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Show FROM HAWAII by Jean Komaiko Almost everyone forgets a name sometime. But the less often you have to say, "Sorry, your face is familiar, but " the more apt you are to win friends and influence people. Make no mistake: there's magic in a man's name and in your ability to remember it In this little package is wrapped a man's background, his reputation, pride, and prestige. Each time you forget a man's name, you are saying to him: "You're not sufficiently interesting or important, tq. have made an impression on me." Consider how flattering it isvto have a child named for you, to be given a monogrammed gift, or to have an important personage remember who you are. Rich and poor, humble and great are equally susceptible to this flattery. Many a college, clinic, and museum came into .being because a man wanted his name remembered. James B. Duke, the tobacco scion, offered Trinity College in North Carolina endowments worth $50,000,000 to become Duke University. Name calling, in the nice sense, is important for social reasons, but it's also a business asset. The salesman or banker who takes enough interest in people to remember their names is almost guaranteed success! Matching name and face can also be valuable to you in times of crisis. If you're involved in a traffic accident, a purse snatching, or a law suit, the police or the insurance investigator may ask you to describe or identify people. If you're accustomed to listening, looking, and remembering, your memory may actually save you money and trouble. I realize better than most people how difficult the name-gacan be. My husband has twice run for public office, and in those campaigns we met hundreds, if not thousands, of people. I know from painful experience that it costs votes when- you can't greet by name the friendly citizen who rushes up and says, "Nice to see you, Komaiko! Bet you don't remember me!" Jim Farley is the .perfect example of the politician who mastered the art of remembering names. As a young man, he had the usual trouble matching names and faces. Then he began applying himself to the task. During the nominat' ing convention of 1932, he made lists of political leaders he met from various cities, and practiced summoning "up the faces which fit those names. Eventually he was able to greet 50,000 men and women by their proper names! talent, nor Fortunately, this ability is not a God-givdoes it lessen with age or depend on a man's intelligence. This skill requires an interest in people, a lively curiosity, an observing eye, and wanting to remember. If you master the following tricks, you should do well: If there's more than one person to meet, you may concentrate on the group rather than its individuals. Or a stranger may remind you of someone you dislike with the result that you block from your memory any impressions of the newcomer. 2. Ask the man to repeat his name. This interest will please the person you are meeting and will give you time to associate his name with his personality. "Am I pronouncing your name correctly?" you may ask, or "Would you please spell- - it for me?" One politician I know always asks new acquaintances for their business cards. Others find, that writing down new names after a meeting can be immensely helpful. - 3. Make associations with die name. Perhaps you can a think of an, appropriate rhyme that pigeon-holperson: "S. Jones who lives near Les Cohens." Maybe the name belongs in a slogan, or its syllables can be broken into funny yet meaningful phrases. I once had a history teacher who delighted in refashioning names. Thanks to him, none of us will forget the boy named Barton Sackett, branded forever by our pedagogue, "Start and Back it" es 4. me ) 4 you're introduced to someone, get his name right at the start. Half the time you don't forget names; you never hear them correctly in the first place. 1. When n S7f r-- i u 4 v Observe as an artist Each time you meet a new person take a mental snapshot of his face. Few people forget Einstein's sorrowful eyes, John L. Lewis' bushy brows, or the tilt of FJD.R.'s chin. These are famous faces, but almost every name carries with it unique features, easily distinguished if you're trained to see them. 'it Finally, learn to turn the other cheek. Instead of being hurt when somebody forgets your name, try to help. Mrs. Roosevelt tells about the cab driver who beamed back at her and asked if she remembered him. She confessed she didn't "Maybe you will,"she said, "if I tell you I cooked your lunch when you stopped at the Island of Bora-Bora- ." That hint recalled a whole warx time experience. It's wise to tread lightly on the "bet you don't know my name" routine. Chances are that question will embarrass both of you. When you see that the other yourself: "I'm person can't remember, Jean Komaiko and I met you while deep-se- a fishing V with the Whimmerdings." And, if your name is as difficult as mine, learn early to make associations for the other person. "Komaiko is tough," I tell people.' "You'll never get it going forward. But if you spell it backward, it's quite simple: OK I AM OK." ,"l CP I t - ! ' fly n Jp t I - en nn nn i 5. M 1 H -- JT III I $ !1 Fruit juicesV blended, to a little queen's taste. On your grocer's shelf or in his freezer. uce Plioto C7.ro clitr Covtr: H. Armstrong Robarts. Pagt 8: Wid. World. 12 ft 13: Wid World, International ?)Nawt Photos. Pagas 2 1 27: U. S. Army. U. S. Air Forct, Radio Corporation of Amarica, Charles Roedtr. fag. Family Weekly. June 29. 195$ -- 23 Now.ll Ward, Robert C. 31: land. - CW |