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Come to to- to TTA VEN H 1 EA EAR R B T S 'S O HA 1 With Betty Blair Affaire of ot tho heart and kindred problems ONLY will bo be discussed In this department Letters questions and nd requests for tor would should be ba I addressed d to MISS BETTY BEIT BLAIR HEARTS HEART'S HA HAVEN VEN TELEGRAM I SALT BALT LAKE LAg Write Ito legibly upon only one elde side of ot the paper It Is necessary that you append the tho right name ne and address but butth th these e will bo be held bald In strict confidence and will by no means appear In print Letters Lotter requiring personal reply must bo be accompanied by tamped ael self addressed cd envelopes Ed HONEYMOON ENDS Dear Miss Blair I 1 have been married Just two months Our honeymoon Is scarcely over and already It seems as though our happiness In married life lUe Is no not going join to continue My 1 husband ac ac- ac- ac acts cb bored with me mc and with lilt life He lie Is silent In the evenings and wants to get his nose In the tho paper or ora ora ora a detective magazine This hurts me terribly as I thought our happiness would last forever I try to chatter to him about things J I think will Interest him but he doesn't seem to be the least bit Inter Inter- ested We live In a little house In the country countr and before we were married W we planted lawn I have since Ince planted plant plant- ed flower seeds and everything Is growing so ao fine but now he doesn't doesn seem icem to care whether things grow or not He lie leaves It all aU up to mo me to look after It He De works In town and I am so worrIed worried wor wor- ried ned for lor fear some night after work he lie wont won't come home early It would break me mo all aU up In business if U he got Kot started to going with his old gang ganC and luid staying away late at nights Please help belp me rae to hold my husbands bus hus bands band's love I feel If It I ever ever lose it now I will never regain r It It Thank you WORRIED You are just one of the misled in in- who think that a successful marriage means an unending honey honey- moon This Is purely a romantic fiction fiction fic fICo fic- fic tion of the brain The successful marriage marriage marriage mar mar- never has been that in the past it never will be in the future The joy of marriage cannot maintain itself forever ore on one high emotional level When the pendulum swings so far in one direction it must swing back again Every young married couple needs to have the good common sense to recognize this fact and to stop meddlIng meddling med med- dUng with the turn of events and let the pendulum swing Stop fussing over your husband Let him keep his nose in that ma magazine azine until he is ready through his own urge to emerge Get out into the yard and tend the garden and the lawn Sing at your work and stop worrying The high emotion that you have both felt in inthe inthe inthe the be beginning inning will supply an afterglow afterglow afterglow after after- glow that will bring you ou together again on a less intense plane but with understanding and a more steady How flow of happiness if it you will let it Then one fine morning his interest In the garden will revive 4 There will always be this problem of the adjustment of your individual wills If Ii you are wise you will keep them from clashing by giving in to his will without letting It Interfere with your own to the point of complete complete com corn subjugation It is quite possible in many instances for both of you to have your own way It Is not at all necessary that one continually impose impose impose im im- im- im pose his will on the other And in incases incases cases where one decision must be made compromise can often lighten the aftermath Dont Don't let fear tear come In to warp your happiness Fear can be your greatest enemy Plan daily dally for growth and development development de de- de not only in your surroundings sur stir but in your characters Get yourself a magazine to your our liking ilk lik ing lug and md compare notes occasionally Read his magazine In your spare moments mo ma- ments when he will not be bc wanting it and m make ke conversation about the interesting phases of it H. Dont Don't be afraid of the quiet thoughtful thought thought- ful moments that will occur between n you You should learn to commune with each other in silence and understanding understanding under under- standing as w well ll as with talk Some talk Is nothing but chatter and can become very tiresome Read Modern Modem Mod Modern em ern Youth and Marriage by Henry Neumann And by the way Dr Neumann Neu mann is lecturing at the summer school of the U. U of U U. Hear him hint if U you can cnn A UP MIX Dear Miss Blair Im I'm In an awful ml mix up I cant can't imagine Inc how I ever did It It- but I got my dates mixed and stepped out with one boy when I should have stayed at homo home to receive another The worst part of It U Is that Im I'm supposed to be going joins steady with the boy I and md my little sister told him all about where I went and with whom He lie hasn't called me up since and he has been in the habit of calling I me several se times a week or coming down to see me Shall I call him and I tell him Im I'm sorry I made the mistake i I dont don't want to loso lose his friendship I have gone Ione with this other boy more i for for a lark than anything anything- and he be has been taking me at least once a week tor tar for about a a. month But I like Hike the boyI boy I unintentionally much bet bet bet- tar ter Please help me get ret untangled Thank you MICKEY ul Certainly call your friend and tell hIm lim youre you're sorry you made the mis mis- take He ma may not believe you but at least you have offered the only apology you have to offer Put it down to mindedness absent or care care- He probably will be piqued to the point of thinking it a matter of choice between your two friends You dont don't expect to get by in life without paying for your fun and your mistakes do you And seldom can you choose the coin by which you must pay It is exacted as toll and its ts payment is as sure as death or taxes axes It might be just as well to spend a little thought on your actions beforehand The precaution often lessens the amount of toll ENLARGED PORTRAITS Dear Miss 1 Blair When my any dear mother passed away she left me some old fashioned furniture furniture fur fur- and some enlarged photographs photo graphs of herself and my father lather when they were younger young My ly husband husband hus bus band does not object to the furniture as It supplied a a. need but he objects to o my having the enlarged portraits hung lung on our living room wall walt Every time ime he says anything about them It riles something Inside me I know they hey are out of date but they are dear to me and more so now that my parents are nrc both gone one Do you think I am wrong to Insist that th the portraits hang on the living room wall wail Thank you Mrs ul T. T Most enlarged portraits are hideous hideous hide hide- ous to look at regardless of the sentiment sentiment sentiment senti senti- ment attached to the subjects of the pictures Your husband will think much more of your lour parents if U you will remove the portraits from the wall You do not need to think less of ot your father ather and mother in order to do this The pictures are probably very poor ones at b best st and entirely out of keep keep- ing ng with the rest of the furnishings of the room Your own mental image of your mother as she really was should hould be far tar superior as a constant reminder of her wonderful qualities to o the poor work of art you keep hanging langing on the walL Dont Don't let sentimentality senti mentality run away with your own good common sense If you have a room where nobody goes often but you put the pictures there If not put ut them in storage MAID l PRIVILEGES Dear Miss 1155 Blair I am going to work for a lady and andI I would like to know whether she will willet let et my boy friend come to her house to see sec me or whether I can see him only on my afternoon and day off oft This is the first time I have had a a. job so I dont don't know what to expect Thank you for the Information BARBY As a rule arrangements are made for or the maid to entertain her callers in n a certain room in the house Sometimes Sometimes Some- Some times imes it is the kitchen sometimes the maids maid's own sitting room or it may maybe maybe be c the family sitting room or library Much depends upon the size of the house louse and the circumstances of the family amily whom you will be serving servine Most women who employ maids would much rather make arrangements arrange arrange- ments for them to see their friends friendson on n set dates in the home than to have them slip out to unknown places whenever they wish to see their friends Naturally there will be restrictions restrictions re- re regarding these privileges and nd the entire matter should be settled set- set tied led with your lady in the beginning NOTE TO IVY Our circular Treatment of ot Blackheads Blackheads Black- Black heads and Pimples will give the Information information in- in formation for which you ask Kindly send end a stamped self addressed envelope opo ope for lor It It |
