Salt Lake Telegram | 1938-02-21 | Page 11 | [Illegible] Professor Traces Cause of Wrecked Marriages

1 I S' S At o r d f 0 c f 1 1 11 1 I I s J. J PROFESSOR TRACES CAUSE OF WRECKED MARRIAGES r d I i b TELLS illS HIS VIEWS ON DIVORCE CAUSES fro Dr E E. E E. E Ericksen stenographer looks better 1 Its It's the Little Irksome Things That Count Writer Avers I D Divorce Dorce orce is not due to conflicts re revealed revealed revealed re- re in court but to many small differences differences differences dif dif- or acts which widen the breach over a long period of time This assertion was made by Dr E. E E. E Ericksen professor of philosophy at the University of Utah who recently published published published pub pub- a book on social ethics ethis and who is conducting a series of lectures on courtship and marriage Only after they are in their own home do husband and wife see sec one another at their worst said Dr Erick- Erick sen Little by little the husband learns habits of his wife which he did not know before One thing after another irks him until he finds that he does docs not enjoy being at home He may even find that his stenographer stenographer stenographer ste ste- ste- ste looks better to him hum Then comes a divorce suit on the grounds of desertion or cruelty which is only the result of many earlier acts Dr Ericksen attributed this lack of understanding and adjustment to improper improper im improper im- im proper functioning of the period of courtship and outlined the proper premarital premarital premarital pre pre- marital association as follows 1 Extensive relationship Many couples are poorly mated simply because because because be be- cause they did not meet other people and sought no further for a mate beyond beyond beyond be be- yond their own near 2 A period of During this time each has the opportunity to learn the strength and weakness of the other 3 Intensive acquaintanceship This is the engagement which should be a period of adjustment Couples Couple too tot often orten make their engagement a time of courtship rather than a preparation for the more serious business of marriage said Dr Ericksen This is the most desirable desirable desirable de de- time to overcome unpleasant traits because the enthusiasm of the period usually is strong enough to cause serious consideration and to prevent prevent prevent pre pre- vent a breach Launching into a discussion of modern modern modern mod mod- ern conditions which result in incompatibility Dr Ericksen e explained that present day specialization does not allow man and wife to work pIa play and md live together as in former years To uTo the business man every everything hing is business and is measured in dollar dollari and cents with little regard to per per- His wife however lives in ina in in- a world of pe persons ons and personal things x 7 and her work is caring for persons Inthe In Inthe the home the wife does not see her husband rs cs the gallant leader of the day but as a tired exacting man whereas the husband is annoyed with with his wife's desire to discuss persons The uThe remedy for this is for each to tomake tomake tomake make a conscious effort to appreciate the world of the other Dr Ericksen pointed out