| Show I oh Do Dix s 's Letter Lette Box r rothy R r KEl SHOULD THE OLDER BROTHERS R AND N SISTERS T TAKE CARE YOUNGER ONES WHY THERE ARE MORE DIVORCES NOW THAN THERE USED TO BE HUSBAND WHO GIVES BEEFSTEAK INSTEAD OF AMBROSIA DEAR YEAR AR DOROTHY What DIX DIX What duty do the grownup brothers and owe to their younger sisters and brothers who are of or ago age and under Is it their duty to help support them It If the father rather Is li unable to do so B D AND 0 O Answer h I think it Is the duty of the older brothers 44 and sisters to help the younger ones get an education and a start in life but this done the youngsters should be made to stand upon M their own feet There Is certainly no reason c why the older brothers and sisters sister should be made the perpetual family goats as they so often are gi 1 For Sor this reason I think It Is a good thing If I 1 the older ones make the lounger ones understand that kt tt they must pay back when they get to earning money S all an that the older ones have spent on their education younger brothers and sisters are very apt to depend depend depend- too much upon their older brothers and sisters and John educated them that nL OU think that because and Mary John and Mary should take care ot or them for the re of or their lives I know many Ases ses ses In which the eldest son or daughter of or a 1 a fam fain family ily has bas sacrificed his or her entire life lICe to taking care of or younger broth broth- brothers eye ers and gd sisters and often orten enough they have gotten scant pay In ap predation or gratitude I recall one case In particular In which a pretty young girl refused to marry the man she loved In order to edu educate educate cate a brilliant oung brother For many sears ears she toiled tolled like a slave all of her ier to put him hta through college and law school and and maintain him until he be got a start In his profession and later on when he be was a distinguished judge and she ehe was poor and old and sick he be paid his debt to her by boarding her in the poorest cheapest place in a a miserable little town and refusing to pay her doctors doctor's bills Nevertheless there Is such a thing as duty to ones one's family and there Is an obligation of honor for the strong to help the weak Sometimes SometIme It happens that one member of a family seems to inherit all of the strength of body and mind and to tor r get all of the Intelligence and backbone and Initiative that the parents had to bequeath to their offspring and In such cases the gifted one should surely look out for hi his brothers and sis sic tere who have no faculty for getting ettin along themselves The man with executive ability should make places in his business for his brothers and sisters who ho ho are too blind to ever see the open door of or opportunity for themselves The rich man should shoud give ot or hIs I plenty to those less well ell eli off but he should be careful not to let the I spIneless lean on him too heavily nor make parasites of or those to whom I he Is generous DOROTHY DIX I S j DEAR BAR r EAR DOROTHY DIX Why DIX Why are there so man many more divorces now now- nowadays now U I than there used to be Do YOU OU think that the way ay women dress now and the modern style of or dancing has anything to do with It it 1 Do you think that bachelors are afraid to marry now because they the see so many examples of or unhappy marriages J A F Answer I dont don't th think Ink that the way women dress has any bearing on the divorce question A mans man's grievance against his wife has hasto hasto hasto to be greater than the length of her skirt to make him willing willingto to pay alimony to get rid of her Husbands have always criticised their wives clothes and declared that the fashion no matter what it was In any age was the limit of asininity but they went on living with the women whose costumes they de- de derided de derided Nor do I believe that Jazz Is responsible for marital In Infelicity I felicity The reason that there are more divorces than there used to be Is Id because people are demanding more of or life than they used to We de- de demand demend de demand mand mend better houses better food tood better clothes more amusement more luxuries more happiness than our parents and grandparents did In former tImes time when people got married they expected to 10 settle down to a life of hard work and self denial and to put put- I ting putting up with whatever sort lort ofa of a disposition their husband or wife had Now when a young couple get married they expect to con con- continue tl Jue to amuse themselves pretty much as they did before ms mar marriage I and to find a super agreeable companion and playmate Inthe man or woman they marry And when they dont don't they dont don't suffer In silence They hop to the divorce court and try it over again Undoubtedly also the emancipation of or women swells the number or of divorces for tor tar far more women divorce their husbands than men di div dh orce their wives men are just as good husbands now as they ever were but grandmother had to stand grandpa no matter how un- un un I un he a was as to her no matter how he abused her or how stingy and cantankerous he was as for or grandpa was grandmas grandma's meal ticket and her ber card ot or admission to good society A divorced woman was a disgraced woman no matter how righteous she was nor how Justified she was In ridding herself of a fiend so she had to endure a miserable marriage with what patience she could But now we view the matter differently We see that no good purpose Is achieved by keeping two people people people- together who have come to hate each other and who bring out the worst that Is In each other and that no one onO should be bo made made to pay with a lifetime of misery for a mistake that was made In all Innocence and good faith And hn ever every woman can support herself she does not have to stay tied to a man she loathes for the sake of a livelihood I do not believe that bachelors are kept from marrying by the spectacle of unhappy We never learn from the th mIstakes or of others because we e all feel reel that we could ha haie e succeeded here flIed failed The hIgh cost ot of livIng and selfishness are the veal real reasons they why rby bachelors stay bachelors DOROTHY DIX a I I married J DEAR DOROTHY Do DIX DIX Do vou ou think because I have been married ten Tears Years and am thirty that I am foolish In wanting I to V pay me TOO 10 attentions tAA Al T Tto my husband 7 He Is ery ery good to me and the children but when I hug and he says That's enough I and Jr If I tell him I want to be loved he jokes It off Do yOU think me too old to want to beloved AN Answer AN AFFECTIONATE WIFE The Tho tragedy of marriage my dear Is that a woman can t keep the heart of a bride to seventy while a a man maa get t over nver be p si Ing a bridegroom when he leaves the tho altar You will always hunger and pine for sentiment You will always be asking for thata ambrosia and getting a beefsteak but do try to realize that a beefsteak Is just as a much a love token u as a bunch of orchids and try to be satisfied with It And believe w this an man who Is hood to and you the children and makes you a good living I Is worth a million glib gilb makers love who are probably having sentimental adventures with other women on the side DOROTHY DIX Copyright 1924 1024 l by Public Ledger Company |
