Show Dorothy DoEothy Dix Talks IF YOU WOULD AVOID ON ONE OF THE CHIEF CAUS OF UN UNHAPPY HAPPY MARRIAGES MR MAN DONT DON'T PROPOSE uNTIL YOU HAVE MONEY THE THE DESIRE FOR A AND A GIRL WHO IS A PAl PAL INSTEAD OFA OF A DANCING PARTNER A AYOUNG A A YOUNG man wants to know why so 10 man many marriages i are failures Ob Oh there ther are arc varl various u and sundry reasons too numerous loe log here bere but one of the chief causes cause of weddIng bells belIs getting and out of tune Is because men mn go Into before they are ar good and ready tor for It tt 4 They marry on impulse which Is ii as lIS Idiotic a athing athine thing to do and as sure lure a forerunner ot of o as If It a a general should undertake to fight a battle 4 without any knowledge pt ot strategy or plan of ot attack or lacking ammunition and guns cuns 1 ha A happy py marriage Ii I not the th result of ot blind 4 blind luck It Is a scientific structure er erect ct- ct ed Ced ed On n a laid foundation and It Ith itha C h has to to t be bc built up brick by by brick It also h to be b erected by a competent architect who understands his hll trade trad and ca can show his hla union not card card not by prentice hands handl Marriage is I the th tailed easiest thing In the th world wrid to t fall fail Into Int and the th hardest to t break DIX out of It costs COlts a dollar and a half halt for a license licens and much you y u have hav got gt for tor a dIvorce to say nothing of the fact tact that you I enter r marriage with smil and a high heart h art and you obtain a 5 divorce with tears tearl and wounds that leave scars Icara that you yu with carry to the th grave with you THEREFORE T THEREFORE young man when you fall In fn love lov with a girl cirl or think you ou are ar falling In fn love lon with one dont don't propose proper marriage to her until you kno know whether you are really ready to marry For pity's pity sake for tor your your- own sake and nd above all II for the th wo wo- woman's woman's mans man's sake dont don't marry until you are sure sur you sou ou are ar not Dot marrying just because your fancy has been captured by a pretty face and you self and jealously want to call It your own until you tire Ur of fl It Only marry when you have got to t the th time tim of life lit when a quiet home horn looks lok better to you than a cabaret and when you hav have reached rached the th point of wisdom when you know that the tho smiling face fac of a good woman across the table tabi Is the crowning blessing that come to a man when the th voices of little children have hav In them a thrill that beggar all other excitement and gayety that the world wrid holds r 0 NOT marry m rry until you are tick sick Ick and tired of o four wild Do D oats There Ther Is fl s an old proverb to the effect that the reformed makes the best belt husband This does not Dot gibe rib with our American Ideas but all the same sam there ther Is a grain stain of o truth In Il It Each of ot us UI at some lome som time men time men and women must women must have our our- little fling our ur little hour with the cap and bell bells our playtime and If It we ws do not get It In our youth yuth we w take tak It later on n when wh n li It I i is a mighty liable to make trouble YOU Y VOU will observe that th t the gay t y whose affairs with adventuresses I furnish spicy readIng In our daily dally newspapers are al ai almost most roost always middle aged a d men men youths were hard and poverty poverty- stricken poverty stricken an and 1 barren of ot all pleasure We laugh at these men who are merely merely- sowing their wild oats crop In Iii the fall tall Instead of In the spring and the the- autumn sowing brings brines In the th heaviest harvest of shame and remorse So If It yo must go so through the th time tim when your Our Mea idea Idea of of enjoy enjoy- enjoyment enjoyment ment Is f to o drink a bit more than Is good food for you or to sit up up- all night In fn a poker poker- game tamo or to kIss painted lips be b very sure that these thele Ignoble pleasures pleasure plea ure have haTe palled upon you OU and that that they weary sicken Icken and disgust you before betor you ask asic ask any woman to marry you No man has a right to marry a woman and andset set her down at home horn un unless Ie he h intends intend to t stay Itay there thero ther with her and to stay tay because he wants to t stay If you are ar not certain that you love a woman w man well wll enough to enjoy spending your evenings In her company leave her In her own home hom where wh r she sh has cheerful society Give her a iI chance chanc of marrying somebody who will chum up with her You are ar not the th only man ALSO A consider the th money oney ques question on and ana te e sure aure ur that you OU can at- at afford atford ford lord the luxury ofa of ot a wife before you Indulge yourself In one Never ever forget that while courtship Is run on the th hot air plan marrIage f Is a cash transaction and that It ft takes money and money and lots of o to It-to It support a family Before you marry spend a week In careful study of your mothers mother bill book bok Grind Into your consciousness that there are bund bound to be b butcher butch r bill and grocery bills and plumbers plumber's bills and doctor bills of which you yu never dreamed Then when you marry you will not nt have hav fits a as so co many youn young husbands do when you find out that your yur wife wit cant can't work miracles In the th loaves and fishes line nor clothe cloth herself with withA air A ND to be b happy you must able abl to meet these bills rv Jf tor for believe bellev me ine no matter how ow much people love lov each other oilier there ther Uno no no peace nor joy In the ilio home horn where the collector Is forever ham ham- snoring on the tho door and where as to the th future of ot wife and children tears tear at a mans mans man's Finally son lon n dont don't marry until you are ar old enough to have your taste tute tast settled and to t what sort of a wife you will really rully want ant Half of f the th matrimonial m misery In the tho world is I the direct result of men mn marrying when they thy are arkid kids and getting sick and tired of ot their kid choice of a life partner It Is II like Ilk condemning cond a man whose sophisticated appetite calla calls fo ton caviar and strong meat mut to spend his hll life de- de de devouring chocolate creams because he h was crazy about gooey messes when wh n he h was wu 18 K TAY 1 Is It for tor grownup I It Is li not a for tor babes and so wait walt until you can bring brint a mans man's jUdgment to the choice of of a wife Walt Wait until you OU can see seo something something- In a woman be- be besides besides be beside sides side a a prell pretty face Walt until the color of ot her soul seems seem more mor Im in- Important to you than the color of ot her eyes ees Walt until you consider I her heart more mor Important than her complexion and you OU give five more thought to the th kind of ot companionship she ah can give elv you than you do doto doto doto to whether her dance step matches yours your or not The Th thing that Is II I worth having Is II worth Waiting for tor That ThatIs I Is as a true tru of et f love lv as II It is II I of everything else lse and If It you would be b happy though married wait walt until you are ar good and ready roady for fr It DOROTHY DX DIX Copyright by ly Public Ledger Leder |