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Show 23 Lakeside Review North, Wednesday, Dec. 28, 1983 Women Help Some women react with hystehave had brest cancer. Mrs. Sutton was introduced to ria, others hide behind a facade of calm. The fear is intense, fear the program through her own of possible death, and possibly experience with brest cancer. She more pervasive, the fear of being was visited in the hospital by Christy Blanch who was corrdi-nato- r physically unattractive, even recanis cause breast of the program at that The pulsive. cer, a disease most women 'time. The recollection of her own dread, but secretly believe it onadjustment to brest cancer and ly happens to others. Klea Sutton of Ogden has surgery gives Mrs. Sutton the been the coordinator for the necessary quality of understandreach t' Recovery Program ing she needs to be effective in sponsored by the American Can- -. her work in the program. She cer Society for several years. says when she found a lump on her breast she was visiting a When a patient has breast surgery due to cancer, doctors or daughter in New York. She made' a joke about her the medical staff at McKay-De- e Mrs. but her daughter was contact Center discovery, Hospital Sutton or one of her volunteers. alarmed, not amused. Mrs. SutThey pay a visit to the woman ton contacted a doctor on her rewhile she is still in the hospital. turn home and he advised All volunteers in the program surgery. If the lump was malig- - nant, he said, the brest would have to be removed. I didnt believe it was cancer, she recalled. She told the doctor to get it if it was cancer, but she says her bravado was sincere. 1 just didnt believe I had cancer, commented Mrs. Sutton. 1 was determined not to let it get to all me. After surgery she learned the lump had been malignant and a breast had been removed. I kept telling myself, it doesnt matter, she said. I was more determined than ever not to let it get me down. When her family and friends visited her in the hospital they found Mrs. Sutton looking pert' and pretty in attractive bedclothes, her hair was styled and she always had her make-u- p oh. 1 joked and laughed and almost convinced myself and my family that I was fine, that the operation didnt bother me, she com- -, 'V-mented. Mrs. Suttons doctor, , Finally, advised her family, "You have got to leave your mothe? alone for a while, you have got to allow her to cry It was during this time in the hospital that Mrs. Blanch visited , Mrs. Sutton as a volunteer for Reach for Recovery. She talked to me quietly and told jne I should be good to myself and allow myself to grieve, Mrs. Sutton said.-'She. looked so great, she ' continued,, I just couldn't be- -: lieve that Christy Blanch had 7 had breast surgery. , ; arent a real woman any more. Most important is to remem- It was the attitude of Mrs. Blanch that set in motion the healing process emotionally, for Mrs. Sutton. After 1 left the hospital and went home I started being good to myself, she commented. I started to cry. One afternoon I was in the bathtub and I just sat there and cried and cned. You have to grieve, you have to allow yourself that healing. You have suffered a loss. ber to love yourself, Mrs. Sutton said, and not to underestimate the people in your life, especially the men. My husband told me ; didnt make any difference to it it hasnt, she said. Some women do lose their husbands or lovers following breast surgery, comments Mrs. Sutton. I really believe these relationships werent' very good to begin with or they never would have let this kind of thing drive them apart Dealing with personal feelings and fears is difficult enough for the mastectomy patient, says Mrs. Sutton, but friends and family are sometimes uncomfortable, with the illness and their fears have to be dealt with, too. him, and , Most women go through three stages following breast surgery, asccording to Mrs. Sutton. These are: shock, anger and depression. I think younger women generally have a more difficult time accepting themselves following surgery, she says. They how feel they are no longer attractive, that they somehow f' mmm1 . a SFFECTIVK ANNUAL YIELp When you purchase a 6 month Money Market Certificate of, interest! Effec- -, $5,000 or more. Western Heritage offers 0.7 tive annual yield 1.00. ", 1 1 1 WESTERN - KEKDTfiA.'GE i'ti THRIFT A LOAN 7 at w Bountiful 107 North Main $nm$ Savings is us aaa St me iMwstftei Lean Oioaaty 298-365- I jPSSmS Ca- 3 Sandy 830 East 9400 South wetfvmwHsHtf HwStSWUt si S72-263- 0 St. George 494 East Tabernacle 628-365- Two in Low - Cordon FRUIT HEIGHTS quet of lavender roses with Day, Marie Hafenand Evelyn Tamara Poulsen stephanotis. ,. LAYTON Zimmerman. guests Attendants for the bride were included the Einer E. Pedersens and Michael Paul Schaelling were married in a ceremony perher sisters, Deborah Engebretsen h from Las Vegas and the Ronald formed by Wilford W. Kirton, and Barbara Poulsen, her Poulsens from .Idaho Falls. Joan Poulsen; and the The newlyweds are attending Jr., in the Salt Lake LDS TemCarol and Pam State University where Utah sisters, ple on Dec. 17. grooms The bride is a daughter of Dr. Schaelling. Flower girls were her 7 Mrs. Schaelling is majoring in and Mrs. A. Lloyd Poulsen, 2083 nieces, Kimberley and Kristi accounting and serves as the cul- Ridge Road, Layton. The groom Poulsen. They wore deep rose tural vice president. The brideis the son of Mr. and Mrs. A: dresses and carried traditional groom is a, Biology major and Paul Schaelling, Taylorsville. bouquets of lavender roses and has seved an LDS Mission to flower girls Paris, France. The couple was honored at a pixie carnations. The in their wreaths flowers had of wedding breakfast given by the ham The bride is a graduate of ,V, bridegrooms parents at Andys High School and the Layton served as Blake best Hobson The Smorgasbord. newlyweds from Cottongroom graduated were honored at a wedding re- man with the brides brother, in Salt Lake wood School High and her ception that evening at the home Stephen Poulsen, aw, Ardee Engebretsen, as City. They are both LDS Semi-- 1 of the brides parents. 7 The brides gown featured a ushers. Jill McCombs attended nary graduates. After a brief wedding trip, the ruffled bodice with a ruffled the guest book. will uake their home in couple were front Her train. and given Prenuptiial parties apron slight where Logan they will continue Malinda 'Adams, Jill fingertip veil had a crown of silk by AJ-"their studies. 7; Ellen Ann white roses. She carried a bou Dibble, McCombs, Poulsen - Schaelling Ex- Out-of-to- changing wedding vows on Dec. 12, at Kaysville were the former Miss Vikki D. Law and Mark E. Cardon. The bride is a daughter of Mr. and Mrs. Charles Law who reside at Fruit Heights. Cardon is a son of Mr. and Mrs. Jesse L. Cardon of Kaysville. A dinner followed at Benihana Restaurant in Salt Lake City. An open house is planned in their honor today at the home of the bridegrooms parents. d The couple will make their home in Kaysville. The bride is a student at Davis Vocational School. She is employed by Harmans. A graduate of Davis High School and Utah Technical College, Cardon is presently employed at Harmans. ; sister-i- n-law, : . newly-marrie- brother-in-l- i, 7"7 Choosing a Day Care Important for Parents Quality care, not convenience, is Wfeiong of Sugarplums TAMARA SCHAELUNG VIKKI D. LAW AND MARK E. CARDON she has training that furthers her day care education, Mrs. Raw-- , son said. the most important aspect in choosing a day care center, a child and family expert said. Kay Rawson, coordinator of the community vocational for the department of child and family studies at Weber State College, said, We have so many mothers that feel guilty because they have to take children to day care centers, but they can get rid of that guilt if they take time to find a center that gives high quality care." She noted that parents should be actively involved in choosing a place to leave their children and should not have a attitude. 1 :77 She said that WSC currently has a list of, 200 centers jn Davis, Weber and Box Elder counties that have trained personnel. pro-gra- She said that anyone wishing to find a quality center nearest to their home or work could call the college at snnnnrari DISCOUNT COUPON rrrrtrsr::-- : 1 T NEW YEARS GIFT HOLIDAY SPECIALS cate for Her Future. NO APPOINTMENT ; NECESSARY . j Mail.... 7 Saturday, January 7, Auatad Auditorium-Va- rrA . A 7:00 P.M. 0 ft 7:00 Browning Ctr. W.S.C. 1984-2:0- l TICKET ORDER FORM ittttiiMMiMHrHmi four Basil PImm brtn axipom for all ipadaJL ramter1 tku fee. ny SO, IMS 1011 Parents are paying someone to provide a positive learning experience and if the, child is not happy there the parents should start all over again and look for a new center. I 7? Nam Address . fs -- $tat City Phon. .Zip: I 1 CATCH ALL TIIG She noted that the day care facility should also have creative materials, toys and other items that can provide enjoyment as well as learning. SPORTS . Site said, The family day care center is no better than the pro- ; them- selves the following questions: Is she happy? Does she like children? Will she read to them or are the children bored and unhappy? Parents should also ask how the provider disciplines and if ' - well-bal- -, vider Parents should ask t Marks es 1984-2:0- 0 last tatractars Director-Bru- CkristMMJ CkMMtrapbpWmMi and Friday, January 6. Give her A Gift CertifiEnroll today - Also Service Gift Certificate for That Special Someone. with Utoh Symphony. , F. She said, , , Artistic 626-641- 1. Look at the home, she said, It should not be too clean, but orderly. 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