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Show 106 Sun Advocate Price, Utah Tuesday July 16, 2002 Theii and miow Willow Creek Storytime is a self By CAROLYN CAMPBELL' Contributing writer upon a time there was a princess with twelve brothers' becomes more compelling if you ask a question about the exciting part that comes later, such as, "Have you ever seen a dragon? If there is more description than you think your listener will appreciate, you might shorten that part as welL Remember that descriptive and narrative passages often read well, yet require a long time to explain verbally. b there a time in your house when there are no monster noises; no Nintendo background music and the only sound is your quiet voice? Answers to the following questions will help make telling stories a special sharing time for you and your family. When should I introduce storytelling? How does storytelling promote bonding between a parent and child? Children will enjoy simple stories, or books with perhaps one or two words under each picture, at the age of two. How will I know ifa partku-child-? lar story will interest a Of course, a child's interests are as individual as he is. Stories relating to subjects that intrigue him are likely to be of interest A child whs is fascinated by space monsters may not enjoy the same stoiy or book as a dukfwho loves quiet stories and picture books I different animals, numbers, letj ters, and seasons, through listen j ing to stories. Stories can be used to helg heroine. Although heis initially on her side because she is the heroine, when he thinks about what she actually did, he might say, What a mean trick!' Storytelling is also a way of teaching children about cultures; There, are stories where the events might not seem fair in out culture, but within the mores and traditions of other cultures, arenf unfair at all. lb teach children about other countries or event in history, parents can create sto 3 By reading a stoiy together, both the parent and child experi ence its events simultaneously. If a parent interests a child m a stoiy, the child begins to focus on toe parent as a real person with interesting things to say. Having fun together through stoiytelling is a kind of bonding that requires no money, and promotes a close relationship because, rather than concentrating on an amusement ride or video machine, the parent and child are focusing on each other. How are storytelling and learning to read connected? If you tell stories that come from books, the children almost always want, to read those books. Children like to work with things that are familiar. When they first break into reading and using words, if they start with a story that has been read aloud to them, this feels safer. Also, it doesn't hurt a child to read the same story over again and again, or to read it right after you've read it to him. Each reading helps develop his own understanding and reading ability.' What other ways can storytelling be used as a teaching with pastoral illustrations. Remember that a librarian can offer booklists or suggestions. . Choosing a story or book of an appropriate length also helps. Although this is also a matter of individual taste, for children three and under, picture books with tjiree or fewer sentences on each page, such as There's a Nightmare in My Qoset or There's An Alligator Under My Bed," are often enjoyable. For children five and over, stories can range from one to fifteen minutes in length; you may wart to vary the lengths when telling a group of stones. Too, feel free to amend the story to keep it exciting. If a story has a difficult beginning, but be- This pinto of the Willow Creek loadout area in the early 1900's shows a busy and bustling place. tool? Storvtelline can be useful comes more interesting later, consider paraphrasing the opening. Astay that starts with, 'once ries based on factual information! When children study the particu-- j lar event or country, it will be fa j miliar to them from hearing thq stories. What are ways to vary familn iar stories? Drawing what happens in tod story while you tell it is one wajl to add variety. You don't have tq love veiy beafantastic artist-k- ids simple pictures. Less complex pictures also help so that yoii aren't drawing too long between talking. It's also easier if yoii know the story well enough so that you can draw and tell the stoiy without looking at the book. For a fun change of pace, ask children to read or tell a story td you, not in a studious, "lefs see! howi can read,1' way, but with a lefsjust tell this story together and enjoy it attitude. ? That can be very fun. . When rivalry turns into fighting This photo taken in late June of this year shows a fairly deserted area, despite the updated equipment and rail tines. t All brothers and sisters fight ' behavior reoccurs, parents and call each other names. It is should mention the need for a called sibling rivaliy. For parents family discussion. After dinner it can be a time when it is not or before watching TV in toe evening is one time to sit down pleasant to be around their children. together as a family to talk about Dr. Vernon Wiehe, a re- the behavior. searcher in family relationships, A stands for ASSESS what is happening. The first things to in his new book for parents titled "What Parents Need to assess in toe family meeting are Know About Sibling Abuse" the fads and feelings about what warns that sibling rivalry can get happens just prior to the siblings out of control and become sib- becoming embroiled in conflict ling abuse. He suggests parents All siblings involved should be can intervene in sibling rivaliy included in telling what hapthat is in danger of getting out of pened and how they were feelings control by implementing a fam- at the time and after toe conflict ily conference using the acronym After a highly emotionally SAFE. charged; altercation between sib- In the SAFE conference the lings, children often project blame or responsibility onto toe letters stand for the following. S stands for STOP toe acother sibling when confronted. tion. When brothers and sisters They may protest for example, are engaged in hitting, slapping, Tbmmy hit me." Parents can cut parents through children's projections of pushing, or blame by requiring that each should stop toe behavior. Children might be asked togo to their child speak only in 1 statements." own rooms or do something This means that each statement atone for a period of time. If the must begin with the word L Ac name-callin- g, S ceptable statements are, for ex- ample, T hit Tbmmy back aftefc be hit me." The use of "I stated ments forces children to focuji mi their own contribution to the altercation rather than projecting responsibility onto their sibling; F represents FINDING cxriE wb&t will work. This is toe cord of the problem-solvin-g process The cwtral question to the sib lings is: "What can you do to avoid what happened?" Although parents may be tempted to present simple solutions to tod problem, they should skillfully involve toe children in analyzing the conflict and how it could .3 have been avoided. An outcome of this phase cd the problem-solvinprocess mag be toe family setting some bask! rules that all must follow. PosH ing these rules on the tor door may serve as reminder to all concerned. example, aiule might be: No ond borrows anything (toys, clothing? g .S personal possessions) without expressed permission from toq person owning the object Off when the door to a bedroom oj! bathroom is dosed, no one enj ten without permission from thg person in the room. j Frequently conflicts develop around the completion of house! hold chores assigned to siblings! such as taking out toe trash, set;! ting the table,and washing tog dishes, lb help reduce these cob flicts, a chart can be mounted on the refrigerator dearly identify!' ing .who is responsible forwhaff task on what day, and establish a consequence for not fulfilling these responsibilities. E stands for EVALUATE ING whetoer or not toe dew sions from the family problem;! solving conference are being implemented. This evaluation can occur a few days or a weelg later and provides dues for fine tuning desired outcomes. Thd problem-solvin- g process in g family conference is not a time event but may need used frequently as parents confront family chat lenges. On toe other hand, every siblings have a conflict doerf not mean toe family must have g UDDERLYEASY The Milkman is back! QBSRfii R (pDu (. - M im ifamdl w At Utah Central Credit Union, we understand' -- believe made here, not in New York. It also means hard as you do. ilU 637-545- 86 East 100 South life a little bit easier. After all, at UCCU, we We're in it together IhAM TmT,W01 iS-mon- v , al Never a loss of principal Never a loss of interest? t ' t I -Umtitd Hue offer VWhenhckltowcy i , , w. . f ' V .. ' Mrmhenhlp arid ;.".. Beer Menu ?. tftbiiity fl Weeding i Ar.yi- - r II j Lunch ; 11:004:30 repaired f.'. 6 .. x ... - James A. Feno Phi). '' : CMal Fvtooiogtat or Party? Catering Available - i. 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