| Show June ides Brides Told M Marriage Is a Lottery When Cupid Is Displaced by Cupidity rt Ii ij 5 N JEf A LOTTe fO f. f AL A O to J c Aril Am DOj U cores coes IV LOve P 1 T J I c L Lr r J e L I PA n TJ A JO OF LovE t A I O NI I T TO O Y YUP UP IN People Who Wed for What They Can Get and Not for What They Can Give Slur Supreme Importance of I VI Wedlock edlock to Individual and State First Aid to I Cupid Says Love and Marriage Too Often r Are Treated as Jokes Happy Marriage Greatest Thing in the World I i Special to The Telegram By MARGUERITE MOOERS MARSHALL NEW V V E YORK June In In all aU seriousness is marriage a JI lottery lotten rv I That is the question which Dr DI A. A Edwin asked aked and answered for tor- the June Juno brides last evening at the West Vest End Presbyterian church Amsterdam am avenue and One Hundred and Fifth street And It is the question which we discussed together after the service Just because so soman man many brides and bridegrooms everywhere are arc somewhat troubled about the answer r. r Dr is unusually well fitted tilted to s set Sll t at rest feAt their dOUbts For Fort Forten t ten n years he has been at tit the head ha of one JIlt of or the largest Presbyterian churches In Manhattan and during that time lime he has haR won v for or himself the title of t aid to Cupid HP UP has officiated at a record number of or marrIa marriages cM Continued 1 on page 2 I r I NA 4 fy INz IL N. N Jl l J V I MARRIAGE 15 A LOTT LOTTY nY SOR OR MAfRY I TO 0 GeT I I JUNE BRIDES Continued from page 2 and amI ho he Is particularly particular Interested in in providing a social life lite for tor forthe the tho young oun people In the parish First Aid to Cupid Has Annual Annual An An- nual Sermon to June Juno Brides Also he has made mido a n careful study of oC the thor tiler and practice of oC morl modern rn marriage marria and every June JUlie he preaches a 1 special sermon selmon for Cor brides He his Is convinced con that lint the tendency nf of to today today to- to day is to take marriage with Insufficient Insufficient seriousness to slur over Its su supreme an- an 11 preme importance to the individual and to the state Moreover Ion he thinks that Cupl Cupidity too often displaces Cupid in his rightful role of match match- maker malter I Is marriage n a lottery lotter I asked him For man many of oC us It U Is he he- replied gravely ra Marriage l iso Ise a lottery lotte for ur ever every person who goes oes Into Inlo il it with the Idea of oC getting gelling something out of ot it It of or deriving some material advantage The ma man n or woman who marries for or physical social or financial considerations consid consid- simply buys bus a ticket In the matrimonial lotter lottery and as as with any similar device draws device draws a blank In nine cases out of oC tenI tenI ten I I 1 preached tonight ht continued Dr Kel Keigwin of the woman who Christ himself said had never been married thou though h she hc had had five husbands Tho TIle period you ou mil may laity re- re memI rr was in ninny respects comparable com coin parable to our own a n. time of oC luxurious luxurious lux lox urious living and of ot cas easy divorce Weare Wo We 0 are arc not nol told how the woman carne came to to marry her five husbands but bill we wo mo may easily surmise that sIlo sho cho chose e each I I man for Cor some ome transitory material gain ain not hot for any deep and abiding affection And wo have the word of oC the Savior himself J that such marriage mar mar- l' l Is no marriage marrine that thai the lie worn woman in II had d no real nal husband You feel tell that this type lype of or marriage is nol not uncommon In America today to- to day dayT T I asked l. l There is a general Impression you ou know that all our marriages are for or love hove The They are aro not nol emphatically de declared do- do clarel Dr Jel ln I Ion only wish they were lie hl added with wilh a a. sl sigh h The marriage c based on some other motive than love loe Is but bul another manifestation man man- of oC the period of materialIsm material material- ism tam through which we wo have b hen cn pa passing of or our mad rush for tor money r d pleasure reo Too Many Marriages s for Material Gain The modem meder n a American girl sirl Irl of oCt often ton en marries for money mont or 01 social position And nd this type tle of oC girl is not nol confined to lo any anyone one class cluss In society The daughter dau of oC hard hart working working- parents wants a hu husband who can give her better clothes than she's c ever cr r b been able to purchase for tor herself herselt Tho of oC the professional man is daughter lau young oung fellow who has Ims hasan hasan crazy to got get a n an automobile The very cry rich girl buys huys herself a foreign Core prince The American man nian Is not nol above bar bargaining for tor other r ad than mono mone money He lie not infrequently starts out to select a wife who will he be an ornamental adjunct to him like a afine afine afine fine horse or 01 a handsome dog He lie decides g to 0 piC pick a girl who is pretty t j capable i r ni- ni nii hI i of nf attracting atten- atten t j capable i r ni- ni nii hI i of nf attracting atten- atten s ic p whose social position Is tion and somewhat superior to his own And yet the one right and splendid reason for is love The Tho one which each puch prospective bride UnIt and should n ask aNk k Is Is- IsDo Do I really love hoVe OVo this man or this woman with a love e that thal is neither fanc fancy nor Infatuation but hut deep calling unto deep deep The Person who once experiences experiences this love lo will ve no difficulty culty in recognizing it and nd need ell have no fear tear that it will not last The Thc marrale based on it is no lotter lottery for forman I man or woman But nut you rou and I have seen n mariage marriages mar mar- marI I which started with this wonderful won von love lo on one Olic side Q al at t least leat I objected antI and yet yel the result set seemed to be he unhappiness Tho The wife 1 ran m mawn away awn say with another man or the tho husband hus hus- band ball became a jL drunkard Does oven even 10 love tal take marrale e ou out t of oC the lie lottery ottery class Thero are certain human bunion ml misfortunes tor- tor tunes which may marty fall upon any huI human hu hu- man being the clergyman Yet 1 dont don't believe e that nn any suffer suffer- I Ire or cruelty cruelly can enn kill real 1 love p. the Inner life eta of-a marriage I based baseil ell on such 1 I f Vt is not nol a n J. J Jo li tery a n. taking of C chances whatever m may maybe be lc the outward fortunes of the union Oh On I 1 tell lell you ou there never nc was hut bul oni on real ral rale description e of love exclaimed cx ex claimed cl Dr J eIGIn eIG In his gray rny eyes jr g and he ho began to lo quote the tho h beautiful Biblical passage e beginning Love Lon th lor lorg and is ig kind Meanwhile I thought of ot two lines from Crom a no sonnet bonnet of oC Shakespeare's Love t is not Dot ot lo lohl lo t. lo hl Which h alters when It il alteration finds Parents ParentI are largely arsel to lo blame for forthe forthe the foci fact that is a lottery I to lo s ad so man many o of ot our young youn people Dr I Kel Tin 1 Its It's bad enough that thai our plays our novels our i popular lar lat Fons our oar comic artists should hould a joke of ot marriage But Bul to lo Joke i about aboul it il in the Iho home homo is Infinitely worse How often does doe one ono hear parI parents par par- I cots sa say t to lotho the daughter or orI orthe I thin the manly young son oon lust Just you ou make I Ia a great breaL catch and well we'll all die rich I I a remarK rom t the tue father or orthe orthe the mother molher Is disgusting whether It il ilbe be uttered seriously or or In Jest Ono One Case of Waking Up Just in Time Only last Y year I heard a n girl In my church laughing and und Joking about aboul her hel marriage the time week before her wedding day I simply said to her But nut dont don't t you ou love this man II It sel her thinking she he broke off oct the engagement she is free Cree loday today and and devoutly thankful thank Cui that she did not nol m marry mirry ury when love was absent Its easy as to o see ee how deep deeply ma- ma has hail affected marriage when one reads the lie reports of oC the Ule prosecuting prosecuting prose prose- attorney for Cor marriage or di divorce divorce dl- dl vorce orce proctor as aM they call him out in Kansas City where one marriage out of oC every three used to end in di di- di vorce Tim Murphy 1 a newspaper newspaperman man started the campaign which re resulted resulted re- re suIted in the lie appointment of oC a young roun lawer W. W W W. Wright rl ht as proctor In Inthe Inthe the divorce court Ho He has cut cul down the divorce rate 40 per pel cent and he has found that in man maim many cases a quarrel r rd rel rl about clothes or monc money or pleas pleas- ure nrc has estranged cd husband and wIfe One woman came Into inlo court with n mi terrible tale lile of ot cruelty which proved untrue The real ral difficulty was that sho wanted to lo spend on n cloth clothes s more monc money than her hem husband husland earned by hard labor She was convinced convinced convinced con con- vinced o ot her toll folly and asked her lien husbands husband's forgiveness but bul unfortunate nate her c case se Is not nol an no Isolated one Yet Yel so Ion long as ns persons marry for what thc they can call J get gel l lJ of or for fori or i who het I they can cami give marriage mal will re remain remain remain re- re main a lotter lottery The Time trouble is lint nobody tells young mon men and women these thin thurs things concluded Dr Al At home and ami aboard love and marriage arc are treated as Jokes and the tho church It Itself itself It- It self Is too often oHen silent I cannot help feeling that thai these questions deserve deser thorough and reverent consideration for I believe bellevo that a happy marriage is the tho greatest thing In time the world I And nU KO so do I I. 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