| Show Come Conre o to- to If A V VE VEN E N H 1 RT T S HA EA EAR With Betty Blair Affairs of ot tb the heart beart and kindred problems ONLY will be discussed In this department Letters questions and requests for advice should be addressed to w MISS BETTY BETrY BLAIR HEARTS BA HAVEN VEN TELEGRAM SALT LAKE Write legibly upon only one ODe side eldo of ot the paper It Is that you ou append the tight right name mama stud and address addre but these will wm be held In strict confidence and will by no DO means appear a In print Letters Lettera requiring personal reply must mut be accompanied by stamped lumped elJ self addressed ed envelopes EL Ed A MATTER OF GIFTS Dear Miss l Blair I have been going with a 3 boy now and then hen for three years He lie stopped coming to see me inc about a year ago and be began beran fan keeping steady company with another girl The latter part of the old year eu he started coming to to toce Ice ce me mc again and he Is still coming about once a week He Is b supposed to tobe tobe tobe be still going steady with th the other girl He lie h has a 3 birthday coming soon and andI I would like to know if it would be beall beall beall all right for me to give Ive him a small gift rUt lie He baA has given me such small things as candy and cards on several occasions occasion but he has never ne r given me anything for m my birthday lie He hasn't known when it came until the other night He lie has asked ked me several times but Ive I've just joked about It until the theether theether theother ether other night I told him Mine comes about three months after his Do you ou suppose if I gave him something it would look as though I were asking him to remember ber her mine I would want him to understand under stand tand that It was wa as Just a little gift of affection and not a hint that he should give me inc something I thought perhaps I could give him just some little thing I had made myself Thank you DOUBTFUL You are right In bein being doubtful about making your friend a birthday gift gilL The situation calls for no gift giH at all You would really be presuming on a nice friendship to offer oer one You would in addition cause embarrassment embarrassment embarrassment embarrass embarrass- ment to the boy boy Ir if he is like most boys Further you would place him under obligation to give you ou something some some- thing A boy would not be satisfied to give some little thing His gift ift to you in return would probably cost two or three times as much as one you gave him He really should not be giving iving you gifts at all A box of cand candy or flowers should be rare remembrances re rc- rc since after all nIl you are not his real girl If you ou like on the eve of his birthday birthday birthday birth birth- day have him to dinner or during the evening serve refreshments that have an nn extra touch of something especially es nice prepared by your own hands Hand made confections which you could enjoy together would not be out of keeping The day or night of his birthday would probably be reserved reserved re reo re- re served for his steady I TO CURB JEALOUSY Dear 1 Miss Is 5 Blair I have been going with wilh a girl for about two months I have ha asked her several times to go steady with me but she always laughs at m my request and thinks I belong to the dark ages It burns me me up when she has dates with other fellows She tells me that II she likes me In fact that she would rather go ro with me than with sIth the other fellows But that doesn't mean a a 4 thing thine to me mc so long as she continues to go 10 with them I I suppose the only thing I can learn to do is to curb my jealousy How can I do this Id I'd like to not care and yet et I think when I get tet to that stage I I wont won't care about her I want sant to care for her always What shall I do JINX When do you think you would care f for r this girl most when you could trust her out of your sight to have other friends or when you satisfied your our own selfishness to possess her So much that is called love for another another an an- other is sell self Most jealous exhibitions are self If you could feel in your our heart that the she was a wonderful girl and deserved de deserved de dc- served s other friends if you could be happy that her attractions won for her other friends you ou would not necessarily be loving her less You would be loving yourself less and your love for lor her would have reached a far deeper finer tiner stage than the old cave eave caveman caveman man love that regarded a woman as chattels The only way to curb jealousy is by actual will power to make less of an exhibition of it When she has other friends take others out yourself and andlee see lee what a harmless enjoyable practice practice practice tice this can be Friendships arc are one thing love is another To attempt to cut off oU all friendships because one is in fri love has stultifying results FRIEND IS RIVAL I Dear Miss Blair A new bo boy came to our town recently recently re re- re and he ho and I fell for each other the first thing He lie couldn't seem Item to look at another girl but me mc for a whole month I had to go away to another another an an- other town for a week to be with m my married sister who was ill III and while I was vas gone m my best friend stole my sweetie Now he seems as craz crazy crary over her as he was over o me My friend and I tr try to treat each other the thc same as ever but we dont don't feel Teel the same I would like to get this bo boy back again as I still feel the same wa way about him that I did at first Please t tell me how to get him back again BLUE EYES Cant Can't you arrange it some way to have your girl friend leave town for fora a week A boy bay whose affections can change so utterly in so short a time can probably accommodate them to another change soon But all joking aside is the boy really worth troubling about If his mind can change to such extremes so suddenly probably another girl altogether altogether al al- al together will be his next flame Get yourself another friend and act as if it you didn't care Let the girl friend feel eel that she is welcome to the boy If he is so satisfied to tr try to win him back would be good energy wasted on your part INSOMNIA Dear Miss Blair I have a terrible time trying to sleep when anything the least bit exciting ex cx- citing happens I cant can't even cven go to a atea atea tea without having m my nerves upset to the point that I cant can't sleep after ward vard It seems so silly Can you tell me what to do to calm myself My 1 brain seems se to go around on wheels after ever every little event that happens if it is nothing more than just buying myself a new hat Thank you INSOMNIAC Try not to worry about not sleep sleep- ing That is the first step you OU must take Lake toward helping yourself When bedtime comes put yourself in the mood for sleep You can help the mood along by treating yourself to a bedtime snack of finely chopped onion onion on on- ion and arid a glass of hot water or milkA milk A cup of ot hot soup a gingersnap or two wo would vary the bedtime meal These are really remarkable seda seda- Ives A warm bath just before beCore this little repast would help greatly too Make sure that your bed Is comfortable com corn neither too cold nor too warm Sleep is often very stubborn In its refusal to come If you sf still ill find this to be so rather than counting sheep pick out the darkest spot in inthe inthe inthe the dark corner of your room and fix your eyes upon it in a wide unwavering unwavering er ing stare For 10 minutes do not even dare to blink and before you know it you'll be off orr NOTE TO ARMORAL Instructions for acquiring the even tan Ian you OU want so much are found in our circular Treatment for Sun Sun- burn Kindly send a stamped self self- addressed envelope for tor it |
