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Show Dorothy Dix Talks j HOW TO KEEP LOVE. j B) DOROTHY DIX, the Wo. Id's Highest Paid Woman Writer The groatept tiling in t lie world isi love, and the iuosu Important thing Is the keeping of love not only keeping the sat rod flamo burning on the altar' of the soul of another, but keeping! it alight in our' own souls, for there is no more danger tha0 we hali feaaei to be loved than that we shall cease to love, and of the two the latter Is the greater calamity. Nov.- there is onh one way that we. can keep love alive and thai is by giv- ' ing it an unanswering deotion, for Cupid is a jealous god who brooks no divided allegiance. A fact that we seem seldom to grasp is. that love's power consists in its being a monopolw As lone; as (here is only one man'or woman iii the world ' for each of us, or each of us ta the only man or woman in the world for another, anoth-er, we are the masters of love We hold it in the hollow of our hand. No other thing appeals to us noth : ing else has the power to charm us as' does the knowledge that we have entire en-tire possession of another's heart. That ! is a spell to conjure with, whose po-tehcj po-tehcj far exceeds beautv, or wit. or grace, or any other personal attribute." Millions of men hae married women that they would never have! noined it they hadn't discovered that the woman was desperaleh in love with them, while it is an axiom of courtship that practically any man can marr any woman he chooses it he will only love her lont rnouph ami faithfully enough It is the patient suitor who camps on a girl's doorstep, who gets her in the end, no matter how much she scorned him at first. I In matrimony the ability of love to protect its own, still holds good. The. greatest feminine diplomat that ever, lived, never devised any scheme so, subtle, or invoked any charm so strong to hold a husband s fickle fancy, as just simply to lavish her whole af-! fectlon upon him. As for a woman, as long as a wife! is certain that her husband adores her above everything else, she asks nothing more of him, and forgives all things to him. He may beat her, and i starve her, bui if there e warmth in1 his kisses, she will not even remember remem-ber her bruises against him. She mayj have to work her fingers to the bone1 to support him, but as long as he eon -! tinues to take nn Interest In holding her hand after her day's work is over, I she will consider herself I he most lor-' tunnie of her sex. Such Is the power of love lo win and hold love, but we lose our white magic' as soon a our own affections cool off. As long as we love, we are loved. I When we cease- to love, we lose love It Is when we set up other gods to worship thai Cupid revenges himself upon u.s by robbing us of the heart we have won. and that we had foolishly I believed that we could not lose- It is one of the little ironies of lifei that no matter how luke warm our; own affection get-;, we expect an-j Other's love for us to always keep at the boiling point. Thus do we raise dp our rivals, and out of our own lap ses create the Frgnkenstefns that slay our hanniness I What first induces a nfurried man to seek the society of another woman! than his wife'' Is it not, as a general' thing, because his wife has lost in-' teres.! In him to a degree, and no' longer gives him ihc admiration he craves, or pays him the compliments tor which he hungers'' While a man Is all-in-all to his wife, while he Is strre of finding her an in-, exhaustible fountain of adulation, while Bbe hangs upon his word, and, thrills upder his caresses, he seldom' wanders from his own fireside Certainly the thing that invariably, Starts a woman on a still hunt fot an! afflnit is Lhe fact that her husband has begun to neglect her. and no long-Br long-Br pays her the little attentions that are the breath of life to the femiuine . You never hear of a wile who has a devoted; affectionate, and adm(i inn husband, who lands irt the divorce, iii i It is onh w hen the domestic supply of love gives out thai the wit,-substitutes wit,-substitutes the unwholesome and indi-l gestible imported brand ot the Irtfcle Of course when we speak of rivals and divided affection, we Have In mind the dark man or the blond lady -ji the fortune tellef who i io come in our. lives and make trouble lor us In re- j ality, ihe true co respondent who is! responsible for the alienation of affet lion nftenor than any Individual, male or female, Is business or society. 1 The man gives the firsl place in his heat I to his business His wife comes afterward. No woman expects her hue- ' band to be as interested in her as hp! is in his occupation, or flatters herself her-self that she can inspire as genuine a thrill in his breast as a fhepoint rise In stocks would Vet. the man' who commits this crime against love wonders that love play? him false. If men would only seno love as Hugh as they do business, fewer women would parade the streets in velvet gnwns, but there would al.e be lewer aching hearts hidden UOdei expensive finery. Women likewise set up false .od Sometimes a woman is dazzled by society, so-ciety, or bitten by lhe career craze, and Whenever she does, irv e punishes h-i h . turning his back upon her. Cupid will not play second fiddle to a Paris gown, or bridge whist, or a newspaper notice. It is observable that the husbands of such women bear iheir separation from their wies with nohie resignation. "Thou shall hae no other love but me.' That is the great law of love, and the men and women who break i1 do o at their peril. |