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Show 14 A The Salt Lake Tribune, Wednesday, January 21, 1081 Ann Landers Put child in own bed Dear Ann Landers: This morning your column made me see red. Your reply to Worried Grandma" regarding her son sleeping with his daughter was absurd. The only problems in this area are created Listen to the sounds Note to Parents : Todays column is an exercise in listening to the natural rhythms of the environment. Ask your children to find rhythm in street sounds, wind, waves and household noises. These exercises should be done in those few minutes that you spend with your children while you are waiting or when you wish them to be quiet. By Robin Robinson Splutter. Sss, sighed the steam radiator in Xs room. Ssss, Haaaah, Sst. Then it was quiet. X looked at the ceiling carefully. There was a spot about 6 inches from one wall and 2 feet from the other wall. Because she was lying on her back on her bed, she scrutinized each section of the ceiling. That was the only spot. Its really tiny, she thought. Smaller than my little fingernail. Slowly, so slowly that X was not sure it was really happening, a pink ribbon began to extend from the spot on the ceiling. Inch by inch, it grew longer and longer until it dangled just a foot above Xs nose. Then there was a glow on the end of it. Starlight appeared swinging to and fro as though she were a circus acrobat. What are you doing? she asked, without even saying hello. Are you sick? No, answered X. Im not sick. I was watching that spot in the ceiling that your ribbon came from. Secret Entrance Thats my secret entrance, answered Starlight. Then she perched cn Xs toe and waited. SSSst. Splutter-splutte- r, The radiator went ssss-ss-- s. The pink ribbon was gone. Suddenly, Starlight jumped to the end of the bed and stood, poised, on the bedpost. The radiator sighed, Sssss-hasssStarlight flung her arms toward the ceiling and spun on her toes. Her gauzy fairy dress was wrapped tightly around her legs. She paused, balanced lightly on her toes, waiting for the next Hiss-ss-- s. h. sputter. Her leg rose and her toes pointed and she began to dance. What are you dancing to? asked X. Why the radiator steam, of course, answered Starlight. Its making lovely music. X listened to the Sssss-ss-sst, haah. Its just making steam sounds, she said. Its not really an instrument. I dont need an instrument to hear music, sang Starlight in the same hissy sounds of the steam. I can hear music everywhere. You could too, if you tried. Sat on Bed How? Alexandra sat up on her bed and crossed her legs. How do you listen for music? First you must be very quiet. Then you must get rid of all the words and thoughts that you have flying around in your head. They are like static on the radio and they keep you from hearing the sounds around s, you. I cant just think of What can I think of nothing. X squinted her eyes. Think of a wavy line that moves with the sounds And come and you hear, suggested Starlight. dance with me. X thought of the wavy line and she held her arms out and made them quietly wavy. The radiator went t. Sst. Haah. The two girls pirouetted through the space in the room. I can do it. I hear it, cried X. A door closed in another part of the house and X closed her arms around herself in a big hug. Im so happy I can hear, she sang to Starlight, softly. Now you will have music where ever you go, answered Starlight. Be very quiet right now. What do you hear? Can you dance to it? Can you make a song inside your head from it? Whenever you have a minute to wait in line, or sit on a bus, or wait in a car, listen, and see if you can hear the music that goes on all around you all of the time. Ssss-SS-tt- bid- by dies like Grandma and people with dirty minds like you. As the divorced mother of two yoirng daughters, I would not hesitate for one minute to let my daughters sleep with their father. In fact, the thought would never cross my mind that something might be wrong with it. I do see real problems, however, in explaining to my daughters why they cannot continue to sleep with their Daddy as in their younger days Now, THAT would put some funny ideas in their heads. I thought you were with it until I read that answer, Montreal Mother Ann. You surprised me. Dear Montreal: Heres a letter from Indiana that responds to yours in a way I never could. I hope you will read it carefully. She has been there. I have not. Dear Ann: Not only do I want to underscore your note of alarm about little girls sleeping with their fathers, Id like to extend it to little girls sleeping with their mothers. Children grapple with all sorts of sexual feelings at an early age including incest and homosexuality. The intimacy of an adult bed can create a lot of ambivalence, anxiety, confusion and guilt. I know about all this because I slept with my mother all through my childhood. (Please note, I am a female.) Im sure my mother was but I suffered a great deal of emotional upheaval because of her ignorance. It took five years and two psychiatrists to bring me peace of mind. I had to acknowledge powerful incestuous feelings and also come to terms with my bisexuality. Please tell parents everywhere to hug their children, love them, cuddle them and hold them. Then put them in their own beds for the night. Even a cushion on the floor is better than being in a bed with a parent. It is far more desirable than stirring up No Name feelings the little ones cant handle. Please And No City Or State Dear N.H.: Thanks for sitting in my chair today. You did a superb job. son walks just Dear Ann Landers: Our like his father. Many of our friends have mentioned this, and they think it is rather cute. Its a distinctive kind of walk he lists to the left just a little and one foot points out more than the other. Its noticeable half a block away. My neighbor mentioned this again yesterday and added, Its nice that your son wants to imitate his Dad. So many kids go the other way these days. I like told her the walk is not imitated, its inherited a dimpled chin or extra-larg- e ears. My friend says I d, Submit picture before wedding The great increase in the number of weddings in area makes it possible for The our Tribune to publish only the engagement or wedding photograph, but not both. To assure publication, photographs for use with wedding announcements in The Tribune should be m the office of the Lifestyle Dept., Room 212, Tribune Bldg, at least one week before day of the wedding ceremony The $8 charge for wedding photographs is to cover reproduction costs. Because of the volume of photographs handled, The Tribune can assume no responsibility for pictures submitted. Golden wedding and birthday announcements are charged for space used at the rate of $15 40 per inch. There is an extra charge if a picture is used. They should be submitted to classified advertising department, Newspaper Agency Corp., 143 S Main, or phone mm tm mm mm mi COUPOP" -g 237-291- 1 A AMEMCA S FINEST WOMANS 25-6- sfeptemper THE BODY WRA Body Wrap B 3 E n 0 AEBELSKIVER PANS Be excited by the new you. Call Right Now! "L K Trolley Salmon supply This years pack of Pacific canned salmon is now in excellent supply in the market. Available in a variety of can sizes, this choice seafood is highly nutritious and waste-freCanned salmon is delicious just as it comes from the can or combined with other foods in a variety of appetizers, salads and entrees. e. 6 4.79 100 24.99 WOOL PUL10VER SWEATERS DISCOUNTED 20 $AtltltiAWI 31 West 1st South 364-756- 1 January Clearance Time to 100 Wool Be Warm . 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For Weekly 1 - A reception was given after the ceremony. 24 hours a day V Holladay Julie Hammond and David Ronald Kilgore were married Tuesday at Log Haven. OFF 0 Reg. 8.95 SPECIAL Electric Stove Adolescent Residential Treatment Center needs electric stove that fits space. Gift of Sensitivity Childrens Center needs volunteer a morning or afternoon a week. Share in therapeutic treatment of children with emotional conflict. Volunteer will learn communication skills. Butler Middle School needs Be a Tutor volunteer from Cottonwood Heights area to tutor 8th grade student. Davis Volunteer Davis County Parents Resource Center needs parent aid volunteers to work with abusive, neglectful parents. Training in early February. TV Work KUED needs volunteers to work with data processing computers, recording and assistance in shipping Cottonwood Hospital needs five Gift Shop volunteers to help in different sections of the hospital four hours a week. Help needed in gift shop. Auditor Needed Volunteer needed to audit records in foster care cases. Minimum eight hours a week. Social work background, math skills needed. Help the Children Volunteer needed to take care of children while mothers are applying for public assistance at Assistance Payments office. Time is four hours a week for three months. I I One Complimentary i Discover how to bo dote bait without falling hook, lino and sinkar. Ann Landers' booktat, "Dating Do's and Don't," will help you be mors poisad end sure ot yourself on dates. Sand SO cants along with a long, stamped self addressed envelope with your request to Ann Landers, P.O. Box I199S, Chicago, Illinois Mill. Hammond-Kilgor- e j I o o c I contacted the ambulance company immediately after the funeral and told the manager that I was very unhappy with his service and the bill. I ended by saying, Come hell or high water, I am going to get to the bottom of this. His reply was, Lady, as far as I am concerned, you ARE at the bottom of it. I have tried to persuade my father to file a lawsuit against these people, but his only reply is, All the money in the world wont bring your mother back. My lawyer advised me to file suit, but in the same breath he said, Without the cooperation of your father, youre sunk. Can you give me any advice in this matter? Detroit Daughter Dear Daughter: You have a lawyer. Either listen to him or get another one. My personal opinion is that further pursuit would be costly, exasperating and fruitless. Wedding On Christmas.Decoration Childrens Toys Hospice program needs toys as part of training program. Needed are doctors and nurses sets, playhouse and dolls, hand puppets, etc. ""I fadY'i SALON $420. Mrs. Kilgore CLEARANCE SALE DANISH WAFFLE IRON 486-213- Dear Ann Landers: My mother had a heart attack about a year ago. An ambulance was called to the scene. Two attendants walked into the house with a couple of empty oxygen tanks and no lighting equipment. Naturally they were unable tr insert an artificial air way. A second ambulance was called. This meant another delay. When crew No. 2 arrived, they tried unsuccessfully to get clearance from the hospital to insert an IV. This took an additional 10 minutes, due to faulty radio equipment. WTien they finally got through and permission was granted, they inserted the IV and her vein collapsed. They said my mother died of a massive heart attack on the way to the hospital. In my opinion, she died of inefficiency and neglect. Before Mom was buried, my father received a bill from the ambulance company. And get this: They charged him for two ambulances and oxygen which my mother never received. The total amount came to iTffifF . AFTER CHRISTMAS Volunteer comer If you can and want to help, contact Community Services Council, Voluntary Action Center, Utah Needs Help Utah Department of Social Services needs office specialist who can type reports, job audits, job specifications, manuscripts and provide clerical support to recruitment, placement, training and volunteer related activities, act as receptionist and give clerical support. Time is four to eight hours a week. Museum Guide Utah Museum of Natural History needs guides. Previous experience, education in history not required or needed. Training is provided. Volunteers conduct a tour a week. Instruct Families Cottage Program needs volunteers to instruct families in cottage setting about alcoholism and what families can do to help. program. Training Monday 7 to 8 p m. in four-wee- k am wrong. We bet a lunch on it. Who dines for Peoria Pais nothing? Dear Peoria: Children do not inherit a walk in the same way they inherit a dimpled chin or extra-larg- e ears. 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