Show The burden of virtue Gloria Quick Columnist The William Kennedy Smith rape trial with the medias media's help became another Thomas-hearing Thomas type of fiasco Did Old either of those events accomplish anything They did if thinkers thinkers' begin to fi figure re out why women do donot donot donot not report sexual harassment or rape At the time sexual harassment or rape occurs shock from the inci ind and trauma can prevent women reporting dents If a woman waits very long the question Why didn't she tell right away includes an unspoken implication implication implication im im- that she's obviously lying People like Utah's Senator Orrin Hatch are either so full of blarney or so sheltered that they find it hard to believe any man might have spoken the way Anita Hill accused Thomas of speaking to her Then Hatch speaks at a conference on the Unity and Diversity of Women as though he might actually know something about that It defies the imagination Smith tells his sexually virtuous uncle Ted that the woman he used for sex twice within half an hour is a nut She's a nut Can you believe that Is Smith suggesting suggesting suggesting suggest suggest- ing that its it's normal to have sex with a drunken woman he doesn't really know or care about twice about twice within half an hour Unfortunately for many men such an event is nor nor- mal Does that make it okay Observe inen men Dont Don't ask them Their words often dont don't conform to their actions The most promiscuous will seldom admit they'd do that Ask a promiscuous woman how she feels about that kind of sex Shell She'll usually tell you the truth If she doesn't tell you its it's deplorable shell she'll at least admit if its it's s disappointing We live in a society that continues to have an unwritten unwritten unwritten ten unspoken double standard for men and women Its It's supposed to be understood that men men need sex and woman dont Therefore the burden of virtue of just saying No is left up to the female of the species One Oner i- i r would suppose that men cannot be expected to turn turndown turndown turndown down sex with a female body regardless of the wand and and that is absurd Women have been taught to control themselves Men have not Women have suppressed sexual feelings and desires for centuries But today's new generation of women sometimes does not Those women used to be called sluts and whores Now they are called nuts What are the men called who do exactly what the nutty woman do Not guilty of rape T That's ats at's about it Even Evert if Smith did not tape rape the woman he admitted what he did He used her for his own physical pleasure twice in half an hour TWice vice Re Read d Masters and Johnsons Johnson's s latest book Then The tell me if you think theres there's a chance in a million that there was much pleasure in that for the woman Tell me if you think there was for Smith Explain to me why what Smith admitted doing was a lot more virtuous than rape Im I'm not referring to the violent acts that often accompany accompany accompany pany rape Im referring only to the physical act of a aman aman aman man forcing sex on a woman Is the way Smith used that woman a lot better He claims that she consented To what To have sex with him or to allow him to Jo use her real fast assuring his own personal pleasure at her expense Is that having sex or is that using a womans woman's body to masturbate Does a womans woman's consent to have sex make that okay How many think that makes it okay I still think sex belongs only with marriage but I I Ido do donot donot donot not feel I have a right to to- force forc that standard on others and Im I'm no prude I can talk and laugh about sex so long as it isn't done in a way that I find degenerate and offensive What do J I I consider degenerate Its It's degenerate to talk or joke about sex to somebody who makes it clear that he or she doesn't w want nt to hear it Its It's degenerate when a man uses a woman for a few moments' moments pleasure and ald immediately refers refer to her as a nut Its It's degenerate t f when he thinks its it's ok okay y that he used her that way-be- way cause he fan fancies des that she gave her consent Guys like Smith have no idea what rape is or what it means They imagine it means some guy with Rambo- Rambo like strength and predator-like predator morals forcing a woman into submission They do not imagine that it could be a aguy aguy aguy guy who is capable of calling a woman a a nut right after fter he used her twice in half an hour to service himself Did Smith rape the woman I I. I dont don't know Did he use her and call her a n nut t Id I'd say he did Is she a nut Id I'd say she was Why else would she be with a guy like Smith |