Show 11 T Dixs Dix's Letter Box I SHOULD A DELICATE GIRL MARRY TO BE CARED FOR FORT WHY DO D GIRLS MARRIED PEOPLE SO 80 OFTEN WARN SINGLE AGAINST TAKING FATAL STEP CAN DEAD LOVE BE REVIVED twenty three years yeara of age very much EAR r EAR T EAR MISS DIX I DIX I am a II girl E who wants to marry U L In love with a splendid man of twenty eIght Knowing marriage doctors warn me against and me But Dut I am delicate this my sweetheart Insists on marrying marr Ins me He says sas he wants to care for me and work for or me that I spur Ideals slake make hIs hi him to higher thIngs and that my life worth living In every way way- W l this man shows the sIncerIty of his bis affection tar for or me and when I give him no hope ho he becomes morose sad and almost des des- desperate des I I Ot Of course there them Is fa nothing that I desire so much muchas muchas as to marry him but have I a right to chain such a ay aman iman y man to a wife physically llly weak I love him too well wel to be a II burden to him UNHAPPY SWEETHEART v i Answer v Better fifty year years of Europe than a cycle taw of Cathay Better a year or two of perfect f happiness with the man you love than a long lifetime of dreary heartbroken So marry your man I say eay and take your chance 1 lUX Der I tell about health I have the utmost reo re- respect re respect can Besides you never are reno not Infallible ln I know n wa a but they J for the medical profession told by their doctors when seventies who were their dozen persons In to an early grave Tave that they were were In their twenties they were who were such frail and I know dozens of big fat aged aged women fragile girls that no one expected them to live The real elixir of life Is la happiness There Is II no such luch tonic and determination to live will work interest Hope and as oy fatal disease there have some lome miracles and you actually and If accept accept ac- ac should not get well strong you is II no reason why you of and take Intelligent care the goods the gods godl present mind unalterably that you yourself When you make up your Invalid are well on will get married and you wont won't be an you your way to recovery husband The reason that most Nor NOT need you be a burden on your their families Is because they let them a drag on sickly women are elves get et peevish and and and spend their time of torment they make home a place o Naturally telling their s symptoms and everybody flees tiel'S from them But I recall one bedridden Invalid who ho met her affliction with sch s ch courage who was 80 so brave and cheerful and serene and wise that her ber couch became a shrine to which ber er family and friends came for and comfort Women help men In many different different ways and Just the fact that are delicate and frail and have to be taken care of may bring you ou out oui all that Is II best but In your husband And his de desire Ire to protect you and keep you safe may mar may spur him on to achieve DOROTHY DIX great things TEAR EAR DOROTHY DIX I DIX I am engaged to be married I am employed ln U L In a business house and am associated with business men most of whom are married d and families Will you please tell me why hy It Is that these married men speak so discouragingly of married life lire and almost raise their hands In horror when they learn that I am sm about abbot to READER fatal take the step Answer I suppose these gentlemen follow the example of Puck whose advice to the man about to be married was Dont After you are married Reader you will find out that mar mar- marriage marriage marriage is one of bf the things that you can neither do with or with with- without without without out Most persons who are married are unhappy and vir vir- vir virtually virtually everybody who Is unmarried Is II unhappy so 10 there you are Marriage being a human buman Institution and dealing with Imperfect human beings Is necessarily a very Imperfect Institution It Is full of dIsillusions and dra drawbacks backs of sacrifices of aggravations of o nagging and slavery of things that rasp the nerves and try the temper When the average husband and wife think of how much they have to endure from each other of how much they have to give up for tor each other of how much they are bored of how monotonous domestic life Is and especially when they contemplate the freedom of the unattached they think that anyone any one is a fool who runs his or her head Into the matrimonial noose and takes upon himself or herself the burdens and obligations of a family But let these thele very persons who have so railed at matrimony regain their liberty and they are miserable They have got back backall backall backall all for which they have pined There I Is nobody to nag them nobody to call tali time lime on them They can come and go as they They can spend their money on themselves But also there Is II nobody to fuss over them nobody to care whether they come home or not nobody who has a vital Interest In them nobody to love them Virtually every widow and widower who can remarries So dont dont don't take too seriously the advice of those who warn you against entering the holy estate If their wives should die they would be out hunting for No 2 within a year DOROTHY DIX mAR T EAR MISS You DIX DIX You said r recently in this column that love can be beL baiJ L killed by indifference and c coldness If It this has happened can It be brought back to life and made as good as new ONE VITALLY INTERESTED Answer No You cannot make the heart beat again that has been stopped by death You cannot bring back again life to a corpse What is dead Is dead It is II I final A man ma may kill his wife's love bv by faithlessness and neglect He Herosy rosy may repent his wrong In bitterness and tears and be willing to almost gIve his hig life to Inspire In her again the de devotion she once felt for him The wife may yearn unspeakably to wipe out the memory of what has happened and feel toward her husband as she did when she came cane to hIm a bride But It cannot be Love lies dead between them and they have no magic by which they can conjure It Into life lIe again For love Is II not a thing of volition We cannot rule our hearts We cannot thrill to order We cannot trust truet the one who has betrayed us We cannot believe the lips lip that have lied to us UI We cannot bring back the Illusion that has been torn In Into to shreds We cannot regain the Interest that we have once lost What It Is in a certain Ind Individual 1 that appeals to us we do not know but when that allure Is gone It Is gone Ione forever You could as easily bring back the freshness to the trampled rose rose- b bud rosebud u d as you could fall tall In love lose 10 e again with the man or woman for whom you ou have ceased to care ThatIs Wh When hen love I Is le dead It the of all dead thing things That I Is s w why y we should be so careful to keep It alive DOROTHY DIX T TY Copl Copyright 1924 by Public Ledger Company |