Show child training old md and new modern methods conceded to have many points of advantage 0 c lectures Alto altogether 0 oether beyond the understanding of little ones sara and mrs daugherty were talking sara was engaged to be married and sirs mrs daugherty her aunt was performing a last duty by inseal I 1 men ts from time to time giving her carefully thought out advice today it had to do with one phase of the right way to liasse liaise children namely the right way to talk to your children it seems strange to me said sara sam that so many parents of today try to teach their children by old fashioned methods perhaps Ier haps because they realize that the old people had bad the best ideas on cb child id training said her aunt with fin finality allty ever since your dear mother died and your father gave you to me m to take care of I 1 have tried to teach you la in accordance with the way my mother taught me but it was too late you were spoiled I 1 could not make and the one word emphasized was make you see right and wrong in their light I 1 feel that I 1 have failed in the task your father gave me but nev erth eless I 1 have not altered my ideas in the least yes perhaps I 1 was wrong many times aunty aulty agreed sara cut but you see my mother was strictly modern in her ways and it was only net natural that I 1 became modern also however flowene r I 1 see no fault in being beang modern iro dern it if I 1 ever have children I 1 shall bring them up tip according to modern ideas we have progressed along other lines why cant we progress in the manner ot of educating children at home I 1 believe in giving a child a general conception of 0 right and wrong and then encouraging him to work out each individual problem I 1 most certainly do not believe in purposely letting him make a mistake and then lecturing him or giving him a whipping just what do you mean by lecturing turin sara inquired her aunt this demanded a reply so sara answered frankly you know perhaps that to very young people a lecture seems to consist of 0 lengthy expositions discussions and eloquent phrases at least those are arc the grownup grown up terms for what the child thinks of it it seems to him to have no real conciseness humor frankness honesty or clarity larl ty lectures really are for the older the more advanced people rr are e they not they are usually so BO fa far r beyond the childs understanding that be cannot grasp their meaning however clear it ma may y seem to the adult so 80 of course he fie shows little interest and receives little benefit if we really want to help children I 1 think we should talk with them not at them 1 I 1 begin to understand your point of view said mrs airs daugherty you think I 1 often lectured you instead of talking with you I 1 know now why chy you want to be bothered with your old aulty aunty and her silly talks the talks were lectures but I 1 hope you yon realize that everything I 1 said was intended for your benefit 1 I realize that aunty aulty this real talk Is going to be a revelation to both of us I 1 believe now to continue our lesson let me see if I 1 can state your idea clearly continued her aunt the friend ly talk in the majority of cases Is the best way to correct children and to give them advice end and in that talk you should have some humor although not enough to subordinate explanation and fact it must also be concise frank sincere straightforward honest and clear it must not be about the child but to him n very important point to reme remember aber when talking to your children I 1 if f I 1 understand you correctly that Is exactly what I 1 mean aruty aunty but may we change talking to your children to talking with your children it should be I 1 think a conversation a friendly chat ali the confidential confident lAl talk with a child la iago oi to lecture nim dim Is harmful the more boore I 1 think about it sara the te more 1 rea realize ze that hint your idellie are correct it Is too late to practice them on my niece but I 1 hope you will stick to them and live eive advice to any children who are ever in acair care 1 I 1 will was wag saras sarag hurried reply for the doorbell had just rung ano and she was expecting her flance |