Show t r qty t r i p. p I L r r t L d r w r 4 l I 11 t 1 r 1 f. i fi i t. t tf r d. d y tJ L i h t JUS t. t ce fa a j i J rj Play Bridge e Playing ing Luxury L LyS Ly'S r 1 iJ L rr t j If fr 1 I r I. I I f. f t r lL R Y Women Irresponsible Tres a omen r 1 t o 1 C r I Y tey V A Who Ho Their Time ime 1 f 11 I 1 an nd Means Bans in m Endless 1 k krIL 1 Jh x t- t 7 i f- f I TET 1 I Ji T Charged t. t rr i ies j f e j. j f I tf r JI K i iK r by Brooklyn Jurist 1 J I YI f 1 I e r 4 i. i Ij g i r pr J. J J I r t r. r f yc S b t t 1 1 y 5 te it t. t i 1 f f 6 c. c y ry d t L r r I. I f s sf 1 GUIlt for tor r- r T t- t t t Jrr J S i 0 a Widespread spread t Prevalence of L tINi tI Ni o Marital Evils t- t r. r 1 rIt 1 2 11 i a- a ar r w. w 6 r 1 S 'S y I It 1 X t 4 1 V i L rii r i f i f 4 h Y q r v J Y iii f. f t. t 1 1 5 J J Y i 1 t. t rf k t J s t J 2 i 4 rya Z Yr r ry 1 i 9 Sk 1 Ml sl r J 1 d S tY 1 f r s n ir l J rA 7 j. j i i iY u nl At 5 I lyl r r w r J.- J. I rl G ri Yi i r. r rf J l l g t r r- r J j Y tV 1 fr f. f i r r ft I J i. i f Ir t M Y t f J J I I r. r u J KI N r H L 1 1 i t. t rr J t fAff l- l rt i ny f air r. r w. w k w F kr C i iy y l' l Ig f g. g SS vS i l Q i 1 I lr i. i t i 1 Mr rt X t r ar r As s Told o to Carol aro Bird it r t t t i. i OMES fj which used It and or n mail ai are merely as sleeping ping places place r W SS EL lB Z ing addresses addess s. s Cramped apartments filled with a network of electric pushbuttons push push- pUS ll l- l l buttons but with wit no proper cooking sleep steeping sleeping ig recreational or of orr r real al making home facilities s. s Wives who would rather earn money and play plaU bridge than rear r l have av because o of their arror arrogance anee and inde ind independence undermined the morale of th the male wage Economic conditions which deprive married couples of t ity ty ty to mai maintain 1 decent living decent living quarters in which which-to to rear families fa E are the chief factors which enter t into to the present-day present problem of hUd child childless less unions unions' and the resultant prevalence of divorce Itis It absence of of- real home life careerist mothers mathers childless unions drop of the birth rate increase of divorce and the high cost of maintaining ample homes which are blamed by Harry E E. Lewis Justice Of the Supreme Court Brooklyn who ho declares that it Is the way we live e that that threatens the entire marriage structure structure structure ture tod today y Judge Lewis has Just completed a study of ot dl divorce and its underlying causes He found for example after an analysis of sixty four undefended divorce cases which he tried in Brooklyn recently that the thet testimony t showed that the sixty four four couples couples' who had wearied of life Ule together had among them only thirty children This averages less than one child chUd to every two ho couples though some of the couples 1 had d more more than one child chUd el CT C CANNOT NOT escape the conclusion that I L abs absence nce of genuine home life is the primary cause of the increasing divorce tr trend nd in Brooklyn a condition that doubtless is general gener l throughout the State and the Nation said Judge Judge- Lewis in his chambers in in the courthouse After the four tour sixty divorce cases were tried in my court and the fundamental causes for the marital ruptures were an analyzed I could not help but believe th that t if it we had more old-fashioned old homes with th true home surroundings and traditions traditions traditions tra tra- and anci with more children gracing them v. v there v. v would 4 be more bUt general v. v v. v 4 more bUt matrimonial happiness and fewer divorces There was a time when the word home ome had a a. real connotation It had hada hads a s definite significance e and around it were woven tile the e very threads of at our ur being Here lefe we passed the important mile mlle milestones stones atones of our lives It was the place of our birth Around It clustered various traditions Here gathered all our friends and relatives All the family activities took place In that Important center Every nook Dock and corner carner a of the house which sheltered the family had a de deep p meaning It always held heldi our memories We We might leave It for brief brier periods of time but It was always a magnet which brought us back for here the family was always to tobe be found It t was a comfortable living U abode a sanctuary and a retreat at But not so today y Now we are born In hospitals We entertain at clubs We c cat t in restaurants And we are burled buried from funeral parlors Our homes arc are used merely as sleeping places and mailing Addresses The small maU cramped quarters W 1 j which constitute the apartment home are like toy playhouses We push buttons and beds drop down from the walls waIls We pull aside a curtain in the living room or bedroom bed bed- room room room-If If we are lucky enough to own a a. bedroom instead of a bed attached to one side o of the room living-room wall and wall and reveal a ridiculous little cupboard which we call the kitchenette It is laughable to even think of It as a a. place in which to prepare a sized man-sized meal Everything In the modern apartment Is so compact collapsible and mechanical that hat we are really only playing a game when we attempt to keep house or make a a. home In it Gone are the big old-fashioned old family table the dining room and the fine old kitchen where mother cooked and baked amid gleaming pots and pans and shinIng shining shining shin shin- ing stoves If mother cooks at all now she does so in the tiny closet corner on on an electric grill from canned goods stored on a little shelf She wields the can- can opener Instead of or the mixing spoon and the electric refrigerator Is the magic cabinet cabinet cabinet cab cab- inet out of which she whisks store pre pared cold dishes She presses a button and a table drops down from the wall of the glorified dinette Sometimes father and the children open the door of the mechanical re refrIgerator refrigerator refrigerator re- re and make a a. meal out of what they chance to find there But most of the time the family or units of it go to toa toa toa a restaurant and cat eat there amid the clatter and din of a dining room managed by the wholesale method cc IT TT T IS my opinion that the entire marriage marL marriage mar- mar L structure has has' been largely de destroyed destroyed destroyed de- de by the way we live Marriages today are hasty and Ill considered while economic conditions are arc such that they do not warrant newly married couples living in proper surroundings for the rearIng rearing rearing rear rear- ing a of children Therein lies the chief trouble Childless Childless Child Child- less homes are really not homes at all Absence of children makes for discord and disruption a of a home is more easily accomplished where little ones do not figure The presence of at children attracts the husband to his home and keeps the wife Interested In preserving it and en enhancing en- en Its beauty and attractiveness When rearing children she has less time for gossipy associates and meaningless activities outside the home It is usually the childless wife who Is the nagger Her are on edge either from idleness or from the strain train and stress of contacts contac In Inthe the busl business ess world 1 If she he hes s. s Is a wife who works outside her home hom-e. Passing of the Home j THERE HERE was a time when the Childless couples can grow war word d. d h i home ome h had a d a rea real I con con- vitriolic and notation notation It had a a. a definite significance domestic stage stag fiery scenes cance an and d around it were vere woven but bux parents are inhibited because th the th threads reads of being e very vetY our the they y yIt dare not It was a com comfortable living abode frighten their i little ones nor nora nora a sanctuary ry an and d a retreat set them bad But not so soe today Now examples w we e are born in in hospitals We r entertain in clubs We eat in 4 restaurants And we weare are buried from funeral parlors Our homes are used merely as slee sleeping P in g P places laces and mailin mailing g addresses 1 r At f After the days day's y men de demand demand de- de Is over mand peace and rest They usually y find It in ina a home where there there y 1 children for they are y b Y can relax and enjoy enjo Y f their little ones ones' com com- The wife sift and mother has been y x too busy all day with her home and offspring offspring offspring off off- s spring to have much energy left for bat bat- rr 7 a r Y W Women 0 men do not Ml yr reaUze realize wh what t a a. large rge y x part art children play la in in r keeping a union In In- In tact I know knos a man r for exam example le who is r 1 married to a shrew 7 1 y y r iN Theres There's s really no other fF fr s name for her She has an abominable Jy r. r disposition nags her husband and makes N y life Ufe miserable for him 9 ark What is more she does docs not confine her or her t scenes to the privacy a of their theft home but embarrasses embarrasses em em- yi p and humiliates ates the poor man in public One of his friends sympathizing with his plight and marveling at his Continuation of such a wretched marital existence existence exist exist- ence once asked him why he didn't t take ke steps to end it Youre You're not happy sald said this friend Your wife frankly is a 3 vixen Why continue continue continue con con- with her But 1 I am fairly happy responded the husband I If I ma manage to keep so because because be be- be cause of my two charming daughters I have enjoyed many of ol the good things thingS' a of life before t I l contracted my unfortunate marriage It is time time that that I thought less l s sHarry Harry E E. E Lewis Justice of ot the Supreme Su SUe preme Court Brooklyn N. N Y 1 be believes believes be- be lie es that the absence of genuine home life nCe is the primary cause Corthe forthe for Cor forthe the increasing divorce trend in American cities a of myself and more of others I I am perfectly perfectly perfectly per per- willing to continue an unsatisfactory unsatisfactory unsatisfactory tory and inharmonious marriage for lor tho the sake ake of t the te e cC compensating joy I take in 4 i. i t I L 4 my girls I 1 am looking to the future They are more important to me than my fre freedom dom They bring me much much real contentment contentment contentment con con- and happiness t tSo So It Is with many other unions which would otherwise be promptly dissolved Children hold them together Here the interviewer interposed a a. question question question ques ques- tion But wouldn't this really be an argument argument argument ment in favor of childless unions If It children chil dren hold parents in meaningless and unhappy marriage they are really d deterrents deterrents deter deter- ter- ter rents to the adults' adults happiness happiness' Not at all said Judge Lewis All marriages threatened with disruption are not as lacking g In harmony as the one I Just mentioned Often a a. husband and wife who are childless quarrel over trifles They lose their temper and at the first sign of argument or friction separate and hasten to court for a divorce It is quite a different matter with couples who have children The breaking up of such homes entails more serious consequences and the parents realize it it It is difficult for the average a man to live In one place and to support a divorced wife and children in another So couples with children learn for for- bearance and are not so hasty in their desire to dissolve e a 0 union Then too they do not want to part with their children and they know that in a split p home the children J live necessarily with either one g parent or the other Either the father y t or the mother Is w ro doomed to lose out F as far as they are arc concerned j y Besides parental S' S r 3 loY love a tells them that the shadow of their f d divorce 1 v 0 r c e will fall faU c upon their cl children l and they are iny in inmany y many cases unwilling ing to make their 75 offspring pay the 3 jo sr l. l penalty for their own inability to preserve their then marria mar mar- ria e They are arc y more unselfish than the childless couPles couples cou cou- ples pIes who have only Y themselves to think thinka a about out The result Is that they make the best of matters pat c h up the their i r trifling difficulties and as the years go goon goon on on tr try to prevent them from reoccurring Then too fathers and mothers cannot let their emotions run amuck because of the very presence of children Whereas the childless couples can grow vitriolic and stage fiery domestic scenes parents are inhibited because they dare not frighten their little ones nor set them bad examples They must musty at least preserve an outward appearance of harmony Judge Lewis then touched upon the careers ca careers careers ca- ca of ot women as concerned with the in increase increase increase in- in crease of divorce and the drop In births Besides the absence of real a home life IZ tt x 3 itt ij f l.- l. tf which in turnis lacking because of existing existing exist existing exist exist- ing and our present our present t. t love of synthetic gayety there Is 15 the Ithe desire desire de desire de- de sire of or orthe the modern woman to earn her own wn money and have a a. career Marriage is bound to be threatened edin In Its basic structure when women insist upon going out into the world and competing competing competing com com- with men Th They y cannot possibly be efficient and satisfactory ho homemakers mothers wives and careerists aU all at the same time Today women have enter entered virtually every field of mans man's endeavor or They are arf doctors lawyers Judges finan finan- financiers financiers ciers business executives In fact they do about everything but Y u will seldom find a a. completely happy and harmonious home In In- which there are two breadwinners Manas Man Tian was as originally intended for that role When a man Is the sole breadwinner in ra a family he Is monarch of ot all aU he sur surveys ys He is happy in taking care of his wife and children He likes to io feel that the family Is dependent upon him for tor care and support This ThIs ThIs' strengthens Him makes him shoulder greater responsibilities ties fires his ambition But when a man mans wife is also a breadwinner his enthusiasm enthusiasm is dampened When he sits down downto to his dinner at night he be is L' not putting his his' feet under his own table Only part pact of it is really his his Many a a. wage earning wife isn't wife a bit hesitant to remind her husband of this unpleasant fact whenever the slightest friction develops No man c can n tolerate such an attitude But most important of all aU Is the fact that the woman who enjoy enjoY earning money does not have an an equal fondness for tor rearing children She actually hasn't the time for It As A S A result even though modem modern women do have a child chUd or two th those e children do not Dot benefit by bi their parents parents' supervision and education They hey are re brought up by trained ill nurses or so- so called governesses who impart to the children their oWn own philosophy and nd manners manDers manners man man- ners Ders when the little little- ones should hould t benefit by the attributes of their more superior parents You cannot condemn the younger generation generation generation gen gen- for their outlook on life Their parents are largely responsible for tor it Without proper supervision taking guidance boys and girls are bound to grow up wild after of at garden weeds The point I am making is that the absence of ot real home life Is not only lowering the birth birthrate rate b but t is also affecting af j the morals of at our our- youth Think what hat different children we wed we'd d be re rearing today if it we h hd d good old |