times old friends now missing mining from froU the scene cene old joys joys' and S th that t with distance seem leem h humorous moro s are rare Reviewed Ji f An anniversary is usually conducted conducted con- con ducted as a a. a tea or reception and andS S friends I n are ar continually coming and leaving It is Js therefore Impossible to offer to-offer entertainment that is suit amor sui- sui am t taming or Dr continuous S TWICE T WED VED 5 Dear Dur Blair I am ams am's a a young girl of ot 20 e n have S blueeyes blonds blonde hair and have been married twice I left my second husband hus hus- band baneS a month ago and my first husband hus- hus 1 S band has hu been paying my rent and helping me I Z havo have a baby girl 2 years yearl old whose father Is my first husband My MT now wants ants me to get geta a divorce from my my second husband anti and remarry him I Z have been mar- mar tied ned to the second man only seven months and left him lim because he heS S truck struck me and told me lies I Z cant can't believe anything he says Ia and he also minks 4 1 I can trust my mT first husband anywhere any any- anywhere where here He lie never to me and ail always al al- l 1 Wa ways kept his hi promises to me Everybody Every Every- very very- bod body wants me mo to divorce my second 1 hUI remarry the first Which f 1 one do you JOU think I Z love Please help helpt t me BLO BLONDIE i t i did d you divorce your t first firstI st husband I in the first place I can between the lines that hAt a reason Until you ou are able to to- to discipline your own mind andr and lr r wun up emotionally r any you will never happiness happIness' any man Neither will you know the meaning of df love Are re y you u. u quite sure even oven were you you ou to divorce your our second husband and remarry the first that If a third came along you couldn't be persuaded to divorce your first husband a second time and marry narry arry the third Until you learn to distinguish between between between be- be be be- tween the emotion that constitutes real love and that which lias has to do with passion only I cannot promise e that you will ev ever r be able to make any man happy or that he will have havethe havethe havethe the gift to make happiness for y you u. u One of ot the first things married people must learn is to 10 compromise on the matter of each others other's faults I Ion Since Sinco no human being is perfect your first husband evidently had faults th that t you failed to overlook k kor or forgive And then what about your own faults faulls Did you try to modulate them in order to adjust I your personality to that of at your i first husband Until you come to an understanding understand understand- I ing lug of the seriousness of at marriage and nd all that it calls caUs for in any human human human hu hu- hu- hu man being I cannot advise you to divorce or remarry any man Certainly Certainly Certainly however you have cause for tor divorce from your second husband In the fact fac that h he ho strikes you a and d to remarry the first because he heis Is your our childs child's father lather S Search arch your own self carefully Make the attempt at at- tempt to deal with y yourself as a grownup Instead of at a child Then tell teU your story t to a 11 judge and let him hint decide the case for you I NOTE TO OLIVE Kindly send lend stamped IcU ad d- d rd envelope for tor m my circular on comes for children You will find a avery avery avery very complete bibliography r phy of ot game books boob at the end I |